my sons first birthday and christmas
By nhtpscd
@nhtpscd (1416)
Australia
December 26, 2006 5:55am CST
It was my sons first birthday on the 19th and his first Christmas and I can't believe his father has made no attempt to even meet him. I met his father when I was going through a tough time with my 2nd ex and family law court. He was conceived while I had the implant in. He has been sent numerous pictures and email updates. I feel so sorry for the sperm donor he is missing out on so much. Should I feel this way?
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@lauriefnp (5109)
• United States
26 Dec 06
How could anyone not feel a connection with and love for their own child? This sperm donor, as you call him, had plenty of time to get over the surprise of the pregnancy and get a grip on himself. After this length of time I would say that your son is better off without this type of person in his life. What you're missing for your son is the concept of a true "father". And that role is unfortunately never going to be played by his biological father. This man is truly just a sperm donor. Give him all the love that you have; plenty of children grow up with single parents. It's not an ideal situation, and it's normal to feel that he's missing out on something, but you can make up for that through your love. I hope that you're at least making him pay child support!!!!
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@ljmc24 (413)
• United States
26 Dec 06
I'm sure it is normal to feel that way, but you will be the only one who will know what he is missing. He may realize it later on in life and by then it will be too late. This little boy will know who took care of him his entire life, and will be thankful for it. He may not be when he is a teenager, but I promise they grow out of that. Enjoy your little boy and love him, they are a great gift. Happy holidays.
@lauriefnp (5109)
• United States
27 Dec 06
I have reported you to MyLot for copying part of my response word-for-word, and have also given you a negative rating. Please do not bother to respond if you cannot think of something original to say. I can't believe that you are so greedy for a few cents that you have to steal from somebody else. You have absolutely no moral integrity, and your behaviour is disgusting.
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@deebomb (15304)
• United States
27 Dec 06
You have a beatiful son. My daughter went through something simular. Her ex did not have any thing to do with he daughter for over a year and a half. Then he started dating and decided he had to have his parental rights. He had to take the little girl home with him even though sha was scared and crying. My daughter had no choice. He wouldn't be reasonable and let the little girl get used to him before he took her for a weekend. So be prepared for the doner showing up some time and demanding his parental rights.protect youself as much as possible.
@cuddiluk (1523)
• Philippines
27 Dec 06
oh! yes. its normal on how you've felt sorry for your sons father. Anyway enjoy spending in your angel now. It's a gift from God. He has the reason why his giving that to you. Love your son as it like truly yours though is not coming from you.
@Mommamea (1215)
• United States
27 Dec 06
No doubt in time the child will wonder who his biological father is. My daughter was very young when my 1st husband and I seperated. He didn't really want her for himself but was pushed by his parents to see her. Well at least he picked her up for visitation and took her to their house. Why do you continue to push him to participate in this childs life? He is missing out on more than he will ever know. Fathers don't have the same bond with a child during pregnancy as the mother. Don't feel sorry for the donor. He doesn't deserve your energy. Continue to love your son and when the time comes tell your son everything. Keep copies of the things you have done to contact the donor so your child will know you tried and the donor was a loser. Believe me I have fought hard battles with my daughters feelings and beliefs that her father has since tried putting in her head that I refused to let him see her and such. My daughter found out the hard way. I was there for her when he left her dry as a child and again as an adult. My daughter knows who loves her the most and has passed that on to her children. Good luck to the both of you.
@lovespecialangel (3632)
• United States
27 Dec 06
no it sounds like you have went above and beyond to let the deadbeat know so no you shouldnt feel sorry for him its not your responsiblilty to make him have anything to do with the baby.so try to not let him ruin your holiday spirit and enjoy life with your baby.
@pinklilly (3443)
• Australia
27 Dec 06
Your son is very cute.....
I think it is fine for you to feel this way you love your son very much and want the best for him it is just unfortunate that his father is feeling the way he does he is missing out.....
@kawillow74 (1416)
• United States
27 Dec 06
I am sorry to here that he is a cutie my father was bascially a sperm donor as well you can't force someone to love anyone it is really sad when a father can't love there own childern but you can't do nothing about it. i understand you can be angry but you can give your son the love of two my mom did. I wish you luck and that he will come around.
