Do men desensitize woman to the dating world?
By talklouder
@talklouder (35)
United States
December 27, 2006 6:33pm CST
Okay, this works for both genders, so please don't take it as I'm a man-hater, etc... This is just coming from my POV, but it works for either gender. Also, this isn't a "woah is me, I was just broken up with" post either. I've been out of the dating scene for a few months, and this has really been on my mind.
So, I guess you could say that I'm your typical "romantic comedy" girl. I always root for the two to get together in the end, and I'm terribly disturbed when they don't. Likewise, I want my life to be a "Romantic Comedy". I want someone to fall for me, walk 500 miles just to be with me, carry me away on horseback, and the whole kitten-caboodle.
So, this is my question. Do men desensitize woman? I've dated a fare share of men in the quest of finding "Mr. Right". I don't judge by weight, height, race, etc... I will date you if I like you, and you fit those little things I'm starting to find I want in "Mr. Right." I've been told multiple times that I'm a great girlfriend, too. I don't cling, I could care less if you have female friends, and I let you live your life.
So, why is it, when you find someone you really like and you start to date, things always take a turn for the worst? And when they end it, we always end up feeling like it was something we did? Even after they tell you that "It's not you, it's me."
After God knows how many times I've been walked on, I've finally quit caring. I'm starting to play men just like a man does to us! I could care less if I'm hurting someone feelings because mine have been hurt so often. This is so out of character for me! I've been walked on after giving the benefit of the doubt just one too many times, and now, I date like all the men who have walked on me! Is it in their nature to be less caring than woman? Is it in their nature to just not care who's heart they're playing with? So, I ask you, do men desensitize woman?
3 responses
@Tip200 (17)
• United States
29 Dec 06
IMHO, Turning into a black widow will not likely solve anything for you. It will only harden you as a person and make you more bitter as time rolls on. The "right" person will come along, usually when you least expect it. As others have said here, don't try to hard and when you are with someone, make sure you are being yourself... really. As a side note, I am starting to feel like people don't take relationships seriously any more from the get-go. Times just seem to be different. Best of luck. ;-)
@Tip200 (17)
• United States
30 Dec 06
Thank you for the clarification. I don't know if men become cruel or simply intolerant. I think both sides have expectations that are high and often unachievable. One can only look in the mirror to see if they are reaping what they have sewn. It is hard to see from your own point of view what kind of impression you have left for the other. People are more likely to run for cover (or be cruel) then be hurt (again). Still slow and steady is the course and ultimately you must choose the high ground when you can.
@talklouder (35)
• United States
29 Dec 06
Oh my, you're all totally missing the point! Yes, I do want to find Mr.Right, but that's not what this is about. I want to know if through dating, women harden themselves to men and the entire dating world. Then, men wonder why women are such be-aches, but in reality, didn't they create the monster (sounds a bit like Frankenstein's monster:-)? I'm not out there "searching" for him! I know he'll come around. I'm just plain dating. Isn't that in essence, "searching"? This is not about me expecting it or not expecting it. This is about how women can avoid becoming just as cruel as men can be in this "dating game".
@what_now (554)
• Canada
28 Dec 06
Easy easy, Take a deep breath, Relax! and now rewind!
You are LOOKING for Mr.Right? well lemme tell you onething Anybody (both sexes) "Looking for" Mr right or miss right are not going to be happy with their relationship because they are already expecting too much out of the other person. One simple thing Don't be looking just WAIT, it'll happen.
Its a known fact we men are physical fkers and you women are emotional. I guess it answers the desentize women part, cheers
@binarycriminal (87)
• India
28 Dec 06
i agree wid you..expectations are the main cause of disappointments...to live a happy life..juz don't expect too much and juz keep it rokin an goin..dis is ma policy ;)
@talklouder (35)
• United States
28 Dec 06
It's not so much looking, you know? But I do go on dates. Is that not looking? In general, aren't you looking for the qualities you know you want in your future husband? But my biggest question really is, how did I go from being so caring and dreamy to being almost mean, and heartless... (well, that may be an exaggeration, but you get the point.)
@natuser28 (907)
• United States
28 Dec 06
If your looking for Mr. Right, than u will be disapointed everytime. Your expections are to high dear. Slow down and stop looking.
