Forgetting what my only child did to me when I was ill

Forgiveness should only come with restitution. This is eating away at you because you have not taken the action necessary to restore yourself, as much as you can. Basically, your daughter stole your credit cards. It doesn't matter what prompted it or how she feels about you personally. The creditors had no agreements with her, they were with you. You need to press charges to protect yourself from the repercussions and to be sure that your creditors understand that you cannot be held responsible for the debt. Do not acknowlege any of the debt by paying on it. They will then be justified in keeping it on your credit rating. I am sorry about your pets. NOthing will bring solace to you over their loss. I certainly hope you are taking ALL the steps you possibly can to restore yourself.

Well you're an amazing person if you can forgive someone after doing those things to you. How old was your kid when this happened? Do you think that she has grown up? What kind of "b.s" was she referring to anyways? I don't think that these are the kinds of things that we can forget, atleast I know that I couldn't.

truely sorry i am for hearing that from you. it's totally worst. it's sort of unforgiven.but try to be for open heart to really forgive her. it's very hard but you must try for it. hopefully she will realise how horrible it is and try to be changed. as a mother pray for your kid for he goodness.

OMG I am FLOORED!! I'm so sorry you went through all of that I mean the accident itself is hard enough to deal with but to come home to that wow...I am damn near speechless! First off I would TAKE HER TO COURT! get your credit rating cleared and have her pay whatever she charged etc etc...I realize she is your daughter but you cant leave this alone..that was cold and calcualated IMO and I'm sorry but she needs to take responsilbity for her actions... Wow I wish I had better advice for you but I am still trying to wrap my head around this..As far as forgetting goes....I'm sorry but the reality is that you'll most likely never forget it...that really IS the ultimate betrayal and a really tough pill to swallow (realizing your own child is like that in regards to you/your wellbeing etc)..All i can suggest is that you dont TRY to forget but dont let it weigh you down either...dont let it consume you...take the necessary steps to try and fix the damage (financially) that she has done etc and consider taking her to court (I'd also change up my will too if she is the main beneficiary but thats just me) and try to move forward from this... all the best to you..

well sence your duaghter went out on a spending spread,tell her she is cut out of your will.she done got her money.you could sue her an get your money back,or just forgive her like you have.me i would kick some a$$

I am so sorry that happened to you! I can understand your feelings of being hurt and betrayed by someone so close to you! Its hard to say why she did what she did, she might be feeling really quilty but unable to tell you because she feels so ashamed, and cover it up by her attitude.

You are both related by flesh and blood. Its an amazing thing what you have done, forgiving her for all her evil deeds. If I were you I would have probably disowned her, and her actions border on criminal. If she does not treat you like her kin, why should you do the same.

you have over come a great adversity in your recovery. I admire you for that. forgivness is one thing forgetting is intirlely different. Just take it one step at a time and gradually your will be able to stop think of it so much. You probably will never forget. these things just hurt lass as time goes by. keep praying that you can continue to forgiver her. and God bless you.

I'm glad to here that you are better now, and it's unfortunate that your daughter had done this to you. I would find it hard to forgive someone who had done this to me, but I'm glad that you found it in your heart to forgive your daughter. Forgiving is easy, forgetting is tougher. Were you able to contact the companies regarding the fraudulant charges, and have them do something about it? And did you contact the police regarding this, or at least a lawyer? You shouldn't be responsible if you can prove that you didn't make those purchases. I hope that you can get this straightened out, and I hope that your daughter might learn a valuable lesson from this disseption.

well! thats just one side of the story! your daughter is an evil person! but then again where did she learn to be like that! if your looking for sympathy on mylot , its stupid! you dont have to forget it , i wouldnt even forgive her!

that was abominable..it was too great of u to have fogiven her..dont take it too hard its not east to forget something like that..u did the noble thing in forgiving her now leave the forgetting part to time..time heals everything..

Your daughter has acted extremely selfishly and does not deserve either your sympathy or forgiveness.Please be rational and think about yourself and then your family.I know what I am saying is a bit harsh,but I feel it is the right thing to do.

that is horrible. If i ever had such a daughter i would have kicked her out of the house. I can't believe she would actually say something like "put up with your b.s" That is very uncaring and rude

It will take time for this to heal. I'm sorry there's really no better answer, but if you had it, I'd ask you to share it with me. All I can say is when you finally can forgive her fully, it will heal you as well. Wow, I don't know even know how to comment on your relationship with your daughter. I guess one thing to do, with as little emotion as possible, try to think logically about why she did what she did, what thoughts and feelings were running through her head. It might help you make sense of things.

You are wise to forgive, and each day you will forgive a little more. However, just because you have forgiven does not mean you have to forget. You must remember, in order to protect yourself in the future. You need a durable power of attorney, or some places call it an attorney in fact, actually you need perhaps two. One to take care of your finances if you become incapacitated, like you did after the accident. The other one would speak for you medically. Both would protect you from people who would take advantage of you being debilitated like you just were. I am so sorry about the dogs. You seem to have emotionally turned loose of the monetary debt she owes you. I think the other advice you have received was very good on forgiveness.

I am very sorry to hear your story but I admire you forgiving a daughter who did the worst she can do to a weak mom at the hospital. You are a true loving mom. I suggest you continue to pray for her for enlightenment, wisdom and forgiveness for herself. You only did the right thing but she can never escape the consequences of her wrong doings so please pray for her no matter what. Only a patient and persevere love of the mother can do this. God bless you more!

i dnt know what to say... i m shocked to hear all this... and for a person like me it is really difficult to forgive anyone until and unless that body shows grief over her/his act... so i cant suggest anything!!

what is done is done. I know what she done is not right, absolutely not right. I think she realize that now or not in the future she will. To be able to release those unhealthy feeling of yours you must forgive her not because you tolerate it but because for yourself to move on. She has already in the right mind and someday if not now she will realize what she's done is not right. Just pray for her to change her bad attitude.

Wow, I'm glad you survived the accident and beat the odds. I can't believe your daughter did that to you, let alone actually tell you WHY she did it... that takes a huge set of [metaphorical] cahones! Something like that I could forgive, after a while. But forget? Heck no! I would be writing her out of my will and ensuring that she was prosecuted for what she did... daughter or not. I couldn't forgive the whole dogs thing. That's just cruel and wrong... and well I can't say anything else polite about that ;) Stay strong and do your best! Merry Christmas!

I know everyone has heard the "forgive and forget" saying, but honestly you can't do both. ME, I have a difficult time letting go when I have been wronged so I am proud that you have forgiven your daughter. I understand exactly where you are coming from as I was in a life altering accident right before Christmas three years ago. It ended a marriage of 11 years and left me scarred physically and mentally. My advice is follow your heart. Do you truly feel like you have forgiven her? It seems that it may still bother you by the tone of your writing so you may want to truly ask yourself if you CAN forgive her. You will never forget what she has done and the pain that it has caused you unfortunately will not be forgotten either. Every person has their limit of what they can and can't accept. Some can tolerate more damage while a person like me cannot let go.