Why you shouldn't say the "N" word...

Mm, I really can't relate. It's funny, I'm from one of the first european countries to start the african slave trade, and yet, we don't really have an "N" word. We do have a similar word, but it's not that "emotionally charged" and if said without malice, not many people, even black people, will take it badly, it's just considered not very politically correct (although it often appears on television). There are even poems where it appears and I can think of at least one street name that has that word. If I said the "N" word, it would have no real racial intent behind it, though I'm sure *someone* out there would get offended. BTW, doesn't "n*gger" come from the word "negro"? Amusingly, in my country, "negro" is the politically correct word for "black person", while "black", which translates as "preto" is the not so polite word. "What kind of topsy-turvy world is this (...)?!" Anyway, why is your boyfriend physically harming you? Now THAT is inexcusable! "N" word or not, an elbow to the eye in an argument is not the way to go...

even though you was wrong his elbow shouldnt have went in your eye but you are never to say that again there is a pain behind that word that you will never feel

You shouldn't say it because well it goes back quite a while but its very offensive but the fact that he elbowed you is just plain wrong, you should report him or something i mean thats like abuse.

Though you never had said it before, I think you used it because sub-consciously you knew it would hurt him. Since you were arguing and it was getting heated, the name calling and arguing were likely to escalate to that point. It's a good thing that he knows you better, because most people would not forgive for such an insult.

First of all do you know where that word derived from. Go back in history and find out. Thats disrespect in ever meaning of it. No matter how mad you were you should of known better. I am suprised that he forgave you, because part of you is racist. Do you know if you have kids together they will be part african american. Just hope none of his family or your future kids find out. I assure you they will see you in a different light.

No one should ever have to take physical abuse. Forgive him for hitting you but if he does it again you should not get married. That's when it really starts to show!

what is wrong with niger? it is just like calling someone californian or scottish many blacks were picked up in a place galled Niger in Africa yet the americans call it nyshur (or something like that) people who get offended must not like their ancestry

I don't care what you said, no man should ever put his hands, or elbow on you... especially to the point where there is blood everywhere. I don't care if you call it a f-up fee ... this is not what real love is. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not EASILY ANGERED, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth. It always PROTECTS, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails...

rofl hilarious! I think you got served. On a serious note, I hope your eye gets better and you and your fiance get married

well firstly. i believe u never said it. But i dont believe u NEVER thought it b4. i hate when ppl say i said iti out of anger in the moment of passion..whatever. thats BS. becuz if that word is even inur vocabulary. u've thought about saying it n u know that it hurts. in my opinion that makes u racist. point blank.

wow tell me what the n word is

I agree that say the N word is a word that shouldn't be said...but that is no reason for a man to put his hands on u.....no excuse what so ever.....If I were u I would have left and not looked back...but back to the N word.....The end word is such a hateful because of the ties that it has with slavery.......however if u look at music video, tv, mostly black program the word is used like water on a daily basis...but in different context.....as a term of endearment....but it just how u say it...i myself don't the word because it is negative...be mindful of that fact....the next time u are thinking of that word.....

I know the step your fiance took was extreme but , youve gotta understand that even though, i dosent affect anyone , it keeps the cycle of hate on , that in someway makes it go on for ever and ever and this makes it even more,difficult to forget the past and keeps reminding people of the level that humans could stoop to just to have their way ! i knw that it was a mistake, but uve gotta avoid using it, as ure just making it worse, even if you are just saying it in anger....... think about it

Learn to bite your tongue. Also get out a dictionary and learn some new words you can use when you fight. That word has been used forever as a negative word meant to put point out that you are different than me or that I am better than you. I am not black but I can't believe how people lack respect for others so much they would say something that can shake the very soul of a black person. Are you nuts. Think about it for a minute. Is there anything else you could have said that could hurt more?? Next time if you are fortunate enough to have a next time, please just leave the area until you both calm down enough to act like adults. I sure hope there were no kids around to hear how love hurts.

I've read a couple of your comments, and the one thing that hit me was the fact that you are an abused woman taking up for your "man". You keep blaming yourself for his actions. Yes, you were WRONG for running your mouth like that, but a real man NEVER puts his hands on a woman. You keep making excuses for him and one day he's going to seriously injure or kill you. But it almost sounds like you feel that without all the drama and his violent outbursts, you feel he may not love you or something (is that why you keep running off at the mouth instigating fights?). Trust me... him beating on you is NOT love or a sign that he really cares. What you need to do is get you a box of GRITS, and the next time he hits you... the next morning cook him a nice big breakfast including the grits and through them on his a$$. BTW... I find it hard to believe that you have NEVER said the N word before that day. Whatever you think about often is what comes out of your mouth. So when a person says that they didn't mean what they said, I find that hard to believe. You say what you've been thinking about.

sometime v speak some words which v relly dont mean. u werw hurt in your eye which might b very painful but she is hurt in the heart which is ever more painful than yours, . u should should explain her that u didnt mean that

I know I am guilty of it too. I dont like to say it. But if I am really mad it slipps out. You just cant help it. You should have your eye checked out. Take care of it yours eyes are important.

I have heard lots of people talk about this and I would like to hear your comments about it. We know its a harsh horrible word, its oppressive and demeaning and just plain hateful. But basically since Hip Hop was first introduced many African Americans made the "N"word common place and use it in their everyday chit chat with each other. Is this okay? Is their a difference between a non black person saying it and a black person saying? I believe their is a difference, non blacks useage of the "N" word is usually in a demeaning manner, ie, making fun, telling racist jokes etc. When blacks use this word they are reclaiming it. I think they are giving it a different meaning that only they can use. I'm not black but thats my take on it, what's yours?

I am not and never will be a racist. I don't say that word because it is offensive to black people. When I came to the states I couldn't understand why people got upset at the word because as a child in Scotland where I never even saw a black person until I was about 13yrs old. There was a children's ditty about "ten little n....." it was not until Oprah Winfery explained what it meant to a black person that I understood why they regard it as insulting. Although I am curious why they call each other the n..word.

I don't want to offend anyone by what im going to post. I have a black father and white mother. I grew up listening to that word from my mother, my nic name was little N. My sisters have married white men, and each time they get into a fight they are called the N word. There is no excuse and yes they think that way if you say it. Now the phyiscall abuse part. Honey that man hit you, you will feel that again. He would never be able to baby me again unless i heard it on the radio. Im not giving you sympathy, im giving you a warning. Yes there is pain with that word, but most of us have not felt it. I have because I had to live with it. I had to live with a grand father that would say it each time my dad came home from work, and he lived in our house. My aunt told me once that the N word was not for a group of people that it was for the one who calls it " a very ingorant person" Anyone could be a N,as long as they showed their ignorance. I love my self to much to allow someone to hurt me, to draw blood to stick around for them to do it again. I hope you went to the doctors for the eye. And I dont care what you said you didnt deserve that blow. So, your blaming your self. You have a pattern starting with this abuse. Sit by your self and think this one over again. If a man had called him that would he have used his elbow? This is very upsetting!!