How Can You tell that You have found Your Divine Mate?

Boy, this is a tough question. How do you know? I could ask how can you not know. I htink the most important thing is to get to know the other person. I don't mean on a coupleof dates, but over a long period of time, doing different things. You can't get to know someone if all you ever do is go to the movies together - usually you don't talk much there. Similarly just sitting around and "pashing on" - kissing - isn't going to help either, though it might be fun. You need to communicate - speak to him and let him listen to you. Exchange ideas and thoughts. Listen and speak. Speak and listen. Talk about htings that matter. Do things together that you enjoy - but also do things that he enjoys. See how compatible you are. And lastly, give it time. I don't believe in falling into bed before you even know a person (actually I don't believe in falling into bed until there is a commitment, but then I'm old fashioned). I've been married for 26 years this March, and we knew each other for 2 years as friends before we became closer than just friends. Oh and learn to trust your instincts and follow your heart.