domestic abuse!!! come on,lets all of us raise our voice against this!!

sigh. i guess the concept is sort of like that saying, how does it go? "catch a fish for a man, he eats for a day. teach the man to fish, he eats for a lifetime." something like that. i understand there are relationships where it may appear as if it is going to be very difficult for one of the two to "stand up" to the other, but that is just an illusion. if the "one of the two" is intelligent and does it right, then these kinds of situations can be avoided or remedied. trying to figure out why men do these to their wives might seem like the correct thing to ponder, but the solution lies within why the wives let these things happen to them by the men. in that poem, if that mother (i am assuming the person is a female) is the only one that can take care of her children, then in order to be able to take care of her children, she needs to take care of herself in order to be able to take care of the children. this logic implies her staying with the husband is equivalent to her not taking care of her children. she needs to be safe and, well, alive to be able to do what she wants to. i guess some people need to learn the unfortunate reality that most people treat you in a manner that is most advantageous to them if you let them. you have to teach them how to treat you (thank you to dr. phil). sorry to hear about your pal tho.

I am so sorry to hear this. I wish that stories like this were just that, only stories. But they are not. I wish no women had to go threw this. I know that domestic abuse is widely talked about, but I think that it should be more open and spread out and shouted to the world, that this has to stop!!

My husband is a preacher and he has to deal with this issue too many times. A parishner ended up with their granddaughter whose mother was killed by her boyfriend. Thank God the little girl was with the grandparents when that happened. A couple of my sisters have been domestically abused but they had the good sense to get out of the relationships.

It's a sad sad thing really. Most people are scared to report the abuse to anyone with terrible consequences of course :-( Sorry about your friend!! xxxx

i am sorry for your friend. It is so prevalent in households and is on the increase. i feel like many of the members here that it is the one being abused who has to stand up for herself. it is difficult but inevitable.

I was the victim of domestic abuse my my ex husband, and I know for a fact that it is a very hard thing to get away from. He would alwasy manipulate me into staying by saying things that I wanted to believe. You also get scared to leave because of your options after you leave. There aren't enough abuse shelters or assistance for domestic abuse victims. Just know that there is always a way out. I finally got out and have never been happier.

Domestic abuse is one of the things I despise most. I dont think a man should ever put his hands on a woman, and especially when the man claims he loves the woman. It is disgusting and the man in my opinion are the weakest kind of people walking the earth.

i am sorry about this too.... i dont understand y men keep doing this to their wives like this!!

I am sorry about your friend and I have to say it could have easily been me. I was in an abusive relation for 4 years and luckily I got out before he killed me. I do understand the poem, because it do explain some of the ffeelings you go through while beeing abused =(

The image that you have upload is very sweet. However i think that the domestic's abuse is a terrific thing, only monsters can do that.

Very sorry about your friend, but she has to reach out to someone who will help her, she needs to get out now..no amount of flowres will make up for what he is doing to her and what could happen to her. She should leave him and put a restraining order against him..does your friend have a relative they could go stay with? and last but not least how long have these two been together?

i'm verry sorry for your freind.this kaind of man must be punishverry hurd becouse they are without any respect.They disurve the worst.

I am sorry to hear about your friend, I stay with my father and he abused my step mother and my birth mother helped her get out of the marriage by help her get out before it was too late.

it is very sad... i dont agree with this kind of behaviour. i grow up in a family where it was violence. but my mom had the curage to leave my dad. that should do every woman. a solution is for every problem. you just have to look for it.

but wait before doing this checks that hows this actually getting people in affects .

I had a friend that was abused and I was close to her almost every day for a year she would spend the nights with me he drank too much and we talked all night this went on for several years the talking all night and I neveer knew he abused her untill she couldnt take it any more and she killed him. was in self defence not Jail time for her yeah!

I am so sorry to hear that from your friend. I am sure you and your friend can do something about that. look at that guy! he is a pure abuser and I dont think there is any reason not to leave him! The flowers were nothing, don't ever think that because he sent her the flower because he felt sorry for what he have done. I suggest your friend to start planning her life ahead by getting a new apartment for rent or she could move in to your house temporary. Get a new job in other state or wherever. best to have a police contact ready if that guy ever come close to her again

Recently Indian parliament has passed a bill in which rigrous punishments are provided for various types of domestic violence. Other countries should also pass such bills. This is just the legal part but people guilty of domestic violence should also be socially condemned. Females are equally important constituent of society and violence against them should be dealt with high handedness.

There are many ways you can help raise awareness about domestic violence or partner abuse. You can let women know you care about them and will support them. * * Put a bumper sticker on your car to tell the world domestic violence is not OK. * Wear T-shirts expressing your opposition to partner abuse. * Take domestic violence seriously at all times and demand that your friends and coworkers do the same. * If you hear a joke about violence against women, or one that makes fun of women or puts them down, take a stand. Tell the person that it isn't funny and turn away. Body language can also communicate to people that you disapprove. Doing this sends a powerful message that the person should be ashamed for treating domestic violence or any abuse as a laughing matter. * Hold abusers accountable for their abusive behaviors. Abuse is not to be tolerated. * Ask men to speak out against domestic violence. Teachers, barbers, businesspersons, religious leaders, farmers, construction workers and others can use their positions to reach out to other men and let them know that domestic violence is wrong. * Sponsor a community activity or event to raise money to support educational efforts against domestic violence. * Ask a mental health worker, religious leader, or family life educator to make domestic violence the subject of a presentation or class. * Make a personal commitment to talk about domestic violence, whether with friends, family, coworkers, or someone you suspect is either abused or a perpetrator. * If you are a survivor of abuse, volunteer to be available in your religious institution or community to talk with women currently facing abuse in their intimate lives. * Make sure that places in your community where women may spend time, such as gyms, grocery stores, libraries, businesses, religious institutions, and workplaces, have information about domestic violence and where to go for help. * Make sure you know where help can be found for women with abusive partners. * Put up posters condemning domestic violence. * Ask health care providers to include questions about abuse on all intake forms and medical history questionnaires. Ask them to ask patients if there is violence or abuse in their lives or if they've been hurt or threatened by their partner. * Make domestic violence a workplace issue by letting others know there's no excuse for abuse. Post posters, distribute fliers and look for symptoms of domestic violence in coworkers. If you were abused by someone you loved, consider speaking out about how abuse impacted your life. * Donate money to organizations and shelters which support abused women. * Have a fund-raiser and send checks to the local domestic violence shelter. * Help improve media coverage. When a story appears about domestic violence in your local media you can make a difference by writing or calling to let them know how much you appreciated coverage of the program or article. Positive feedback makes it much more likely that similar stories will be produced in the future. Ask your local media to run public service announcements about domestic violence or partner abuse to help raise awareness. You can pledge to take action against domestic abuse or violence. You can choose how you'll get involved. There are no easy answers and no easy solutions to prevent partner abuse but by becoming more knowledgeable about domestic violence you can help to improve the quality of life for many women, men and families. One person can make a significant difference. You can make a difference.

domestic abuse needs to addressed with seriousness and urgency it deserves. women have a habit of waiting until its too late or they stay in relationship hoping that things will change. i am a volunteer for a domestic voilence shelter, and trust me if a man beats u up or hits u, u cannot change him. the only person u can change is urself. u have to make ur own decisions. i hope that the society will change its attitude towards domestic voilence as a "minor issue".