digging up dirt

you definitely need to see a lawyer so you know what your rights are and what you are entitled to. believe me when I say I know. I was married the first time for 16 years and when I left I had to get a lawyer. please do not wait. good luck to you.

Be Honest if you start lieng judge's will get mad they don't like games if you have proof use it when the time comes get a good laywer also have friends that he don't know about do random checks when they can to check on things for you do not do it your self

It is all about the custody, or the fact that there is another woman near your children? You can prove whatever you want by taking photos. She will come out of the house eventually.

Kill them with kindness!! A prime example! In WWII, Danes would buy drinks for the Nazi soldiers. The Nazis were dumb enough to think the Danes did that because they supported them. YAH RIGHT!! The Nazis never refused free drinks, and the Danes had an alterior motive. They waited till the Nazis were so drunk they fell off their bar-stools, then they dragged them into the woods, left them there, stole their weapons and went home. The next day the Nazis woke up with big heads, no memory, and no way to defend themselves. So find a way to be nice to him with an alterior motive, so he doesn't actually KNOW you're trying to get on his level. Deend yourself, and be the better person.

oh no. can you still handle your situation?

is your boys living with him and you are not if so that is a strike against you. if this is the case you need to get your boys with you before you start loking for dirt on him or his girlfriend. if you left your home why! you could have had him leave the home if you two was having problem. if possible go back to your home you can have seperate bed rooms then you will know if the girlfriend is coming there which she probably won't but he will probably leave if he really doesn't want to be with you and then you and the boys will have the home. i am not a lawyer but i don't think you would have to move or sell the house at least until the children are grown

Don't dig up dirt, seek help from the Family Court and a solicitor. Sell the house.

u could always ask ur kids what goes on when they are with their dad...just do it like ur really interested in how much fun they are having...my 5 y/o told me about my ex and even took me right to his g/f's house.....good luck

stay away from him and be independent

She lives in the house? and then you don't? your childeren lives with their dad? i suggest you file for custody already and you have to find someone who can prove that she lives in your house. you have to get your boys from your cheating husband.

Get a good lawyer who CAN fight dirty! Hire a Private Investigator to get some info.. Watch Desperate Housewives!!! Eva Longoria's character fights DIRTYYYYYYYYYY

How old are your children? Here in the Philippines, children below 7 years are under the custody of the mother except for some few reasons. Just follow the law in your country, I think you are protected under the law.

To reciprocate your husbands behaviour is not the solution to your problem as u r not him and can never be him, natures differ,find a good personal counsellor to help u handle things better,in a methodical manner, or a competent lawyer who will guide u on the evidence u need and how to obtain it. All the best.

Break ups are always hardest on the children. Here is some wise advice from someone just been through the court system. Game playing and detectable revenge tactics are frowned on by judges. They look at which parent has the WELFARE OF THE KIDS as their sole aim. Court don't look at who has moved on to a new and with whom as long as it doesn't bring harm to the children. Always try to remain calm when dealing with you ex and at any court hearings. Here in Australia each parent can apply for 50/50 as long as it is practicle. Take a deep breath find out what is best for the kids. ts the kids. What kind of relationship is between him and his kids.

just do what your heart dictates you.

I think I'd know if another girl was living in my house. Unless you don't live there. I would not stoop to his level, that'll just egg him on and he'll probably be more dirty. Maybe try moving away, not too far away but far enough so you don't ever have to see him or his girlfriend but he can still see his kids.

You need to hire an attorney for the right advice.

Hire a private investigator to get proof.

This ia one of the worst situation any girl should be in. I think the best option is to divorce him snd concentrate on your children. Just get out of that house! Pray

You need someone to check the background of both your husband and your girlfriend. It isn't playing dirty, just being wise. Best of luck.