Do Long distance internet relationships work?
By Sinbadd
@Sinbadd (126)
United States
December 28, 2006 1:19am CST
I am proof that some actually do. I met my wife in a chatroom. We spent 2 long years apart before we actually met in person and during those 2 long years we copped a lot of negativity about our relationship. People saying that it would never work, but I am glad to say that it did work for us. I think that the main thing in a relationship like that is having complete trust in each other and then comes communication. I think if your relationship doesn't have those 2 main ingredients then I reckon it is doomed to failure. I would be interested in what people think and would love to hear from others who have been in those sort of relationships.
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@hare_krishna (20)
• India
29 Dec 06
Life is all about destiny. You met her in the internet and she became your life partner, don't you think what if there is no internet. she is made by GOD for you. You are going to get her anyway and you got her.
@shooie (4984)
• United States
29 Dec 06
hey there sinbadd. I met my hubby online a lil over 10 years ago and well we were about 3000 miles apart and started out as just friends and love developed. We didn't meet until three years later and well when we met for the first time in May 1999it was like he had been on vacation and was finally hope to stay. Online you talk more and get to know the peorson on a more mental level. We married in August 1999 and have been married ever since so like 7 and half years for us. I would do it all over again. You are right Trust and communications are the main ingredients to a relationship and it is put to the test when online and is developed to a stronger level than face to face. Don't you think?
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@NancyLobo (680)
• India
29 Dec 06
Yes, it is really nice to know that you met your wife in the chatroom, yes when you are good friends and know each others natures well through a lot of discussions then it really helps. yes this tool is really good for th eyounger generations to find their soul mate.
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@surithenapster (45)
• India
29 Dec 06
I think so i may not be happen a long relationship work .Because they dont who we are and we dont know who they are .We just believe on what they said on the internet .IT may false or true to get impress on u they will say false profile to get attracted .so in my opinion it doesnt work.Ofcourse if the relationship is really good u are the luckiest person in the world
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@rekhitha (176)
• India
29 Dec 06
i have really good friends.. who i have met online.. and we share a really good relationship bond.. i think long distance internet relationships work out as long as long as you are faithful to yourself and to the person... i am really happy your relationship worked out. Have a gr8 life together.
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@jeanena (2198)
• Bucklin, Kansas
29 Dec 06
I have mixed feelings about the online relationships, my daughter has been involved in 2 of them and had hell because of them. But then again you go thro the same sort of thing with relationships started with people you meet in normal ways .
Thumbs up to you Sinbadd
@koikoikoi (1246)
• United States
29 Dec 06
Well first of all congratulations to you I have never heard of anything like this. I would say that some do work and some unfortunately don't. But I agree that trust is the key to a solid relationship. I met a girl playing Half-Life on multi-player and we actually got along. We started talking, and became friends, we conversate like I never though I would. Unfortunately she lives in Florida but if we really want to be together thanks to your story anything can happen.
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@AlmightyBigfoot888 (553)
• United States
29 Dec 06
i don't think all of them do, and only a select few actually do.
congrats on your achievement though :)
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@rakeshdas (427)
• India
29 Dec 06
I dont know if it workd or not but the story about me is not so good. I was hurt. But can pray for u:) best of luck man
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@jen20619 (1300)
• Ireland
29 Dec 06
I think its lovely you met your wife this way and it has worked.You got to spend a lot of time chatting to your wife before you met and you got to know her mind before her body.This is a great thing for a stronge and lasting relationship.Good luck
@amey_dev143 (483)
• India
29 Dec 06
They work sometimes.If you chat with them regularly then definately it works.
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@aileen2008 (838)
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
It depends, if you are really serious with each other, well, it might work.
I have an officemate who met her boyfriend in a chatroom. After 9 mos they got married. We met the guy and he seemed to be nice. He is actually a US soldier.
His parents are nice too, so we don't have doubts that her husband is nice as well.
Wherever you meet your partner is not an issue here. It's how serious you are in nourishing your relationship to make it last.
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@am99gt (187)
• United States
29 Dec 06
I think they can work for those who want them to. I couldn't see myself being able to have one. I have a hard time reading a person of the net. If you know what I mean. Of couse the phone and voice chat would help. I do love to hear of those who have made it though
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@gotcho0O (1257)
• United States
29 Dec 06
We're in a 2 years and months long distance relationship right now. It's really hard because we've been 5 years on and off before when we were together. Thank goodness I got the chance of seeing him for just 2 weeks last september and I really miss him. I believe that it'll be successful if you both have good communication and yes, the trust.
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@iluvpeaches2 (170)
• United States
29 Dec 06
That is good for you! I believe it is perfectly possible for something like this to happen. I met a guy about 5 years ago and we totally hit it off. He was older than me and lived in london, while I live in the US. We talked back and forth for about 2 years. We were both completely in love and he often told me that he wondered if there would ever be a chance when we could actually be together. Well... he met someone else online that lived closer to him and went to meet her one weekend (I even talked to the girl in the same chatroom)! I had no idea that they were romantically involved until the gals neighbor who was also in the same chat told everyone in the chat that they had kissed! They bloke broke my heart! I was really depressed for a long time, and it still upsets me. He was definitely someone that I could have spent my life with. He understood me and knew everything about me. I'm married now, but every once in a while- even though that guy broke my heart- we talk online like we are good old friends. I miss him a lot!
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@kring2x (15)
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
i met my fiancee through internet too. He lives in America and i live here in the Philipines.we do online chat almost everyday.BUt the relationship is stil intact and i love him.we have constant communication. Its great to know that its owrked for both of u! keep that up!
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@Syphon (286)
• Germany
29 Dec 06
I had such relationships twice time. Once it was 5 months long, the other over 1 year. We had nothing to say anymore....Now I got a new which is over 8 months old. And the last one won't broke up so fast ;) She lives in the same city like I :) The two before were from different countries lol. So, yes it depends also from where the person comes :) You take it then more seriously because there is a chance of seeing each other. Of course things like interests and so on plays a big role whether it will be something or no.
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@kerry7777 (22)
• Trinidad And Tobago
28 Dec 06
well i ahev tried them for two yars now and noe has worked for me thus far. Tell me what you didi that i may have not done. Please contact me.i would like to know.
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@Sinbadd (126)
• United States
29 Dec 06
Hi there Kerry, I'm new to this mylot thingy and I'm not sure whether this is how to reply to your response to my topic on internet relationships or not but here goes. Well you see I have actually had a couple of serious relationships online before I met my wife online and they just didn't work out. Believe you me after those couple of times I didn't think I would jump into another one, but hey here I am married to a girl I met in a chatroom. I wasn't actually looking for anymore relationships at the time, it just happened.It took a lot of determination, trust and communication on both our parts.The more people told us it wouldn't work, the more determined we were to MAKE it work. Sure we had our ups and downs and our fights as you do in a relationship. Whenever we had a fight and one would try and break it off, the other one would remind them about our commitment we made to each other and how we were gonna prove everyone wrong then we would make up and say sorry. We both must've spent hundreds, maybe even thousands of dollars on calling cards..lol, because for the whole 2 years that we were b/friend and g/friend, before we actually met in person and got married, we chatted online then on the phone nearly everyday and night. When one wouldn't call the other then the other would call and get angry because the other one didn't call. lol. I hope that wasn't too confusing lol. In fact one of my nephews would say to me, "geez uncle what are you's gonna talk about when you're married?" lol, the little punk..well litlle big punk as he's bigger than me, lol. But yeah, a whole lot of determination, communication, unconditional love, and trust saw us through and we still have all those things keeping us going. Well thats about all I can tell you right now kerry. I wish you all the best.
