7 year old son

Hi, congratulations on your new baby. I think you son may be acting up because of all the upheavals in his life. Why don't you spend a bit of time with him and explain why you had to move and how sad you were about the breakup of your relationship. It will give him a chance to tell you his feelings on moving ect. Keep your voice calm though and don't raise it as he will get defensive. Tell him how sad his behaviour is making you also and ask him if there is any way you can help him.

I hope when you moved out of state you had permission from the court to do so and the agreement of the dad, because if you didn't the dad can file kidnapping charges against you. It is against the federal laws now to move out of state without permission from the state you left and a court order and the children's father has to agree to it. As for the baby congrats. Your seven year old is jealous of your new baby, and is angry with you. He needs his father in his life. You better get an attorney concerning you move out of state. Does the children's dad know where you are? I speak from experince and because we have two attorny's in our family.

I just had my son write me a list of all the things he was angry and upset about. I explained to him that we couldn't make things better if I didn't know exactly what the problems were! He's 8. And after he got done ( I made him do it in his room so he would have no distractions) we sat down and went through the list. And he actually apologized! And so did I because I'm not perfect either. I hope this makes a difference. It was certainly worth a shot! Good Luck!

Sorry to hear about your situation.. Do you think he may also be acting out because of his DAD not being around??? Also because you have just had a new Baby (Congrats to you) he MAY feel a little resentment.. Give him time and when you can.. Have some time with him and let him know you love him. Its a difficult time for all of you but I just think he made need you a little more now than ever.. Does he still get to see his Dad???

well try to instill discipline to your son.. so he wont grow up to be a badmouther..

is verry natural that kind of problem !try to hire a babysiter !:)

Kids today seem to be discovering their independent natures a lot earlier these days, all kids no matter what their lives have broght to them seem to go through the same stages, I guess all you can do is plead to his sense of compassion and hope he at least meets you half way...I really hope things work out for you, life is sometimes not easy.

I understand how you feel. I have a 6 year old myself and my husband isn't the kind who would understand a child's feelings. I just had a baby by C-section a month ago and my son behaves the same way now. He was a great child. The thing you need to do is spend some time with him and talk to him. You won't get a proper response the first time because he won't know why he is acting out the way he does. But consistency is the key. Keep asid some time each day for him...do something constructive with him. I got my son to write something about the new baby and how he felt.

Tell him that you me his help more then ever and as he is quite a big boy he would be a big help at home taking care of big things the youngests cant. Also that you would be very proud of him with his help. In short, meke him feel he is the most important person at home and without him you would be lost. By the way, congratulations for the baby.

i have a n 8 yr old son and i was pregnant when he was 7. he helped me out tremendousley with his younger brother(then 5). i basically talk to my kids as I would anyone. i would explain to them that mommy needs some help right now, because of the c section(explain what that is) and with the new baby. promise that as soon as you are better, you wont need his help as often and make it look like hes a big boy and a lil man for being so helpful(i use the man of the house phrase a lot, it makes him feel proud to help). best of luck to you hun

This is a sad situation. Very often the parents that are involved in situations like this think immediately about the situation and the kids are along for the ride. You son had little decision in what transpired recently in his little young life. Just like adults experience stress when faced with new situations, or negative events, your son is probably under a bit of his own emotional stress. It is very common for them to act out when they are under this type of stress, because they don't always know how to express what they are feeling inside--so they bottle it up and it comes out in the form of misbehavior. If you can't sit your son down and help him talk about what he is feeling, you may want to seek the assistance of a family couselor who can help you both learn to talk to each other, as well as mediate the situation giving you tips in how to control the whole ordeal you are going through. A counselor can help pull out of your son the root of why he is angry, why he is sad, without making him feel like he is wrong for feeling these emotions at the present time. See, you are focusing on his acting out and negative behavior and not at the fact that he has something going on emotionally that is making him act out. And if you react to the situation by being angry at him for his behavior, he will never open up to you and will further close himself up into a cocoon. He's young--get him some counseling so you don't have longterm problems resulting from this drastic change in your family dynamics. Kids cannot handle family shake ups and stress like adults...

Personally, I wouldn't necessarily go with talking about his feeling right away, I would address teh behaviour. He has to learn that regardless of how he is feeling, there are expectations for his behaviour that will not change. Set strict rules and enforce them, make sure he has responsibilities that are actually fucntional....like "take out the garbage on Tuesday and Thursday, NOT be a good example for your other borhters and sisters. He is trying to get attention so give it to him in the form of discipline and duty. When you talk with him talk about Him. What he needs to do, what he needs to accomplish, not what everyone else needs from him. I bet he'll start talking once the ground rules get enforced consistently. There is nothing wron with him talking about his feelings, but you might wish to have him do that with a professional to diffuse his rendency to let those feelings spill out in unacceptable ways at home. That way he has a set place and set time to talk about those things, until he has adjusted to the new situation. As he gets calmer then talking about his feelings at home might be safer.

You moved to another state, left his father, had a baby by either the same man or somebody else, and have been laid up for over twomonths. And you think MOST of this is because he is a hyper seven year old? Lady, you tore the kid away from everything he ever knew, there is a new baby in his world, he has started a new school. How much change do you think a child can handle in one short span of time? He probably can't verbalize what all he is feeling. Take an afternoon and spend it with him. Ask him how he is doing. Ask him how he feels. TALK to him.

Sorry to hear about your situation.. But do you think that he may also be acting out because of his dad not being arround? Have some time with him and let him know you love him... Its a difficult time for all of you but I just think he made need you a little more now than ever.. Does he still get to see his dad??

Its difficult to manage all on your own, you must have some one to help you, spend some time talking to your son everyday, even if you busy with the new one

Maybe you should let your son to visit his father or vice versa for him not to missed his father so much. Maybe he act that way because he just missed his father.

i agree with most people really on this topic, let your boy spend some time with his father if he can and then when your feeling better have a chat with him and maybe treat him because he may feel a bit left out now that you have just had a baby and he will probably will be missing his dad and that's why he's getting a bad temper on him! congrats anyway and hope everything works out for you, good luck! :O)

I just want to say, communication is important with a child, if not , you cannot know what he think , and what he want, family need more communication to smooth, If I have a son, I hope can care it good.

I understand that you left the state and had another child. Is this new child from the same man. I don't know the situation between you/your ex, but try to understand that you made a decision to move out of state, not your kids. So they are going to have some things they don't understand and are going to act out, not always in a way you want. Bare with him, try to talk to him and explain why you made the decision you made, and also unless the dad is a threat to the kids, let them spend time with him. Doreen

I THINK HE SHOULD BE TAKEN ON A VACATION FOR 3-4 DAYS AS THE ATMOSPHERE AROUND HIM WILL CHANGE HE WILL BECOME GOOD MUST ALSO KEEP AN EYE ON THE SORT COMPANY OF FRIENDS HE SPENDS HIS MOST OF THE TIME WITH AS TIME GOES BY HE WILL BECOME NORMAL