Need Advice urgently /
By amanda84
@amanda84 (263)
Malaysia
December 25, 2006 9:14am CST
I have this frend of mine who really in love with her bf. She will do anything for him. But that stupid guy of her, never treated her well..There are once she threaten to cut her wrist in front of him- and guess what that stupid guy told her.. If u wan to die, please dont die here. Go away. What the hell ?? She's his gf. What does that mean ?? He dun love her anymore. Can sumone help me - how am i going to advice her. I scared that she going for suicide again.
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@wish_mistress (18)
• Singapore
25 Dec 06
well...love is blind...many times girls are more into a relationship then guys...i don't think any advise to your friend now will work as she is so engrossed with him...the only way i believe is for her to "wake up" herself...as her friend...all you can do now is to standby her and comfort her when there is a need to.
@Spazza (2)
• New Zealand
18 Jan 07
I totally agree with you. She is way beyond listening to any advice in relation with this guy - so just be there as her friend - be the soft place for her to fall when she does - its only a matter of time.
Secondly - there is something of interest to the boyfriends comment when she threatened to cut her wrists - i feel that you think he handled the situation poorly???
I dont think he did - what he in fact did was give her a 'wake up' call, he was calling her bluff - & did it work??? - Well, shes still alive isnt she???
The threat she made at the time was an attention seeking threat & it was also a threat to try to make the boyfriend feel 'guilty' for whatever was happening at that particular time. He was right on the cards with his comment.
Just maybe you need to turn the focus onto your friend for awile - because in my view - anyone who threatens such a thing is in need of professional help
@jitu_anurag (603)
• India
25 Dec 06
It's really shameful...Real love is so rare and this guy doesn't want it..Anyway..i think your friend should understand it and try to come out from it.I know she will take time but you must back her.When the opposite person can't understand your feelings then why to run after him?..There are lot of good people in this world..Just look ahead someone will come and support her..with mutual understandig and lot of love for her...Believe in God ...he is Great..
@amanda84 (263)
• Malaysia
25 Dec 06
Thanks for ur advice. But the problem doesnt stop there. That guy really smart. When he know that she's letting go, he will go after her..telling how sorry he was. I tried to talk to my frend that he is not the one for her, but everytime i fail. SHe keep going back to him..
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@chetan423 (121)
• India
25 Dec 06
love is for giving...it doesn't demand anything in back
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@bogdanel (1208)
• Romania
25 Dec 06
I think that guy is crazy or I don't know.. In my opinion is not love there.. is love from her .. and from him.. nothing but indeference.. I'd kill that guy if I know him. He doesn't have a pice of respect for a girl! He is a mess for society :)) Bleahhh... Tell that girl not to suffer cuz he doesn't deserve her love.. and to try to meet other boy who respect her wishes and her generally from all points of view
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@ronnique (35)
• United States
25 Dec 06
YOUR FRIEND NEEDS HELP FROM A PROFESSIONAL THATS SOMETHING I WOULD TELL HER TO SEEK IMMEDIATELY.
I WOULD LET HER KNOW THAT YOU WILL BE THERE FOR HER BUT LET HER KNOW SHE NEEDS HELP THAT YOU CAN'T GIVE HER RIGHT NOW.
ITS AVERY DELICATE SITUATION FOR YOU TO EVEN ATTEMPT TO TRY TO TELL HER WHAT SHE SHOULD OR SHOULD NOT DO RIGHT NOW IT MIGHT PUSH HER OVER THE EDGE,
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@chandrasekharreddy (70)
• India
26 Dec 06
Your friend is blindly loving him.
He is not feeling anything about her. He doesn't care her.
Better you show ur friend all these mylot discusions about him.
These many people are telling that he is not loving her.
But you dont leave her. You please be with her and made her to forget about him. In this time she needs some good friends to advice her.
@chelsy_gal (153)
• Malaysia
26 Dec 06
Maybe the boyfriend don't love her anymore. Give advice to your friend to break up with him and forget him, i know it's hard, but she must try it. Yu just need to give her more care and advice :)
@jess368 (3368)
• United States
26 Dec 06
your a jerk! if you had a friend that was going through a hard time you would be there for him/her, why would you say something like that! people need good friends in there lives to keep them on the right track sometimes, one day you will realize that as well.
@kinhow (81)
• Brazil
25 Dec 06
shes blind for love...
maybe you could just try to get her away from him... try to show someone new to her that could interest her so she forgets her actual bf...
its a dificult case, she is really in love and nothing can stop her, you really have to act, because she cant see the real bad things
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@mangmamani (134)
• Philippines
26 Dec 06
What she needs right now is YOU! Being there for her will help a lot giving her a good advice will be dificult. Just let her know that you will be there. Having a friend around in time of dificulties is a good step in recovery.
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
I guess its time for your friend to realize that there is nothing to gain from the relationship she is in to. looks like the guy is suffocated by her love and is not healthy anymore for the both of them. I think they both need to spaced out with each other or totally separate and have they're own lives.
@Hamlet333 (724)
• Pakistan
26 Dec 06
its not his true love for her...suggest ur frnd to ignore him...aft sometime he will understand her love for him.
@chiegv (112)
• Indonesia
26 Dec 06
just one advice... there're still much love around the world find your true love.. maybe she can't forget the boy because all of the sweet memory still stick in her heart.. but life is today, not yesterday, people change, face the reality, don' be stupid.. try to act mature.. there's so much love for her outside
@jordan_rivera (2)
• Philippines
26 Dec 06
Well,your friend deserves a better man ...for sure the guy is a jerk..you can tell your friend to wake up..and realize that he pick the wrong guy i hpre she listens...make her feel that you are her friend.Tell her that shes wasting her time to the guy..and she deserves better than him..Go tell her..
@fxysxysrkly (619)
• United States
26 Dec 06
no one is worth to die for if that person is not even making her happy. Honey that is not love that is lust. someone that she is used to and doesn't know a life with out that other person. one thing the person that you feel is the one will never make you feel like you need to kill yourselve. you will never have to strive for that attention to the ONE. This female needs to realize that there is more fish in the sea and she can do WAY BETTER. good luck and i hope everything turns out right for you and her.
