Adoption

United States
September 25, 2006 1:35pm CST
i am in a bad situation, i cant seem to find someone that will hire me, and i am 5 months pregnant. i dont go back to school until january because i am studying to be a paramedic and they wont allow it while i am pregnant. the father left me and i dont have a whole lot of money, or a nice car. is being in a bad situation right now reason enough to give my little girl up for adoption? i hesitate on this because situations arent permanant, by going to school and finishing my degree i am bettering her life and mine right? do i keep my child and cling to the knoledge that it will get better?
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6 responses
@Jshean20 (14348)
• Canada
5 Oct 06
If you're really hurting for money, you could try making some money online through things like surveys, reading emails, etc. It doesn't cost you a thing. Pm me if you'd like some direction. Hang in there -jennie
6 Oct 06
Perhaps it would be a good thing for remaining four months.
@MINDY0882 (2302)
• United States
5 Oct 06
I think u should keep your child , i have 3 and it was tuff for us for so long but we have managed. Dont do something u know u will regret.there are online things u can do to earn a little money i will give u the link to my page most are free to join. also just keep looking , if they arent hiring u b.c u are pregnant that is wrong. I worked a burger king while i was pregnant with 2 of mine. that is descrimination if thats why they arent hiring u. I have also never heard of them not letting u go to school just b.c u are pregnant why is that? my brother is a paramedic as well here were we live that just dont seem right either hope this helps a little but please keep the little girl if u realy want this child dont give her up then u will regret it for the rest of your life http://www.freewebs.com/mindy6197/
@MINDY0882 (2302)
• United States
6 Oct 06
oh yeah also if the father is working u can get child support from him dont know what all it takes but make him pay the child support that will help u out some too
@acdc0805 (979)
• United States
5 Oct 06
There are programs offered for single pregnant women all over the united states-I would look into something like that, if you'd like to keep the baby. Personally I would, but thats just me. I was adopted as an infant, and would have a hard time putting one of my own up for adoption-justb ecause I have a hard time wondering who my birth mother is all the time-I was a single mom for about 3 years, and it is hard, frustrating and stressful, but it was fun at the same time, and the bond that me and my son have is amazing.
6 Oct 06
Considering this was two-weeks ago have you come to a decision yet? I’d be interested to know how the situation has developed.
@bblessed (1822)
• United States
6 Oct 06
keep your baby, pray and ask God for wisdom.
@ilse72 (1450)
• United States
6 Oct 06
Hon, only you can make this decision. However, if you want to keep your baby, you need to take some action. You need to sue the father of your little girl for support. Also, apply for WIC (women with children) and any other services that they recommend or that you find out about. Keep in mind, that you only have a few more months before you can finish your paramedic training. Can you get any help from your family? If you decide to give up your little girl, as a woman who has adopted, I can tell you that you will be providing a wonderful gift of love for some lucky couple. Our son's birth mother gave us that gift of love and we will be eternally grateful to her for the rest of our lives. She has no idea how much joy and love her baby brought into our lives. Good luck with whatever decision you make and good luck with your future as a paramedic.