Do you keep secrets from your spouse?

I think it is extremely unhealthy to keep secrets from your spouse/partner. If your partner keeps a secret that could effect the marriage, it is a guarantee to effect the marriage even more by keeping it a secret. The one keeping the secret will have to lie and hide...creating a wall that will prevent the complete bound. Then one lie leads to another. And if it is ok for that one secret then more will follow. Creating such a wall that is so high and thick, all closeness and bound will be lost. On the flip side, the one the secret being kept from suffers also. That partner will feel the distance and be left feeling alone. If that partner tries to confront the other trying to reconnect, there is rejection and that leads to a break in thr trust. That trust broken is a terrible pain that may not be possible to mend. In turn, if you have children, this effects the whole family. The children will feel and see the tension that is between the two parents. Thus, they may feel as if they have to choose sides or even withdraw themselves. So now, not only is the marriage being lost...but the bound with the children are being lost also. If the two people in the marriage or partnership want to make the relationship work, then by all means, there must not be any secrets or hiding. Even if one cheated on the other...if you truly care about each other, it can be worked out if there is honesty....complete honesty. Tough discussion question! LOL

There is very little I can keep secret from my husband. I'm not sure I even have any secrets from him. I figure at some point, when I'm feeling like he can handle anything I might have to say (nothing really bad- just stuff that he wouldn't particularly like), then I tell him. There are little things I haven't told him.. like how I went to pull a pair of his favorite boxers out of the washing machine, but they caught on the agitator in the middle.. and they ended up tearing. I was really mad at him for something at the time, so I kind of helped the process along. LOL :cough: That's one of the few little secrets I have.

Sometimes yea.

No, i never hide anything from my gf. Thats not good for our future, no matter how much it hurts her. I have told everything about my past to my gf, and she is understanding enough to know it with a smile on her face. Every person in this world has something to hide, i have too. But she is my life partner and she deserves to know me completely.I love her

nope i don't think it's healthy at all. you're each other's half that's what's marraige is about. you should be able to share everything with each other especially if it's something that 's goin to affect your marraige.

I think it's better not to disclose all things that happened to you in the past, most specially if this would affect your marriage. Some things are better left unsaid. Past is past. Enjoy your relationship with your spouse and live a happy life together.