Child's tantrums

The best way to manage tantrums really depends on when and where they are happening. If a child has tantrums in stores then you can stop taking them to the store. They have to be told why they cannot go so that they have the option of changing how they act if they are old enough to understand. If they have tantrums at home then I would get TOUGHER with discipline, not more relaxed. I agree with making sure that other thngs are not causing the tantrums, like health issues, but once those are ruled out it is important to be sure that the child knows that the tantrums don't get good results for them.

Regarding "There will be instances wherein parents may be required to get a bit stricter in imposing a basic rule in handling tantrums." I learned when my children were little that when they are having a tantrum and there are other people around, if you get mad and/or try to stop the behavior, many times you embarrass them and make the situation worse. To avoid this, if we were in public, I would always try to take my child to the bathroom and take any disciplinary actions there. This worked so well that as my children grew up all I had to do when they were getting out of line was to ask if they needed to go to the bathroom and many times that would nip it right in the bud.

yes I think it depends on where it is happening, when my daughter has a temper tantrum she usually has one in our home, and I just walk away from her, let her have the tantrum and then within a few seconds she just gets up and is done. She knows that I do not tolerate it and therefore she does not have many at all, if we are at a store she just has learned that I will not tolerate it and she stops even that much sooner so I just start with being consistent and if they throw a tantrum just let them do it an\d then WALK A|WAY|the sooner you do this the better off ypou will be

Surviving the tantrum The most important things to remember when your child is in the throes of a tantrum are: a) Don't punish the child. b) Don't reward the child. c) Stay calm and ignore the behavior to the extent possible. d) Keep the child safe. e) Isolate the child if possible. f) Don't let the disapproval of other people affect your response to the tantrum. When your child throws a tantrum, she is essentially out of control. You must make sure that you stay firmly in control. Punishing the child for throwing a tantrum, by yelling or spanking for example, makes the tantrum worse in the short term and prolongs the behavior in the long term. Trying to stop the tantrum by giving in to the child's demands is even worse. This is the way to teach a child to use tantrums for manipulation, and will cause the behavior to continue indefinitely, even into adulthood. At Home When the child throws a tantrum at home, calmly carry her to a place where she can be left safely by herself, such as a crib or a playpen. Then leave the room, shut the door, and don't go back until she calms down. When the child is calm, have a talk with her about her behavior. If you don't feel safe leaving the child alone, stay with her, but don't respond to the tantrum in any way. Don't even make eye contact. In Public If the child throws a tantrum in public, carry him out of the public area if possible, and take him to a place where you can have some privacy. The best place to take him is to the car, where he can be buckled into his car seat. Then you stand near the car or sit in the car and wait it out without reacting to the tantrum. When the tantrum subsides, talk to the child about his behavior, and then return to your activities. Sometimes it won't be possible for you to escape from the public place easily. For example, if you are in a commercial jet and the child throws a tantrum while you are coming in for a landing (as my daughter once did), you are basically stuck where you are. Likewise, you may find it hard to escape if you are standing in a long check-out line at the grocery store with a cart full of groceries. Under such circumstances, all you can do is grit your teeth and hang on. Ignore the screaming child. Ignore the glares and snide remarks of the people around you. Keep your cool. (Anyway, a screaming child in a check-out line speeds it up, so your child is actually doing everyone a favor.) Once you are able to make your escape, talk to the child about his behavior. Teaching the child alternatives to tantrums Once your child has settled down, you and she need to have a talk right away while the memories of the episode are still fresh in her mind. She threw the tantrum because she was angry or frustrated. Don't get into the issue of why she was angry or frustrated. Concentrate on the tantrum itself, explaining to the child that the behavior isn't appropriate. Then teach her what she should do instead when she feels angry. This works with children of any age, even toddlers. Your toddler will understand you. Toddlers understand far more than they are able to express. First describe the behavior: "You felt angry and you threw a tantrum. You were screaming, throwing things, and kicking the walls." You say this so the child will understand exactly what you are talking about. Then you explain that tantrums are not proper behavior. Make sure that you are clear that the tantrum is bad, not the child. "Tantrums are not appropriate behavior. In our family, we don't scream and throw things and kick. That behavior is not acceptable." This has an impact on the child, because your child wants to do the right thing. You help her by explaining that tantrums are the wrong thing. And don't worry about using big words such as "appropriate." If you use big words with a child, the child will learn big words. If you use only little words, your child will learn only little words. Then give the child some alternatives: "I know you felt angry. When you are angry, what you do is say, 'I'm angry!' Can you say that?" Have the child repeat the phrase after you. Next review what you have said. "What are you going to say next time you're angry?" Get her to repeat the phrase, "I'm angry!" Then say, "Next time you're angry, are you going to scream?" The child will probably say or indicate "no." "Next time you're angry, are you going to throw things?" "Next time you're angry, are you going to kick?" End up with, "Tell me again what you're going to do next time you're angry." You will have to repeat this discussion many, many times. It takes a long time for a child to learn how to control a temper tantrum.

parents are the supervisor of childrens

Child tantrums I guess are natural to kids and a challenge to the parents how the child can outgrew them.

