Anyone have trouble deciding where to live and settle down?

When I first got married, 20 years ago, I didn't care where I lived! In fact, I couldn't wait to move out of my home town and live somewhere else. I had grown up in the same house my whole life and had never moved. So, we got married and moved 3 hours north. I loved it! Until 4 years later when the kids came.... Then I wanted my mom. I talked with her on the phone and we visited a lot, but it just wasn't the same as being there with her. So, 4 years after that, when my hubby got a job offer back near my hometown, we moved back. Now we live in the house I grew up in! And I can't imagine living anywhere else. Honest.

I have this trouble now, I have no family now so I am free to go anywhere but that is a huge decision to make, I just have to hope one day something will come along that I know that is where I want to spend the rest of my life as soon as I see it.

My gf would like to go farther north and I would like to be out of the town we are in as I have been here forever and wouldnt mind a change of scenery.So, it's just a matter of technicalities and financing,lol, what else is new?

It is always adificult issue deciding where to settle in.this mostly depends on the job location of the husband,However, if both husbands and wife are working, the decision becomes triky.one of the two has to compromise and decide the settling place mutually togethar.The couple must live togethar as far as possible so as to have fruitful marraige life.

my husband is in it industry ,he keep on changing,i am also confused where to live but now i think where your parents,friends live that is the good place,or the place where lot of security,less crime,i think you have to decide.

i must tell you, i am an army brat. i have lived all over the world. but i have been living in NYC for over 20 years now. It is the greatest place in the world. of all the places i have ever lived, i am in love with this greate state.

Hey just think of the place that will be the best for your family if you think you will be happy there thats the best decision dont cloud your mind with so much of confusion

I guess it will be the same thing that will be happening to me. In days or so, we will be moving out with my inlaws. We just purchased a residential unit, and were eager already to stay there. Though its not that far, it will take 30-45 minute drive, but the feeling to be away for your relatives is quiet unbearable..

I also have trouble decideing because today the world is so dangerous you dont know where to go and all you want is a safe enviroment for your children and sometime no matter where you go you cant even get that!

Maybe you should try live first the place for few months then decide if you want to stay there for the rest of your life.

I am in the same situation! My husband and I have narrowed the possibilities by asking oursleves a few things: 1.) What type of seasons do you like? Warm all year-Florida. Cold all year-Maine and North, or a good mix of all seasons? 2.) Do you want to live in a tornado, eathquake, or hurricane prone area? 3.) Cost of living vs. inocme 4.) Safety (stay out of New York City!!) 5.) Do you want to live near relatives? 6.) Schools and jobs We just narrowed it down and decided to stay here in NC. We really do love it here and have the best of all seasons and we are in a safe location with a reasonable cost of living and good income. We are also close to relatives. I wish you luck in your choice-it can be a tough one!

Yip, I would Love to stay in Brisbane, Australia but my wifes family and mine is here in South Africa. I don't mind leaving my fam behind _ I could always come for holiday and with Technology _ we could chat plenty but shedoesn't wanna. www.work2dream.com

ya i have decided to settle down in india with my parents and my family,after getting a good job,i feel very friendly nature in living in my home.......