I LOVE HIM,AND YET I DON'T WHAT TO DO.
By Raina
@DEANI84 (10)
Thailand
September 26, 2006 7:14am CST
MY BOYFRIEND AND I HAVE BEEN DATING FOR ALREADY ALMOST 4YRS. TOGETHER.WE HAVE 3 BEAUTIFUL GIRLS AND 1MORE ON DA WAY, I WANT TO GET MARRIED AND SETTLE DOWN, BUT ALL I GET IS WE R NOT YET READY,HOW R WE NOT READY IF WE KEEP HAVING OUR JOY TOGETHER. WELL,WE WERE FRIENDS SINCE HIGH SCHOOL, AND FINALLY I HAVE HIM,AND VERY MUCH IN LOVE,SO MUCH WITH HIM SO WHAT IS DA WHOLE DEAL WITH OUR REALATION... I WANT TO SETTLE ALREADY.WELL HE SAYS THAT WHAT IF WE MARRY AND THEN END UP DIVORCING?HOW CAN HE SAY THAT AND THEN TELL ME THAT HE LOVES ME?IT REALLY HURTS SO MUCH..AND I CAN'T SLEEP THINKING OF THAT WORD HE TOLD ME,I THINK HE WANTS TO FIND SOME FUN AND ACTION BEFORE HE SAYS YES... AND THAT HURTS BECAUSE I FIND SOMETIMES THAT HE'S BEEN ON SOME NASTY WEB SITE AND ON CHAT ROOMS.HOW CAN I HANDLE ALL THIS PAIN WHEN I LOVE HIM SO MUCH..? I CAN'T ANYMORE BUT I CAN NOT LIVE ANOTHER DAY WITHOUT HIM.SO WHAT DO I DO,WHEN I LOVE HIM SO MUCH?... SO MUCH PAIN AND HURT FOR ME TO carry WHILE I AM 1 MONTH PREGENANT,LAST TIME I DID I ENDED UP GIVING BIRTH EARLY(2 TIMES)AND IT IS REALLY PAINFUL... SO WHAT DO I DO? I HATE ASKING MYSELF THAT ALREADY..
6 responses
@tishabest (602)
• Belgium
26 Sep 06
First of all, stress is very unhealthy for the baby so you need to relax. You have 4 children with this guy and it sounds to me like you're more than ready to get married. I can see that marriage is important to you but could you hold off for a while longer? I mean do you think he will eventually marry you?
@mayshoe (606)
• India
21 Oct 06
love does not need a word...........marriage.........love is just love......u cannot mix them...........either one is ur friend or love......not both.........similarly .......marriage and love are different ...........no relation to each other ........so be in love.....dont force because more forcefully u hold the sand it slips away faster..........i thing i want to ask when u love somebody u never ask others but when u want to make a decision u ask everybody why?...u should have asked before loving .....Shall i love him??.........
@scooter1024 (1243)
• United States
21 Oct 06
For you childrens sake especially since you are pregnant now I think you should hold off awhile. Wait until after you have the baby and then think about it all then. Alot of men and women both look at nasty web pages and go to chat sites but that dont mean they are wanting a last fling. He may feel tied down too much and that is his escape. Men do think differently on these things then women do. If you truely love him and he truely loves you it will happen eventually. I dont blame you for wanting marriage because I would too in your situation. Just take care of you and your baby for now.
@yipster (74)
• Belgium
26 Sep 06
Sometimes men are affraid to get married, affraid to bind themselves. Allthough in your situation with your children i find it strange that he doesnt want to. Talk to him openly, without making accusations to one another cause that'll only cause pain. I really am no expert at this, but that is the thing i'd do.
@courtlynne77 (4839)
• United States
21 Oct 06
I don't understand why he would be willing to commit to having four children with you and not being willing to marry you? When you decide to have children aren't you making a commitment to raising a family together?
