Is Live-in relationship much better than marriage?
By kunalgaurr
@kunalgaurr (536)
India
1 response
@pumpkinjam (8754)
• United Kingdom
29 Dec 06
Well, I do kind of agree with that but I would have thought that if you married someone you love and who loved you then you would still have the same freedom. I think it's basically the same. Marriage is only a piece of paper. If it's a committed relationship, then you will do things you might not like whether you're married or not, but not be forced to do things you don't like because that isn't a good relationship. The thing is compromise, whether in a marriage or a live in relationship, each partner should be able to make their own decisions up to a point but still make decisions between them so I think as long as you look at it like that, it really doesn't make that much difference whether or not you are married. I think the reason people who were happy couples before they got married end up getting divorced is because of the "idea" of marriage rather than actually because they are maried. ie. marriage is an official commitment and people begin to feel trapped by it, whereas if you simply live together, that forced commitment is not there so you are staying because that's what you want to do, not because some bit of paper is telling you to.
@kunalgaurr (536)
• India
29 Dec 06
Thanx for responding friend!
I agree with your comments. Actual meaning of marriage is the same as what you've mention.. when your hearts meet then it's called marriage not with a piece of paper.. But dear friends in real life.. very few of them understand this..and most of the time it doesn't work. Man thinks that his wife should follow as per him.. He become authoritative or may be man ego comes. Or May be vice versa...You are forced to live together unless you get divorce.. but atleast in Live-in relationship.. you are not forced to do anything.. you have freedom to take any kinda decision.. or make choices...