my sister's boyfriend has a sister that is my girlfriend, can we all mary?
By floppo234
@floppo234 (80)
Romania
December 20, 2006 8:39pm CST
I have an interesting story to tell.I search for an answer in this matter.I am 24 years old and my sister has 18,.2 years and 4 months ago she met a boy, in the country.I want to say that we are living in a town wth our parents.So in the holiday she met this boy that she thinks is the man of her dreams.After one month i became known to him and i liked him, he seemed he is a very nice guy and he was very sweet.He said then he has a sister,his age was 17 and her sister was 14.We went to town togehter to have fun , in the club, at restaurants.In one night when we got out i said that he could bring his sister too,to have fun togheter, so he did that in the folowing days.She was beautiful like her brother and i falled in love at first site, she did too.now , after 2 years and 4 months, we are still toghether, so we think of oficialising our relationships.But their parents are totally against that step,they say is not good, because we are (like they say):"brothers with brothers" and there would be a religious sin.Our religion is orthodox.What do you think?
6 responses
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
21 Dec 06
Since you are not blood related to the girl you want to marry and your sister is not blood related to the boy she wants to marry, I don't see why this would be an issue. You are not "brother and sister" so this wouldn't be incest. I don't know why your family would have a problem with this.
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@sac_d2000 (155)
• Finland
21 Dec 06
you are absolutely correct and that is no sin.
Only the girl if is not mature enough to make decision on her own will have some legal problems but not religous.
@floppo234 (80)
• Romania
22 Dec 06
The thing is i heard about a few cases like mine, and finally the four brothers married.and there was no problem, then why is there a problem in my case?I think is just the old thinking of 2 old people.My girlfriend said that there isn't a man like me in all the world, so they should agree with our relationship, because it could be a lot worse.she is safe with me, than with others who , maybe they would take advantage of her, cause she's beatiful.
@floppo234 (80)
• Romania
22 Dec 06
And about legal matters, the parents can't acuse me because she would defend me.
@aryangentleman (1122)
• India
21 Dec 06
Frankly I dont find any reason why you people cant get married as certainly you are not blood relative and to my mind this dosent come under Incest.But here I have a question regarding her age? She seem to be quit young and it would be better to invest some more time in this relationship of your's and then decide.
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@aryangentleman (1122)
• India
22 Dec 06
That's a comfort to know that you are waiting for 2 more years and I am sure you people wont regret that wait as that will give ample time to you two to make your's relationship stronger and fighting out the opposition. Oh yes I would very much like to hear you out as it realy gives an input in understanding human relationship better.
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@floppo234 (80)
• Romania
21 Dec 06
yes, iknow she is too young, but we will wait until she fineshes highscool, she has 2 years until then, she said she will wait, she is the most understanding girl, she thinks like a girl of my age, she matured very early.We love each other too much too much.The age difference was also a problem for her parents.If u are interested in details i can give them, i wanted to write aa book about my story, because it is long and complex.
@floppo234 (80)
• Romania
21 Dec 06
for you to better see the problem , in my avatar now is me and my girlfriend,do you see the love?
@floppo234 (80)
• Romania
22 Dec 06
wait a minute, there is another big problem/question.How do you think we should make the weddings, the same day? or separately, or make just one for both couples.Oh, that doesn't sound good what you said about bad luck...
@maddinair (281)
• India
22 Dec 06
there is nothing wrong and the main thing is that u both love each other.. when thats there let ur sis do what she wants and u do what u want thats it...enjoy man
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@alisilence03 (85)
• Romania
10 Mar 07
what are you waiting for??go to a priest and ask him what concerns you...he knows better than anyone.he has experience and can tell you what to do in this case.i believe you may to confess before and after that you can marry.i'm not so sure but i think theres no blood bonde.or to be sure try to marry all at pnce.in this mode you'll not became brother/sister in law.i hope you will find a solution for this problem and be happy.good luck!
