MINI SKIRTS
By Sailor
@Sailor (1160)
United States
September 26, 2006 10:58pm CST
I have a serious question and woul like for the parents who do this tell me why. My girlfriend has a 12 year old daughter, I wont allow her to wear come get me clothes outside. But I steadily see girls her age and younger wearing skirts so short that if they dropped money they couldn't pick it up. Why is this?
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47 responses
@MINDY0882 (2302)
• United States
7 Oct 06
I dont think young children even teens should wear these type of clothes it will send the wrong message to the wrong people. They may not realize it , just want to wear it because they think its cute or the fashion. I would not let my child wear this b.c I would not want someone to get the wrong idea and be looking at my kid that way.
@Sailor (1160)
• United States
8 Oct 06
Please see the reply I will be writting for cute boy. I'm glad to see it is not just me. There have been times when her daughter and I are shopping somewhere, and I would let her know what she looked like wearing those skirts. After she saw what she looked like she agreed with me. I also explained to her how many people call those skirts money makers, and her Mom explained the type of money being made while wearing those skirts, I tell people there is a time and place for everything. 12 and around that age is niether the time nor place.
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@mrsjumppuppy03 (3301)
• United States
10 Oct 06
Parents are too busy being their childs best friend and never even looks at the outfits before they leave home. My child prefers the longer lenghths ~~ Thank God. I have a freind, who allows her child to wear the minis, but she has to have shorts on underneath. The hoochie wear is what they see on tv, ect.. I think it is making them too much of a tease at too young of an age and the kids have no idea of how to handle the attention. The clothing industry needs to make the lengths longer.
@cuteboy (170)
• India
7 Oct 06
People like u are so conservative....
U dont like freedom...
They wear what they like.....
who are u to tell not to wear...those clothes..
If they are not feeling discomfort...over wearing those...what urges u....to pose a questioning them..
Let them express their freedom.....
@Sailor (1160)
• United States
8 Oct 06
If every person tried to help at least one but preferrably 2 people, then things would slowly turn around. But for the most part nobody does a thing and the schools allow the kids to come to school looking like they are going to make some lunch money or something. I am the son of a teacher(retired),and I believe that we should not put the whole burden on them, but they are the ones that see our kids all day long, and some parents really don't know what their children wear to school.
@busymommy (260)
• United States
9 Oct 06
If we all boycot buying yong children these types of clothes then the companies would not sell them anymore. Thats what we can do!! Get the word out that we don't want to see girls wearing this kind of stuff!
@sillygirlsd (959)
• United States
7 Oct 06
Your not her father....and your not married to her mother...the situation would be different if you were married....Her mother should be the one to tell her what to wear...i think it's uncomfortable for a man to tell a 12yr old that her skirt is too short....
@sillygirlsd (959)
• United States
7 Oct 06
I personally would not let my kid wear revealing clothing! Yeah It's freedom of speech for you too tell anyone anything...It's called an opinion...Mylot is for people to ask questions to get others opinions!!!
If I was 12 and my mother's bf told me not to wear short skirts that would make me feel uncomfortable....I would let her mom tell her not to wear it or her father to talk to her about the clothes she wears!!!
@Sailor (1160)
• United States
8 Oct 06
Yes I agree that it would be uncomfortable for a man and the mothers BF to tell a young girl about her clothing, but first of all, it was not her mother putting her in this clothing and her mother agreed with me. I don't know where you are located out of, but this was going on while she was living in Big Bear ,CA. It gets cold up there and snows. And I never mentioned anything to my GF daughter until after I noticed she was comfortable around me, and her Mom would be around me while we as a group are talking about this. Some of the skirts I have seen young girls wear are so short they cant pick up money off the ground without revealing themselves. I don't care, I might be old fashioned, but there is a time to put your foot down and say your not wearing that!
@busymommy (260)
• United States
9 Oct 06
You have a right to say something! If your GF says its okay then you can. I think parents don't pay attention to what their children wear. I really think some of them give their children money and drop them off at the store and say pick out clothes I will be back to pick you up at a certain time! Some parents just shouldnt be parents!
