How do u go on with your life when your partner have choise Suicide
By MentalPanic
@MentalPanic (227)
Sri Lanka
December 24, 2006 9:55pm CST
How do u go on with your life when your partner have become suicide? How does this effect u in life and what do u think about his/her acting.
Personly I did take it very bad when my partner for 13 years ago choise to become suicide. He did leave me with a 2 years old daughter. I were angry with him in years after. Most because he did leave his own kid in a future without her dadd. It took me many years and sort my mind out in this and understand why and how do a person decide a choise like this.
Anyway today I can understand him because I have myself been in a deep dark hole for a while before I shaked myself awake again. I do belive that we can never judge anyone who have it so hard with themself so they choise this way.
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29 responses
@illumina_foxz (125)
• Thailand
25 Dec 06
I'm sorry to hear that..
People have their thoughts and opinions for their actions. Sometimes they think it is already justified to do so. But remember, better live on and work towards your goal, and also help others along the way. Live the fullest of your life.
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@MentalPanic (227)
• Sri Lanka
25 Dec 06
Indeed we should live on and try to work out things. Maybe this make people take one minite or 2 ..just stand still and find out things for themself and people around .I hope it will help someone and just have a bit talking about this . Many times this subject are a bit shuted down . We do see what we want and closethe eyes for what we don´t want to see.
@krislouiebaby (2346)
• Philippines
25 Dec 06
just go on with your life, life has to go on,,of course u will feel bad but what can u do, he is a weakling,,,
@MentalPanic (227)
• Sri Lanka
25 Dec 06
I can´t say that he is weak . I think it is a hard way and take it´s just not and kill themself ..it´s much more behind this .
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
25 Dec 06
oh yes there is a place that on one understands unless you have been there yourself...everyone no matter how strong no matter what they believe has apoint where they can no longer go on,people who critisize, have no idea..for you I say it is good that who know why he did it and just go on knowing he nust have been in so much mental pain that now he is at peace.
@MentalPanic (227)
• Sri Lanka
25 Dec 06
Yeah people do say a lot about this..but have they been there and feel the pain who is all around this, good asking isen´t it. I do not wich any person this pain ..sometimes I did thought that my brain did take the other half and beated the other one with it..I were really confused in this time . I´m glad that I could come out from this circle of pain and today I do understand how strong I am in ways I diden´t belive in before.
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@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
25 Dec 06
I feel bad for you. I think everything will work out for you in time. Time does heal all wounds that are so very deep. I know this to be true. And in time you will forgive him and will carry on without him.I dont think people who choose to die really do think this out because it is final. Also give it some time and to will be out of your black hole. The best to you.
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@MentalPanic (227)
• Sri Lanka
25 Dec 06
well then u put one problem to another problem ...one day you will face it like it is. You can´t forget your past but u can make yourself and remember it with the good times. And the bad times do learn a lot in life
@thatcrazyqbanita (3312)
• United States
25 Dec 06
I'm sorry you had to deal with such a difficult event. there is so much more to life than pain and sufferring, life is very worth living. be strong, and liev your life with your daughter
@linusv2006 (209)
• Philippines
25 Dec 06
it's good to know that you are strong enough to carry-on w/ the responsibilities.seek God and you shall find more strength and also happiness.remember that you are not alone =)
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@lovein (345)
• India
25 Dec 06
If a man/woman do not get good feelings in the past, nor at present and will not in future too.
God take away him/her.
It may be due to all actions of one man(himself), or some times the environment in which he has become bigger.
Some times it happens due to time only.
Please do not think over it again and again.
Thanks
@josan181237 (1204)
• Philippines
25 Dec 06
life is not always smooth sailing. we have to admit that. but we cannot just kill ourselves to escape from misery. i think it would really help a lot if you look at cancer patients who fight for their lives and survived so you would know how to value life.
@maddinair (281)
• India
25 Dec 06
look sucide is not the way out for any problems in the world and there is always some or the other way out for every problem.. right so work on that but even if some thing like that takes place due to immaturity then the what can be done the one who had to go has gone but the life goes on so look around for sme one else thats it...
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@concealed24beauty (175)
• United States
26 Dec 06
I want you to go on pulling your self out of the dark hole and remember that beauty little girl you have to take care.Yes he chose a very selfish way out and by all mean it is not our place to judge.
@rubypatson (1840)
• India
25 Dec 06
Thats bad i am sorry, anyway life hAS to be lived no matter what comes our way, I am sure we all have our terrible moments, but yet we need to live for us and also for our loved ones, what happened cannot be undone, but you learn to live and hope and pray that you find happiness
@LadyCroft (701)
• Australia
25 Dec 06
You go on with your life because you have a child. 13 years is a long time, and it wouldve felt like a part of you went with him, but your 2 year old child was with you. You needed to survive for her. Well Done for dealing with your grief, you are a excellent parent.
@natuser28 (907)
• United States
26 Dec 06
You can't, aleast not right away. Because it was a huge impact in your life.
@killj0y (618)
• United States
25 Dec 06
oh my gosh. I've never had anything like this happen to me but i imagine it must have been terrible. I've been through rough times with my partner and he's tried it but was unsuccessful he spent days in ICU it hurt so bad.
I didn't know how to deal, i wasn't mad, just hurt, really really hurt
@thefavorite125 (8)
• United States
26 Dec 06
It will get better! allow your friends into your heart and let them help you in anyway they can!
