How do I parent my active son?

I think the best thing to do is to have fun with all 3 of them at the same time. Get them involved with whatever you're doing, or whatever your son wants to do. If they want to run up and down, then lets all run up and down. When you're all done running, and you decide that its time to cook, get them all to help out, even your toddler can do something. In my experience, my elder son is hyper or perhaps naughty when he wants attention. Most often he is happy just helping out with whatever we are doing. The no-no's and finger wagging is not nescessary unless they are endangering themselves or others. When I washed my car the other day, my boy was just too happy to help out. He sprayed the car with his water pistol and me with the hose. When I was wiping the car, he too insisted that he wanted to wipe the car. When we change the baby's diaper, he helps out too. He just wants to be involved with everything. There is one other thing that maybe causing the meltdowns, he may be lacking sleep. Whenever my son if grouchy and difficult, it's because he hasn't had enough sleep. You know, the crying baby will wake up the entire house from it's slumber scenario! So try getting him to bed an hour earlier. About watching the TV, when there is a good show/cartoon - let them all watch it sitting together. Ask your big boy to explain the whole show to your younger kids, they learn very fst this way. Good luck again and just relax, have fun with them. They will adore you.

My son is 3 and has Autism, and is very hyper active. I've been visiting with the Behavioral Support person from his school over the last few months, just because I need advice- not because his school has officially needed to refer her to me. She has shown me some ways to keep in on track when it comes to sitting at the dinner table (which he has a hard time with)- this includes using a timer, and trying to keep him sitting for longer periods of time, moving up gradually. She has suggested ways of getting him to focus on tasks he needs to perform for the day, like getting ready for school- like making "social story" books, which include a picture of him performing each major step, like putting on clothes, eating breakfast, getting into car, etc. His teachers also suggest days when they haven't done their phsyical education, to let him run around outside, which he loves doing anyway. he loves being on the swing, etc. As for discipline, we are working on time outs in the "calming area". Where he can be in a calming place, for 5 minutes or wherever, to calm his body when he is having a meltdown. It does help. (by the way, My son (and my daughter) do not play video games (just the occasional Noggin, Disney games on the computer), and mostly just watch videos on TV. we don't have a very stuctured environment, either. LOL)

I suggest you bring your son to the psychiarist and prescribe for him "RISPERDAL". This medication will help to calm him down.

The first thing I would do is probably the last thing you want to hear. In my experience it helps drastically when you turn off the television. and put away all of the video games. I know it means you are going to need to spend some time planning activities but in the long run things will be better.

Spare the rod and spoil the child, thats what I always say. Seriously despite the recent softening in our attitudes towards child rearing, I really believe that a good spankng is quite effective at correcting noxious behaviour. My father spanked me, my mother spanked me, my priest spanked me, My older brother spanked me, their parents spanked them, and all of us are fine, church going productive members of our communities.

Here's some advice coming from a mother of a 6 year old and I am also a psychologist. Have you ever considered the fact that your son might have ADHD. A lot of parents disagree with this topic, but it is a legitimate problem that might need to be addressed. I would start with behavior modification at home. How old are the other children? He may be craving attention from the parents. How helpful is the father in the situation? You son may notice that the only time he gets attention is when he misbehaves or acts out, especially since there are 2 other children who are getting attention as well. If all else fails, he may have to be put on medications-the non addictive ones of course. However, he may just be a very active little boy...and he'll eventually outgrow the hyperactivity.

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Active sons are always trouble some ! as I am one !

sorry m not right person to tell dat

anychild needs some good spanking...and explain it afterwards...dont be afraid to tell your child whenever he/she is wrong..this will make sure..that he/she will remember what you just said.

Hyper activity suggests abundant energy which is good and signs of a healthy child, for which u should be grateful to god and his small mercies,You need to channel his energies in the right direction,by taking him to play in the park,u on the other hand seem to be stressed out having 3 kids to look after and cope with your other responsibilities,maybe u have approached the wrong profressionals for help,U need to see a competent personal counsellor not only for your son but to help u cope up. All the best,Merry Christmas.

wait for some time.. and after that he will recover hoimself

Oh dear, why do u worry. Try to look at it with a different sense. Try to enjoy along with him, Imagine u are his little sister. Follow his instructions. Listen to what ever he says and don’t try to stop his fun, u will really enjoy his company. U know when I am with kids I forget that I am an adult. I enjoy as much as they do. Just join him and have fun. :)

your really very pacient mother because even my sister is in the same condition with two boybabys most mistives in the world. nice to hear you take care of three kids.

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As far as you can get him through talking then do not spank him often for it creat him to be more bitter.

kids ususlly contains more energies and enthusiasm than adults. but he is beyond tht.... why don u just get him involved in some good sport of adverture activity. tht way u can get his hyperactivity used for some thing productive

I would say get as much community support as you can. I am dealing with a 12 yr old myself who is ADHD and ODCD , and bouts of autism... We are getting help and counselling for him...

My son is now 7 and he was the same way. He still is the same way, just learned how to deal with it more effectivly. The first thing I was told is when he acts up 'ground him'. Start out at 20 or 30 minutes of him being grounded. With me this seemed to work more effectivly than time-outs. You can always raise the time limit if he does not cooperate. Next, take time for yourself! No matter what! You will be a better parent if you have some quiet time. My son needed 100% of my attention or he was a little devil. Have a structured 'quiet time' for the whole family every day, or a few times a week. Start with 15 minutes and work your way up. My son needed to learn to play by himself. Be by himself without the TV or other people entertaining him. I know, it totally sucks at first but the more you keep things consistant the better he will adjust. Hang in there!!!