Couples with a big difference of age, what do you think?

Yes I agree Craftwave. As you can guess, I met my husband at 17 (and a half!!!). Our relationchip has been scattered by obstacles, always caused by others, though. Jalous people, generation clash, children (he was married twice before me), family (his family have a very strong dislike for me, mine loves him), background differences, even language differences (I could not speak English when I met him)... He had a great past, having lived a bit everywhere worldwide... The very strange thing that happened was the reaction of my parents. This is why I posted this discution. They did not prohibit me to see him. They only checked that he was who he claimed to be (Diplomat), that's all. I must admit, I have in the past been a bit obset after my mother for having let me fall in love with a man so much older, creating a very complicated life full of conflicts ( I guess we would be good material for psychologues to study....), and I tried to put myself in the skin of a mother of a 17 year old daughter. I realised that I would never allower her to fall in love with someone 34 years older, in particular after knowing the difficulties I had to go through, but I was split up with the idea that it is far better than a marriage with someone of similar age and maybe a divorce soon after, so the choice would be very difficult. What complicates this type of relationchip is also what is attractive.

Yes my grandparents were rather upset with my aunt for marrying someone older then them. But he turned out to be one of my favorite uncles. I'm glad things worked out for you. I'm not sure why people put so much emphasis on age as concerning marriage. I've know some people that are older then me and are so immature that they act like kids while others that are much younger are very mature for their age. People should look at that instead of actual age.

Very interesting Lovingit (love your name!), I have 34 years difference with my husband, not 15 nor 19...!!! Too many, no doubt. But I have always been extremely mature for my age, even as a kid. My parents gave me big responsabilities right from the age of 7. I surely didn't have much of a childhood. I didn't use to play and was very quiet. My husband, in return, is a very outgoing playful person, and looks 15 years younger than his age. I guess that in relationchip of that kind, the partners tend to meet somewhere in between... Many people think I am older than my age, but I don't mind, I am use to it since very early age. We only married after 4 years of life together, so by the age of 21 I knew a bit more what I was doing, although 21 is still young for marriage for many people.

Yes but what if your daughter is a hottie and this old guy is just hitting on her b/c of that. I wouldn't be able to trust the situation after all the stuff I've seen on the news in my lifetime!

I guess this is what my mother was particularly scared of. I nearly got abducted in Paris once, and she was wary of this type of situation. This is why she made a bit of research on my "boy friend" to hear if all what he was saying was true, before letting me go alone with him on my first trip.

I would probably think like that too, although I have been the protagonist of such a story myself...!!! I would probably not try to stop it though. After all we don't have the right to decide that much for our children. What are best things for the parents might not be the best thing for the children (not so children anymore at 17). In fact parents that try to interfere in the life of their children like this might change the course of life for them untirely, making the kid pass next to a unique love story, although that is what most mothers want for them. I have not heard often a mother sy "i want a very good looking young rich husband for my 17 year old daughter", but very often "i want a very loving husband for my daughter that can give her comfort, children and a happy life". That is what an elder husband can offer.

I would probably think like that too, although I have been the protagonist of such a story myself...!!! I would probably not try to stop it though. After all we don't have the right to decide that much for our children. What are best things for the parents might not be the best thing for the children (not so children anymore at 17). In fact parents that try to interfere in the life of their children like this might change the course of life for them untirely, making the kid pass next to a unique love story, although that is what most mothers want for them. I have not heard often a mother sy "i want a very good looking young rich husband for my 17 year old daughter", but very often "i want a very loving husband for my daughter that can give her comfort, children and a happy life". That is what an elder husband can offer.

Thanks ever so much for your words. Yep really, 34 years!!! It is kind of weird for us too. As a matter of fact I didn't use to think that much about it, probably to scared it wouldnt work... But now, with time, I can say it has, and I think it is wonderfu. I am so happy many of you think it is wonderfull that we have made it so far. Really it warms up my heart. Thanks loads again and all the best to you too.

As long as you make sure that he is theright person, then go ahead. It is worth the experience at least, and maybe the love story of your life. Who knows.

Thanks ever so much for your nice words and for your positive input.

Thanks, you guys are helping a lot with your coments.

Thank you.

Your view point is much appreciated, thanks.

Thank you, very sweet of you.

Thank you for your happy input. It is true that we have passed many years alone. My friends would have been too young to understand, and his were simply too old (even if younger than him, mentally they were nightmares...), so we have learned to live away from people, so also away from trouble. Today it is different, we live in our motorhome, surrounded by people. I have learned to accept the interests of older people, and I enjoy chatting with them on the morning. From a recluse life to an outdoor life... who would have said... Happy new yera to you my friend.

Congratulation for your parents!!! Mine are soon 36 years together, and they are a very atipic exciting couple, believe me!!!

there should be a multiple + rating in these discutions. You would have got more points. Thank you.

Many thanks visitorinvasion. Hope too. Very positive attitude you have. I like it...

Waou... 2bepink... Wonderful hearing some more positive love story. I am so glad for you. It is true we defenately grow stronger from our problems. I feel that our problems are very different than the ones from other couples. What do you think?

Yes, the fact that a man has got more experience is very positive, They are more patient, know better (that's not always good!!!), and treat us like gold. Iam called Princesa every morning, get fresh pressed orange juice in bed every morning, get served chilled Champagne at dusk (that's why I need mylot to pay for my next bottle, ah ah ah...), and get huggs and kisses all the time... What do you want more...???

I think that is an excellent answer. As you say we are in very different stage of our lifes, and that difference will remain. My husband is settling in while I am in full flight. Sometimes it clashes, but he is highly adaptable, so he is not scared of trying anything. 6 years ago, I was still modeling, and I use to go out dancing on Saturdays in discos of the coast in Spain. Often he would come with me and dance till 6 on the morning. We have not done it much since as our lifes have changed drastically and I don't feel so much for dancing anymore. But I still listen to very loud music... and yes... he does love it, and even ask me to put it on. We use to have a couple of horses and go trecking, and he adores shopping... many points in comon although our age is so different. I guess he finds it exciting... He often states that he would feel bored with a woman of his age. we are surrounded by pensioners, absolutely lovely people, someones very attractive... and they love my husband, but he is use to be with a young person, full of go-go and peps.

Yes, very true Stetson, however, age matters for certain experiences. It is somewhat difficult to do new physical activities with a 70 year old sedentary person. Everything is relative. I know some people who are 74 and 80 odd years old, live in RVs, travel the world, still backpack... but they have done it almost all their life. Beside, if I wanted a child with my husband, most people have the tendancy to think "yes but when the kid is 18, Dad will be 86". Does it matter? Probably not that much, not for me at least, but what about for the child? Anyway I don't regret whatsoever. It is a choice, and I am glad I made that choice when I was 17.

Ah ah, yes babe, as long as she is ok with it, everything is good...