@pbrown042 (50)
• United States
14 Oct 06
I don't know that I would necessarily tell the daughter myself, rather tell the parent and have her talk to the daughter. My husband has two children, one of which is a nine year old girl, and I don't tell her what to wear. I just talk to her father and express my concern to him, and let him do the talking. It's sort of his job and her mother's job to have that kind of conversation. I think it's totally okay for you to have an opinion on the situation because you care about your girlfriend's daughter. But just so that she is less defensive hearing it from a parent, I would leave the actual conversation up to her.
@mrsjumppuppy03 (3301)
• United States
15 Oct 06
Question for Pbrown042, regarding your response. I understand that these are your husbands children from a prior marriage, but you are now their step-mother. With being a step-mother, you also have an obligation to help raise these children as if they were your own. With that said, why are you not taking a more active approach with them? They are your children, not visitors in your home any longer.
@Sailor (1160)
• United States
14 Oct 06
It started as me just letting her Mom know like what your saying, but she is not as direct as I am, plus it was hard for her to talk to her daughters grandmother, so I asked if she wanted me to help, because I did mention that I won't allow things to happen to those in my household, and I don't plan on going to prison because someone thought her daughter was grown! When I shed light to her grandmother, she understood, especially when I explained she is wasting her money because she is not allowed to wear those type of clothes out of our house. As for the girls father, he's not around.
@pbrown042 (50)
• United States
15 Oct 06
to jumppuppy, first of all, I do have an active role in their lives. I give them love, help them with school, get on to them when they misbehave, etc. They, however, do not live with us, and my husband sees them very little as it is. I think he should do the parenting in our home, especially over serious issues. Now if they lived in my home, it would be totally different.
@ossie16d (11821)
• Australia
11 Oct 06
Firstly you do not have the right to tell this young lady what she can, or cannot, wear if you are not living together. That is up to her mother and father.
All teens do rebel a little and possibly she acts the way she does because she knows what your reaction will be. When I was much younger and still living with my parents I used to wear mini skirts and my father set the rules. The length, or shortness of them if you prefer, was determined by whether or not I could reach up high without showing my undies. If they showed, the skirt was too short but if not then I could wear the outfit. Also I was taught that I should kneel/bend down to pick something up and not bend over.
@chalmette69 (3007)
• United States
21 Oct 06
I don't think this child should be wearing such things, but only her parent can tell her what to do, I would talk to her parents, I mean they should starte realizing the thing that can happen to her wearing such a thing.
@chalmette69 (3007)
• United States
21 Oct 06
If her mom wants your help, then great, you should definatly give your opinion, I think you are a great guy to be wanting to help out, there are so many men out there who don't care, you keep up the good work and I would definatly try to get her to stop wearing these clothes.
@JulietsMom777 (1182)
• United States
7 Oct 06
I think parents don't pay attention to their children as much as they should and the young girls want attention and they follow what they see on t.v. . Im 22 and I don't even wear skirts like that I don't want to send the wrong messages besides being married and I also don't want rude comments being yelled out to me. It is so good that you don't allow her to wear those clothes , my daughter is 9 months when she is older she will not be allowed to wear clothes like that at all.
@JulietsMom777 (1182)
• United States
9 Oct 06
I agree with you on that, now that you've said that it made me think, im going to tell that to my daughter and my children in the future.
@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
14 Dec 06
I don't think teens or anyone younger should wear revealing clothes. When they do and some weird guy hits on them, they wonder why. I'm 24 and I don't wear short skirts or anything that reveals to much. Stuff like that does say "come get me" or something worse.
@Weasel_Sponge (1069)
• Canada
14 Oct 06
In response to Sailor and anyone who suggests he is wrong or old-fashioned for his beliefs and behaviours, let me say that I applaud you for being a man of integrity and dignity, and preparing this girl for the world. People should not be worried that you are "limiting" this young girl's self-expression;I would be more concerned by the man who ISN'T disturbed by a 12 year old wearing a mini-skirt outside. What's more, she's 12 years old, and at 12 years old, a GIRL is nowhere near mature enough to understand what sexy or revealing clothing suggests, nor should they have to learn. We need to let children be children, and neither push them nor allow them to grow-up too fast. Childhood is short enough.
