Do you trust men's love?
By brujj1
@brujj1 (228)
Canada
December 21, 2006 5:36pm CST
I don't. I don't trust men when they say they love me or that when they say they loved no one else but me. When it comes to men, I have never met a men that always loved only one woman. Have you ever met any man like that? Or do you think you are a man like that? I think most men think they become more men if they love many women or if they have many women in their lives. I think men like that are not men at all!
What do you think?
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114 responses
@kungfustue (319)
• Australia
22 Dec 06
i dont trust females not even my mum my sicologist thinks thats what started it
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@sheraldea (263)
• Philippines
22 Dec 06
You loved just one girl in your life? What happen if you found another girl. You can't forget your old love but does this mean you still love her even if you are with someone already? How can you love another when you are still in love?
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@calvin222 (1606)
• India
22 Dec 06
forget men, no love can be trusted.
love is trasient.
all love fades away after a time.
the only thing which keeps a relationship going after that is mutual affection and respect for each other. and in bad relationships.. pity.
@trialrun01 (644)
• India
22 Dec 06
Men can be trusted but you need to put them to lot many tests before you are sure about it.....Study and analyze each and every action they do and you will automatically come to know...whats the truth
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@susana25 (341)
• Philippines
22 Dec 06
Yah I trust my bf,It's worth it,We trust each other vice versa,we love and respect each other. You will know if he really loves you,the way he act and show you how sincere he is. I met a men like your's but when the guy met a woman to love,They are change a lot and They never hurt the one they love and taking for granted. As much as possible they give all their best for their love one. I hope you can find a right guy for you and good luck.
Merry xmas..
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@seawave18 (7)
• Philippines
22 Dec 06
hello bruji, i understand what you have felt, but i guess not all men are like that. i've a met men who is very trustworthy. actually he is my ex-boyfriend, but do you know what? untill now he still my friend and i almost tell him every feelings i have. it's either nonesense or very serious and complicated problems. and he listens and give me his point of view. and if i have problems he lifts me up.. so i guess, just don't close your perspective that all men are like that. and i'm sure that if you take that thought about them you will find that men who will be worthy of your trust..
God Bless!
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@brujj1 (228)
• Canada
22 Dec 06
I am not really hurt by men. I just would like to be loved by a men as I love him. I mean, when I marry a man, I see him as a part of me. Like he is so close and so needed, and so necessary in my life. I could change a lot of things for a men. But I never really see that men see women as a part of themselves. Men want to see themselves as different, better or dominant. If so, why should a woman be with a man? In that case, what does a woman get from a man. I think that's why so many women are after men's money, because they know he can't give love, so at least they should give money.
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@theaterjunkie (342)
• United States
22 Dec 06
it depends on the guy. I've been through so much crap in my old relationships...my current boyfriend got very upset several days ago bcause he doesn't believe that I trust him. That was a wake up call for me. I definitely trust a guy's word. I am the only one in my boyfriend's life, and I am so pleased with that!
@brujj1 (228)
• Canada
22 Dec 06
I think when a man is asked about commitment, such as marriage, if their answer is positive then yes, i would see in him some place to trust, but if he does not want to commit, there is no place for trust. It is an open invitaion not to trust that kind of guy. I think women try to please their men by being extremely nice to them and men take advantage of this. They think since she is so nice all the time, she would not mind this or that. And this goes on and on.
@brujj1 (228)
• Canada
23 Dec 06
well my concern is not to agree with anybody. My concern is what is going on with men in this world. My concern to to understand men and so that I know when I have a relationship what I am dealing with. Because as far as I see no men could love me as much as I loved them. The fact that they did not cheat on me or that they did not leave me, is besides the point. So what! So what if they did not cheat! It is good for them that they did not. That does not show me much. I didn't cheat on them either, does that mean I loved them? People are NOT supposed to cheat anyway. Wheather they love their partner or not.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
22 Dec 06
No I don't either, men and woman think so differently and I think that love to them is not the same as it is to woman, someone once told me some years ago only marry a man if he loves you more than you love him. Could be good advice.
@aryangentleman (1122)
• India
22 Dec 06
I know this discussion is for women to respond but please excuse me for participating in this discussion.You dont trust Men when they say I love you to you that's fine can't much blame you for that as usually Men do say I Love You in a very casual way BUT you just cant label all Men into that. I have seen, met and daily interact with those men who are a one woman man and respect the word LOVE. What I am little itchy about you is that in order to rest your judgment regarding some one saying I LOVE YOU to you, you completely adopted a self denial mode in yours life and this is one thing which never going to help you, as Trust is a basic thing in any kind of relationship and one who cant Trust a man certainly cant be trusted by anyone and unless you are a lesbian I dont think you are going to Trust any woman too in yours life.
@aryangentleman (1122)
• India
22 Dec 06
Yes men do realy are a worried lot regarding their spouses when they jump the fences and have relationship with other woman. You see such men want to have both the world one the married life and another their secret affair and they believe that they will be never got cought and always get away withthe faith their wives put on them.