Child needs to be spanked. The tantrum behavior is totally unacceptable, especially if carried into adult life.

When you see your child is throwing a tantrum, immediately put them in time out.

it is not good to do that

I think this is one of the major challenge to parents when babies are growing already but I guess is manageable, mothers should be smart in taking care of their children especially on tantrums cases as this will affect their behaviors when they grow up already.

Young children find it difficult to manage?negative?emotions like?frustration,?anger or disappointment. They often express themselves by crying, screaming or stomping up and down. As a parent, you may feel angry or?helpless. Even?embarrassed. However, parents have to understand?tantrums are a normal part of a child's development; children are still? in the process of learning self-control. Temper tantrums are just a?way of?letting off steam when your child is?upset.? Here are a few pointers on preventing your child's tantrum 1. Indulge in positive reinforcement. Encourage children when they behave well. Give good behaviour more attention. 2. Express?your love to your child as often as possible with physical demonstration like hugs, kisses, etc. 3. Teach children to use words to express how they feel, such as "I am getting angry." Or "This makes me feel sad." Try to understand how they feel and suggest words they can use to describe their feelings. 4. Set reasonable limits and don't expect your child to be perfect. Give simple reasons for the rules you set, and try to be consistent with the rules. 5. Keep a daily routine, as much as possible, so your child knows what to expect. Predictable meal times and nap times are very important. 6. Avoid situations that will frustrate your child, such as?toys that are too advanced for your child's abilities. 7. Avoid long outings or visits where your child has to sit still or cannot play for long periods of time. If you have to take a trip, bring along your child's favourite book or toy to entertain her. 8. Be prepared with healthy snacks when your child gets hungry. 9. Make sure your child is well rested, especially before a busy day or stressful activity.? 10. Be choosy about saying no. When you say no to every demand or request your child makes, it will frustrate him. Listen carefully to requests. When a request is not too unreasonable or inconvenient, consider saying yes. 11. Let your child choose whenever possible. For example, if your child resists a bath, make it clear?she has to have one, but offer a simple decision she can make on her own. Instead of saying, "Do you want to take a bath?" Try saying, "It's time for your bath. Would you like to walk to the bathroom or would you like me to carry you?" 12. Give your child a few minutes' warning before you end an activity. Say "We are going to leave the park and go home in a few minutes" or "Put your toys away, we are sitting for dinner in 10 minutes." Knowing beforehand will help your child get ready for change. 13. Set a good example. Avoid arguing or yelling in front of your chil

if they hve tantrums in a public place. ignore them. they'll just get tired.

yes professional assitance is much better i mean tantrums on children are natural. I read something that the children having tantrums should just be ingoored and theyll eventually stop and we should show that the parents are the BOSS of the family and not them.. hmm but oi dont think hitting them is a good idea try to talk things over with them...

hehehehehhe....better not 2 answer or else it wil b foolish...coz i am not married and no children....hehehehehe

I use to let them have a tantrum, and/or just didn't take them out as punishment and remind them "why" they couldn't go to the store, or go out in public. If it was public tantrum, most of the time I let them embarrass themselves and remind them that people were watching them throw a fit, and that worked big time. They didn't realize they were attracting attention and got really embarrassed, they stopped after I wouldn't take them out anymore and realized they were making a spectacle of themselves......

my daughter is 2 and lets just say she is going threw her terrible two's and she is constantly going threw her fits.if we pay attention to her tantrums they tend to get worse but if we ignore them she turns them off as fast as she turns them on so we are not worried about her tantrums at all she is to it is normal for her age.

by being consistent when you say no it means its really a no and when you said yes most specially when you promised somethinhg you have to do it. ignore the behavior when they are having temper tantrums plus you reward and punish them whenever they do stuffs.

I don't have children, but I do have my own opinions about how I plan to raise my children based on how I was raised. If my child starts throwing a temper tantrum over not getting something he/she wants, I plan to simply ignore them. I won't give any attention to them if they are crying just for sympathy or attention. If they throw hissy fits at a store for not getting a toy, they just simply won't go to the store any more.

Sometimes it is necessary to spank especially when tantrums is already unstoppable, I thnk there's nothing wrong to it..it's part of teaching them the right discipline.

I'm not yet a parent so I still have my own tantrums, lol! I am the eldest and learn many things to manage the tantrums of my little siblings, got to spank a little when it's over and they would stop, need to be authoritative sometimes if being sweet and cool isn't applicable.