the way a husband thinks

Not a joke. Definately not a joke.

Please tell me you're joking...she has a job! With no pay and unlimited overtime! I feel for you, though hon. My ex was the same way...wouldn't bring out the trash or bring in the groceries...and no help anywhere. Good luck!

i feel sorry to you all mommys.heheheh one day i would be a husband too. and im willing to help my future wife in household chores...believe it? lol

my guy feels the same way but he doesn't work a full time job right now so it is also because he was spoiled by his parents and he thinks he can make me feel like the bad guy cause i want help around the house. so i fully understand what you are going thru so does any one have any tips or what?

Maybe she did discuss it before they got married. I know me and my husband did. He agreed that raising a family and taking care of a house is the responsibility of both people. He said that even if I stayed home with our future kids he would still help out around the house because he thought that was the right thing to do. Fast forward 7 years later and now he says he doesn't recall ever having that conversation and refuses to help around the house unless I cry. He works 3 days a week (2 16 hour days and one 8 hour day). The other 4 days he sits on his butt, watches TV and plays video games. He makes a huge mess for me to clean up. He doesn't do things with the kids except to yell at them to leave him alone. He won't let them in the living room to watch TV at all (we only have 1 TV). He doesn't clean at all. So for 4 days he does nothing and I am still busting my butt. When is it my day off? I guess I don't deserve one since I don't get paid for my job. Moms have the hardest job ever. They do everything for everyone and don't get paid, don't get days off, don't get holidays and don't get sick days. My husband gets really sick and he takes a couple days off and whines. I get sick and I still have to cook and clean and take care of the kids. It is never ending and tiring and frustrating.

Yeah, men are so capable of selective memory, I am with you there. Sometimes it is just better to do it yourself. You must carve out time for you though. Balance your life even if you have to bully your way to do it. Do you have family that could help you? Sometimes they could come and entertain the kids while you go for a walk or bubble bath or whatever. My mom was ever so helpful with my first kid til I got pretty good at doing things. I sure hope you find balance. We need to be kind to ourselves.

I agree with you. Some men just do not know how hard it is to be home all day. Women do core from morning until night and it seam like never ending. I feel the same especially when your in-law at home. He just expects you to do all work and serve his parents as well. Well I’m not at home mom, I’m working but we get home together and I’ll make sure he will help me to do the dishes after dinner and look after my baby will I get some rest after that. Sometime he will put her to sleep and if she refuse to sleep after 10pm he will bring her to me (my turn to attend to her). My advice to you is to sit with him and let him know what you expect from him and tell him how you feel about doing all core without any help. If this not working maybe you should take a long brake and leave him with the kids and see how he manages them. I bet he will look for you after 2 days.

I dont agree with you. I am sorry to say this. You, your husband and your kids are your family. You are doing everything for the family. Like you feed your kids, you feed your husband also. Treat him as an important person as you are a stay at home MOM. You are not earning the bread. he is getting everything home. I dont want to talk like a sympathetic person. You are not in a condition to be shown sympathy. Your condition is very good. He is not asking you to go out and earn. Like you get the supper on to the table for everybody, you get him also his supper. After working a long day with all the tensions at work, you should not expect him to do house hold chores. I will tell you... Help should come voluntarily. That is why it is called help and not duty or responsibility. YOu do all you can and after some days, he will realise that he can help you in somethings at home when he is not soo tired. Try to stand in his shoes and imagine a day of work outside. Getting up early when you want to have one more hour of sleep, driving all the way down there, doing all the work and eating some junk for lunch and then driving all the way down and taking care of the insurances and bills and what not stuff... A person would like to relax for a minute after reaching home. He can switch on TV or take a shower and sit for a while. He is supposed to sleep after dinner coz he has to get up and go to work tomorrow. If you want you can sleep for couple of hours in the day time. His job life is not like that. All i tell you is... dont ruin the relationship by demanding. Increase the intensity of love in your relationship by giving everything the other person needs. Even if this is your husband who posted this, i will advise him the same. I would also request him to relax for a while and see if he can spend some time to help you in your daily chores. That is what builds the relationship. Argument on who should do what will lead to disrupted family life and divorce. Hope you will take this in a positive way.

lol thank you .. I think SAHM who complain about these subjects would complain about any line of work they are in.. if he is working.. then he is working.. and needs to rest..obviously he is doing enough to be able to give you the oportunity to stay at home.. yeah not scott free but you still dont always have to get dressed, and can watch TV an nap when the kids are napping..

Your suggestion sound so funny,you just think you can do a mans job ENH..HA HA HA.Look it is wisdom to take good care of your home or else that man will soon find comfort somewhere else.

everything depends upon individuals mentallity ,that is the reason why many people remains unmarried, this kind of people can never understand the love ,

My partner is the same, he really does make an effort to look after us and my home. I'm heavily pregnant at the moment so he has taken on pretty much everything as well as working. He wasn't always like this but not because he expected me to do everything, it was more that he didnt really realise how much work needs to be put into taking care of small children and preparing meals as well as cleaning up and all the other things that come up in a day. We had some chats about sharing the work and he took everything I said on board and he was able to point out things that I neglected to do also and we both compromised to help each other out. If we didn't talk about it, we could have easily ended up getting bitter about the small things so I do think it is a good idea for you to talk to your partner about how you are feeling.