@brujj1 (228)
• Canada
22 Dec 06
hey, this discussion is not for women only. I would rather hear men talking here actually. I understand the women's point of view easily but when it comes to men, yes I have doubts. I am glad that some men are good in their relationships. Do men ever think that going to another woman will hurt their spouse? How can they ever justify that thought in their minds?
@kool78 (490)
• India
22 Dec 06
Even women are not that innocent.
If u realy love some1 u will never cheat them.
SORRY to get personal but what can we do if no1 thought u capable to be loved.
If u go around saying bad about every men we are not going to take it.
If some 1 cheated u say that.
Do not go judging around other men.
And with this attitude u will never meet a man u will only love u.
@freecreative2 (46)
• United States
22 Dec 06
I think real men really do love and very deeply. My dad loved only my mom right up to his last breath. If you don't learn to trust someone, you will be very lonely in life. Take some time to just breathe.
@brujj1 (228)
• Canada
22 Dec 06
Oh, I am sure of myself. I am jut not sure of men's love. I have not seen a men who loved only one woman. I think men love and then lose love and then love again. Sometimes, they don't even love women they marry and they stick with her. Sometimes they leave women because they don't love them. Sometimes they love women and women leave them and they can go on and love someone else. Is that really love?
@freecreative2 (46)
• United States
24 Dec 06
I believe that some men are afraid of their own feelings and are also afraid to let people know that they have weak moments.
@The_Sexy_Kid (122)
• India
22 Dec 06
As wise people said, "All fingers are not equal". There might be some people who are absolutely not trustworthy but all aren't the same. A men can be right as well just like a women, who can either be good or evil. Nice and bad people are always there and you can't judge a person on his/her race,religion or sexuality. I guess, one should look at the personality, thinking and behavior of a person rather then his/her gender.
@hackedmind (271)
• India
22 Dec 06
same comment is for women ,i have seen many woman still at an early age of my life.........most of the woman just love money and their ornaments......................rather say 90% of them ...........so man has to earn money for them to please ..................i think they r being used by them so why should one give such attention.........
@speakeasy (4171)
• United States
22 Dec 06
My husband. We've been married 27 years now and he still says he loves me. I also know he has never cheated on me (when he drinks, he will tell me about the ladies before he met me but has never said anything about any since, plus he doesn't go out and "hang" with the guys so he isn't getting into trouble that way).
But there are some real losers out there, so you do have to be careful.
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@brujj1 (228)
• Canada
22 Dec 06
I think if a man does not spend so much time with his friends outside, then yes, he is actually trustable. I mean, if he sticks with his wife and children and he is completely invloved with them no matter what, then yes, I think he is trustable. Otherwise, no.
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
22 Dec 06
I do know men who always loved only woman. Some of these men are my friends, my friends' husbands, and my family members. Not all men are liars.
@boeyong (256)
• Malaysia
22 Dec 06
As people say, the sword cuts both ways. If you don't trust men, don't expect men to trust you. Trust is mutual. If your attitude towards men is bad, what is there to expect of men's attitude towards you? Everyone is imperfect and make mistakes. Are you saying, it is alright for you to be forgiven for your mistakes and not alright for others to do things to you? If you don't trust anyone, you can't even trust yourself, then. What makes you think your "love" is better than a man's "love"?
@brujj1 (228)
• Canada
22 Dec 06
yes, definately. My love is a lot more important than a man's love because as I am the WOMAN in the relationship, a man has to do everything to please me. After all, I am the one who accepts him so close to me in bed, and I bear the children and the pain and the stress and everything that goes with having children. Of course i expect my men to work hard as a pleaser and yes my love is dearer than his. For that reason, a man has to work much harder in a relationship.
I don't see this mentality anywhere in the world. I have never seen a man who trully loves his wife.
All I see is bunch of men who work hard to earn money and then expect everything else from their women. That's trully bullshit to me. These are the so called "best men" in today's world culture which is not even worth my time talking about it.
@cheongyc (5072)
• Malaysia
22 Dec 06
I think it's because you havent met a men like this. But unfortunately this kind of men almost extinct on Earth. I consider i am one of them. But the world won't spare me. I love my girl friend so much and i had been together with her for big 5 years (i am her 1st boy fren and she is my 1st gal fren) and i thought we could be together for this life. She just broke up with me last week, saying that she lost faith in this love. I still love her and miss her very much. But i will wish her the best.
@tsprabhu (705)
• India
22 Dec 06
You have a bad opinion about men. Its not in case of all men, ok?
Its really hurting for me to go through this discussion... You have spoken ill about men's love...
But, I am man and I am not like that and all...:(
@brujj1 (228)
• Canada
22 Dec 06
yes, i do. And I don't think anything is wrong with me. I think anyone who looks around can see what I see. I am just more observant. I don't think most men are capable of loving as women love. I wish it was not true but I think it is. I don't think it is about being a man or woman but I think it is the way they are brought up. If you are a men and you don't think I am right, then good for you.
@natuser28 (907)
• United States
22 Dec 06
Are you close with your father, brother or any other male relative in your family? Go ask them for advice about guys, maybe that will help you with your problem or else call dr. phil
