Children
By kmdooley
@kmdooley (12)
United States
December 21, 2006 2:44pm CST
How do I get my husband to want another baby?? We already have two children, a four year old and a 2 year old. I might like to have another one only I'm not sure he's ready. Should I pressure him to have another one or should I respect his wishes and stop talking about it??
2 responses
@imadriscoll (2228)
• United States
1 Jan 07
I think that pressuring your husband to have children is not the way to go either. I noticed that you said that you "might like to have another one" which sounds to me like you're not even sure if you'd like to have another child.
Adding a third child is really hard ... you become out numbered when the third child comes.
I think that you need to have open dialouge with your husband about why he doesn't want to have any more children. Listen to him and allow him to express his feelings. Take time to consider his side. Express your needs to him also. Try not to make decisions based on emotions.
Finally, I think that you will get a lot further by respecting him rather then pressuring him. No one wants to feel like they have been forced to make a decision.
Good luck!
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
21 Dec 06
I would not pressure him, that is not the answer. He will just get so mad he won't ever discuss it with you again - even if he decides to have another kid. I would stop talking about it and let some time go by. Having two young kids is tough and having three will make it mcuh harder. I am sure he has his reasons for not wanting another child, and you should honor those. How would you feel if the situation was reversed and he was pressuring you for the third child, but you were not ready?