@Sailor (1160)
• United States
15 Oct 06
Thank you very much, in fact I was just telling her last night that she may be upset at me now at times, but when she is in her 20's and forces a may to realize her for her capabilities instead of her attributes, she will thank me whether she wants to admit it or not.
@Weasel_Sponge (1069)
• Canada
14 Oct 06
I also just wanted to add that girls learn how to be treated by men and form their opinions about themselves in relation to men based on their relationships with the male role models in their lives. It is so important that you are teaching her that she should respect herself and not simply put herself out there for the enjoyment of men who may not be so virtuous in their intentions.
@Sailor (1160)
• United States
2 Dec 06
Yes, and in some cases I've seen the parents wear stuff entirely too tight for the bodies they have. But I always wonder what were/are people thinking wen they have their kids running around like that, but when their hanging out with the girls, they are quick to call another woman a HOE for dressing the same way they have their daughters dressing?????!!!! I'm CONFUSED.
@shooie (4984)
• United States
28 Nov 06
first like to say thanks for caring enough to not let her wear them outside. When my husband see's these young girls coming down the street he goes here comes the ho patrol or something like that. No one has the right to touch these girls no matter how they dress. But parents and the girls don't realise when they dress this way they are basically saying come and get it even if that is not what they mean. like my gosh some of the shorts they have in the stores are like underwear... A parent that lets their child go out looking like a ho should be whipped
@Sailor (1160)
• United States
2 Dec 06
Yes, I so agree with your husband. Some of these clothes look like victorias secrets but to be worn on the outside, and as I said in a previous response you've got guys that prey on children, there is no reason to make your daughter look like she wants that persons attention. I have heard of many "Statuatory Rape Cases" where the Judge sided with the ale because of the way the girl was dressed, carried herself and her general actions. Even if she did sho up in court with her pigtails. People must educate their children as to the Pandora's Box they are opening when they dress like this.
@shooie (4984)
• United States
10 Dec 06
yes agree about parents responsiblity on this...my step daughters hated going shopping for clothes because their dad and the mean step mom was with wm...lol they would have to put something on and come out of the dressing room and the dad said yes or no on what they had on. I have a 10 year old neice and the grand mother thinks she should wear make up am like oh hell no....why make kids grow up so fast....thats what is wrong with them today.
@tamilselvan2006 (1830)
• India
4 Dec 06
HEY GUY YOUR ARE NOT MARRIED HER MOTHER WHO YOU TELL LIKE THIS. I THINK 12 YEAR BABY IS NO PROBLEM WEARING SKIRTS
@Inconspicuous (349)
• United States
22 Oct 06
I don't know why some parents let their very young daughters go out with mini skirts and other inappropriate clothing. I guess it is because of the changing of the times. Parents today do not have the same values as parents of yesterday, and are much more lenient.
I know I would not allow my daughter out dressed inappropriately.
@angelbrown (154)
• United States
28 Oct 06
They just haven't been taught any better. I have a 15 yr old and you wouldn't dare catch her dressed like that.
@kckalesh (1181)
• India
28 Oct 06
Around the turn of the 21st century, hipster trousers became highly fashionable for women. The micro has been reworked as an even less substantial "beltskirt", which is more an evocation of the idea of a skirt than something that covers anything substantial. It may perhaps also provide rhythm for the hipline. Due to its revealing nature, the "beltskirt" is rarely worn in public. Miniskirts are also seen worn over trousers or jeans, or with strap-on trouser "leggings" that provide coverage of each leg from above the knee. Although "floaty" skirts were most closely associated with the "boho" look of the mid noughties, short skirts also featured in some outfits and in London, for example, minis were more widespread during the hot summer of 2006 than for several years.
@justiceangel (132)
• United States
28 Oct 06
there is no way my kid would be wearing that anywhere .....that just wont happen in my house.