Does Someone Abuse You Verbally No Matter What You Do?

I have not had that problem with anyone that I have met fortunately. But if someone were to verbally abuse me no matter what I did, I would leave them and go somewhere to be away from them. I would not want to be in a relationship with someone that was like that. If someone is married, those two should get marriage counseling or that particular person should get help with their abuse issues.

You do need to get away, and I'm glad you recognize that! Until you can move, try not to upset him, and, don't let him know about your plans to move! Let him figure it out after the fact because these kind of people pull out all kinds of means to stop someone from leaving, some of them deadly! Can you get a loan from a family member or friend or clergy to help you get out sooner? I hope so, good luck and keep us posted.

Hi there. You should save all the money you can, don't tell him any of you plans. Get money from him too if possible, spend as much time as you can out of the house. Make sure that all bills are paid that are in your name, get all money owed to you... To deal with his abuse, try focussing on something positive when he starts abusing you. Think of a happy memory, try to not really engage with him in the first place so that hopefully he won't start but if he does, don't answer him. If there is a chance that he is going to be physically abusive, just leave now - nothing is worth getting hurt. Pick the day when you will leave and gear up for it. Good luck!!!

Well, it sounds like this person is just trying to push you out the door even faster! Stand your ground! If you can't leave until you have a sufficant amount of money...then don't! Take anything he throws at you with a grain of salt and don't respond back. Don't even look his direction. If you can, lock yourself in a room so he cannot get in and bother you. This will drive him crazy! Also kill him with kindness! The nicer you are, the crazier he'll get, lol.

Yes, my so-called boyfriend and father of my beautiful baby girl. I don't have any real money coming in, and I won't be getting a tax refund this year due to not working last year (this was due to the pregnancy). I had planned to leave him within the next two weeks, but I decided that this was not the way out. I am so afraid that he will find out, and he will do something to me or try to take my baby away from me. I have reached out to my so-called friends, but they don't want to get involved, which, in a way, I can understand. My mother won't help me out with money, and I don't want to get my father involved anymore than I can. So, now, I am trying to make money on here and on other sites like this, so I can either get enough money to stay here or leave him. Another thing, he drives my car to work, so I have no way to leave at all. Plus, I do not want to lose my stuff and her baby stuff. I know that this is just material things, but these are things that are most definitely needed. I don't know what to do. Just wish that something great would happen for me soon. Also, I am glad that you are able to leave. I hope that you have a great time in Florida and with your grandchildren. Good luck!

Be real nice abusers hate that. I hope you get the heck out of there. No one deserves that. Just be really kind and block them out of you'r mind when they say something offensive. My grandmother told me along time ago turn the key off in you'r mind when they mess with you. lol

You should complain to supervisor and it should stop no one has the right to continually haraunge you

Just try to tune it out. I know it is hard but do it. Don't jump and move quicker than you can or you will be biting off your nose to spite your face. Keep doing your work or what ever you are doing and don't respond evern if it nearly kills you. Hold you tongue, and hold your head high. I am in a job like that, I know this is at home for you, but I have to stick it out until may at my work so I tune it out and document it. You should document it to in case you need it down the road. It will make you feel better to by writing it down. Good luck to you and all the best.

I feel for you. I've been there. While I made my plans to get out, I taught myself to disengage from him. Whatever he said, I would just tell myself that his opinion was unimportant and he was free to feel that way if he wanted and that was his problem. I knew that he was only costing himself in the long run. He would only cost me if I let him. His ravings became irrelevant background noise to me. I thought of him as a sociopath who I didn't relate to in any way, so why would I care what he said or thought? I wasn't always successful and I know it isn't easy, but it's a great survival mechanism. Thank goodness for daughters and grandbabies, huh? Good luck and take care.

I see that this is an older discussion, and I hope that by now you have gotten out of this situation. It sounds similar to a situation I was in years ago. Unfortunately, I did not get out before the verbal abuse turned physical. That is when I finally took my kids and left.