Honest or Rude? What do you think?

honesty comes from a close friend or family...and should not anger you. rudeness....comes from people that do not deserve atention....so the best "weapon" against them is ignorance...there is nothing that could hurt a rude person more than that.

I pretty well agree with you, although I have occassionally been told I am too rude, when I did not think I was. Usually I am so meek and shy it is painful. I guess I have to be really over the top to speak my mind. I do not mean to hurt people, though. About talking about others in public, a lot of my family members do, they should not. I have worked in too many jobs where confidentiality is mandatory, and I hopefully have gotten rid of this habit I grew up with. My boss makes me a little crazy, she always finds one little speck of lint or something to remove from my clothes. The other people I work with says she does this too. It is almost creepy. Like you are not old enough to dress yourself properly and get out the door. My mom would say to me, at family gatherings, You look short and dumpy next to your cousin. True--She was 6'2" and I was 5'7" but this comment came after I had just lost 25 pounds, and I was 14 years old. I realized later in life that that would always be her topic of conversation, with everyone. Size, and weight. Boring. Embarrassing. You want to crawl under the rug.

I think you can still speak the truth like an Honest person and at the same time refrain from sounding like a rude person.

I think it is rude. Even if it is the truth, I'd never say such things to people. My grandfather is this way - he will tell anyone, even strangers, that they are fat. They must have a very low self esteem if they have to hurt other people. Just remember people like them are ugly on the inside, and no one will want to be around them someday soon.

They are just sick people and they don't understand that nobody needs their "truths". Why they don't recognize that they are just simple idiots ?? They are fake "sincere" people because they cannot be sincere about themselves. For them life is just zoology and they cannot understand poetry or art. Name them animals and you cannot be wrong.

I think, in my opinion, one thing more richest in life of one people its the honesty. If the people is honesty, he have something to have to say.

I call a spade a damn spade all the time.It saves the headache for everyone.

it depend on how do u take the comments..to some it might just be ok and to some the comments might be really offensive or disturbing..and the reason behind it that every person is different and we need to respect that...and thats why we should be very careful with what we say...and gradually people realise that some person don't like things said in a certain way and hence they start avoiding that way..so what I can make out of that is the reaction depends on the perception and mood of the person..

It has a pozitive side and a negative side. The negative:because of what they say... many times a person will be sad. But the positive side: is that you will know that he ain't lying you. And will be sincerly every time.

it is true that some people really hurt at times. i think they cud do it when the other person is really hard on them. but i think they can say in a very smooth way and somewhat unhurtingly. it usually depends upon them how they receive it and respond so rude. for me, i never even try to hurt anyone!

For me, I tell people the truth, no matter how much it hurts the other person. I would rather tell the truth, than be some fake person, who has to hide behind a fake facade. It's just not me. I'll tell you straight to your face what I honestly think about you, without any regrets.

I think this falls in with white lies. SOme people dont liek to feel fake thought, and tell you something that is just made up so you wont get angry from the truth. But some people do take it too far. There's a point to hoew "truth" you really can be, and then theres just an utter straw man.

I think sometimes It is good to bite your thongue and hold back from saying hurtful things.Its good to be honest but by saying something hurtful and nothing good will come from it.I think theres no point in that.

You dont have to be so much honest every time. Some lies are better than truths. And the truths that hurt someone are better not said. i think such people are rude..rather than honest.

i don`t think its good to be rude bec u have no rights to hurt ne 1 feelings

I think you can find a way to be honest without being rude.

i'm a "call it like I see it" person and always will be..BUT as much as some ppl who dont grasp it may say (especially ppl online in fact only ppl online) its rude or cruel/mean etc the fact of the matter is I see know point or purpose in being that way...Of course I would never do it and never have done it when it comes to things that arent necessary like the gaining weight thing..thats just flat out cruel and hurtful..I'm never vicious like that but if someone complains about their wt and then turns around and eats a cheesecake in front of me, I'll pipe up in a heartbeat..when it comes to somehting serious that I have yrs of experience with and have seen the intense negative side I most definately will speak up or if its someone I know (my friends come to me for advice becuase of this very reason) who is lets say doing the same thing over and over again that is damaging them or their kids I'll call them out on it and tell them what I see THEN I'll work with them to fix the problem....Once I call someone out I am always willing to help them but if they cant see it/dont get it..there is no point IMO Strangers in real life and online sometimes arent sure how to take me and thats understandable but if they say something, share something, ask something and I'm brutally honest with them and continue the conversation with me they'll realize that it'll go from my speaking the truth and then working with them..it doesnt always work out that way but more often than not it does...I seem harsh at first but one thing I'll never do is steer you wrong... I wonder though why more ppl arent honest like that...I mean really what is the point of candy coating tings for someone when you know that its enabling them and pretty much giving them excuses to screw up again or continue living in misery etc...That makes no sense to me at all..

I would consider it rude. If they can say things tactfully so they do not hurt others feelings it is honest however the things you are discussing here are horrible. You would never dream of saying things like that, especially to peoples faces. You don't know what kind of effect you could have on them. People like this should learn to keep their mouths closed.

Frank people need to know about others who hear what they speak They need to tell what is sensitive and what is embrassing

Some people mean well and say things for our own good. That is fine. Thhere is another lot which says things to hurt us and make us feel bad though they make it sound as if they actually care but they add in that liitle smirk as well. These are people whom you should keep a distance from