How can he be a father?

My ex-husband was like this, so I took him to court and took custody back. Maybe you should do the same.

This is sad for you, but it's typical of many (in not most) men. Most of them wouldn't have a clue what size clothing they themselves wear let alone their kids. I am not saying htis to stand up for him, it is merely a statement of fact. I hope you can resolve your situation and get your daughrt back and have a wonderful life.

err.. ok.. deep inside he loves you..

Sounds to me like he is just not really paying attention to his child. Just because he has her, doesn't mean that all his time and attention is with her as well. Anyway, I see that you are doing well and trying to get your daughter back. I wish you much luck and hopefully things will work out.

Who knows! There has to be some reason why he has custody and not you, without knowing what happened no one could really tell you. Just because he doesn't know clothes size doesn't mean anything really, and neither does never having time to take her to concerts. If he never has any time for her at all, then that would be something. If he's completely ignoring her and treating her badly then he's just a bad father. It would also depend on how long ago this happened too. I pride myself on being a good father, mind you I am still with the mother of my child so I really don't have this issue. It might be a good idea to help him out and advise him of his short-comings. Again, I don't know the circumstances as to why you are not with him but it's always good to get along with your child's father, if only for the benefit of the child.