Is it better to love with someone before you get married?Or not?

I think either way there will always be surprises,I say make sure you really know the person inside and out before saying I do,even years later little secrets can sneak up.always follow your heart and first instincts

ya dude im totally agree with u!!when we love someone we overlook their bad habbits but when we have to live with them then these bad habbits become untoleranble and ultimately lead to divorce so it's betterto spend sometime with them befor ewe tie knot with them

Even though statistics show that people who live together before marriage have a higher divorce rate, I believe it is good to find out if you can live with each other 24/7, find out their bad habits and find out if they are a morning person!

Advice and info from a person who knows: My fiance and I have been dating for almost 2 years and have been living together for a year and a half. We are getting married in the summer. Living together before getting married is the best thing you can do. This way, if it doesn't work out well, you don't have to get married. Some couples who live together actually find that they have no need to get married even when they live together. I have had many relationships over the years, most of which I've never lived with the person. Marriage never became a topic for those I never lived with. Live with the person that way you get to know them.

I think living with the person is a great way to get to know them and their habits. It also helps you figure out if you guys, as a couple, are willing to grow, change, and work together as partners.

it definitely is better. that is the reason why you go through courtship, so youll get to know each other better. you will then nurture that connection and wait till it blossoms to something really special- love.

Love is over-rated. When 2 ppl get together, and marry, they think it is forever. They need to realize that unless they are willing to grow and change with eachother, their marriage is doomed to failure. Communication, without accusation is the key. Keep an open mind and try to talk to eachother.

Exactly. I'm living with my boyfriend now...it gives you a chance to see the real them, just like you said. I don't find anything wrong with it at all!

You also need to take into consideration that people can live together for years and suddenly get married and the relationship can go sour. Some people feel that living together allows them more freedom and some people just fight more after marriage. It all depends basically on how committed you are to the relationship and how committed you are to each other. You might think that I'm against marriage by this post. I assure you I'm not and in fact I'd marry a person before I'd just live with them. But I understand that people have different views on that. You just need to talk to the person you are with and make sure that you are both on the same page.

I believe you need to know someone and love them before marrying them but you know people can change after you marry them. Marrage is only a piece of paper anyways

I think its better to live together first because you get to know someone better when living with them. If you live together for a while first then you'll know most (not all) of their bad traits and can make a better decision on marrying them. I know its not traditional but traditional didn't use to lead to the high divorce rate in todays society either.

it depends on u r thinking. but its good if u live after marriage with u r partner.but u can know about her before marriage that how she works, what she likes, n what she hates etc than u can choose her for u r life if she is up to the mark than u should marry with her if nt than choose n other one which matches u r thinking.this is my view lets c others.bye. Regars Memon.

yes of course it is

I have to laugh at this. My husband and I knew each other 6 years before we got married but never lived together. When we finally did move in after the wedding it was- different. We were NOT used to dealing with each other on a daily basis and it was a challenge. We still have issues sometimes 7 years later, but for the most part it's all good.

The idea of living together to make sure you really like the person may sound intriguing, but its really not. If you love someone enough to feel you desire to live with them and have all the benefits of marriage....get married and quit playing mind games with the person you love. Most women desire security and assurance that her man loves her enough to commit and make things work. To me its selfish to just live together with marriage benefits, without the key of a real relationship of marriage...commitment. You never really have that trust from a commitment to build on. There's always the question in your mind...will they just leave and give up.

this is a difficult question if it really helps in redcuing the number of family splits then it is ok. I fee this will acutally become a method of time pass with the young generation and might not prove fruitful

I think you should definatly live with the person first. That way you know exactly what you would be getting into with marriage. Things could be very well, but when you move in together, you see everything about the other person, not just when you are together.

I would live with somebody before I got married so I would make sure we wanted to really be together and would not get tired of each otehr.

I always thought that living with someone was a privelage that came with marriage, and part of me still believes that. Right now I am living with my fiance. It is a money issue - he is home from California for only 3 months and it doesn't make sense for him to get his own place for such a short amount of time. So far it is working out well. Everyone is different, you need to do what you think is right for you. But you do learn a LOT about a person when you live with them.

Knowing a person before marriage is of utmost importance because it will help you learn about the person's likes, dislikes, behavioural patterns etc . Once this is done you are in a better position to judge whether you would want to proceed or cut it off. Else you end up marrying a stranger.