Depressed and don't know where to go now

That was really bad news to get right before Christmas. It must make you feel very insecure having kids to support and no income. This sounds very similar to a situation that happened here in Iowa. Is that where you are from? If so, let me know and maybe I can offer some suggestions. What kind of skills did your husband develop in the Marine Corps? Has he thought about checking with the recruiting office to see if there are any opportunities for ex-military people?

Change your Focus, Focus on YOU and the Positive in Life - www.work2dream.com

Im sorry you are having problems and are depresssed. But try to be happy just remember you still have your life and your family. Be thankful for what you have in your life. Hope this helps.

I'm so sorry. There is no good time for this but especially not right at Christmas. If you're looking into herbal remedies ,st. john's wort is pretty good. Also get plenty of exercise and try meditation. Watch your diet too. Try to stay away from sugar. You are in my prayers.

Sorry, I don't have any advice but I'm here if you need someone to talk to.

plz don't feel sorry for urself..count ur blessings and hope for better future. this trend of mass layoff is here to stay so its better for ur family that ur husband goes to school and gets trained on hig-tech or high skilled job like computers or health care. manufacturing job will slowly move out of america. i also suggest that u should also get training on skilled areas so that u can go back to work. don't rely on the old economy industry.

Yes, this happened to my husband. He took advantage of the opportunity of going to school which they offered to pay for. He went and changed his whole career and is much happier for it because he is doing something that he truly enjoys. They usually pay for starting up a small business, as well. You might think about taking advantage of that also. Try to look on the bright side of it. Many people lose their jobs and are not offered any kind of severance package so you are one of the more fortunate ones that loses their jobs. I know it looks gloomy, but take those lemons and make lemonade. Good Luck to you.

Oh honey, I'm so sorry. I really don't have any suggestions other than try to look at the bright side of things, which I know has to be so hard right now. But you still have him and now you have a lot more time with him to spend with you and the kids, he gets to further his education to get a better job and you have those wonderful babies!!! And you still do have some type of income coming in! It's not so bad. It's going to be hard, but in the long run, it will probably be a whole bunch better! Maybe you could look into relocating, I don't know the whole situation, but it's something to keep in mind. I wish you the best of luck and I will pray for your family and your mother! Keep your head up sweetie, you have to be strong for those babies!

Lots of factories have been closing here too. Maybe you could consider moving to a different place. Above all, try not to immediately spend the severance pay your husband is receiving. A lot of people do that, they get a considerable sum and they blow it away on unnecessary things and are left with nothing. I believe working from home does not help when you are depressed, especially with 3 kids. Try to find a little time to go out, even if it's just for a walk. Good luck!

dont worry about the past... think about your future..

Im so sorry to hear your story but for sure you can be able to overcome your problem. anyway no problem is permanent. I dont know exactly the situation there but maybe you can think of a small business that will not require big capital. for example, if you have a driveway or even if you dont if youre allowed to wash your car on the side streets, you can start a small car wash business in your neighborhood. members of your family can help you out on that. or you can convert your house into a small day care center wherein your neighbors may leave their kids with you as they work during the day and they can pick them up when they get home for a fee of course. small business but it will definitely help. also try to cut some of your expenses until such time that you are able to recover financially. Hope these suggestions would be able to help you.

You just probably have a pessimistic attitude. Everything happens for a reason. For now you might not know what God's reasons are but eventually you will and you will say to yourself. Glad those things happened, it was a blessing in disguise afterall. As for being accustomed to living on that income. I think God wants you to realize that life is not all about having material things. It's all about being thankful about what you still have after what happened. You still have your family with you right? Thank God for that, otherwise how will you be able to survive without them by yourside. Remember the tsunami victims? I'm sure that if they're given a choice between money and their loved ones, they'll choose their loved ones instead. Now cheer up, be happy and show your family your happy you still have them.

bratsquad3, u're condition is really depressing..but there is nothing you can do about it now..the best thing u CAN do is to try working somewhere else..and dont ever let this affect ur family

This is a common occurrence. But you will survive it. Do not let this current trouble stop you and your husband from moving forward. One thing you might have done was when you learned about the plant closing, was to come come up with a survival plan. Figure out what your husband can go to school to learn. You may be able to find a part time job to help out. With 3 kids, that might not be possible. Unless you have some skills, making a lot of money on the Internet right away might not be feasible. Decide right now that you will create some plans to cut your expenses and stabilize your income. Do whatever you can to get past your depression. Believe it or not, you still have a lot going for you. It sounds like you have a wonderful husband and 3 marvelous kids. I want to feel sorry about your situation, but that will not replace your income. One thing I have learned from working the last 35 years is that it is a good idea when times are good to prepare for when they might not be so good. I have been in similar situations but refuse to let them get me down. Try to see an end to this situation and keep a positive outlook.

okay well first of all, yes, My husband and I have been through this twice now, the first time we did not have any children but it threw me for a loop and he got really depressed, but we knew it would be okay, we both were able to pull ourselves out of it without having to go on medicines...and I am predisposed to depression myself, so being able ot work through that was nice and easy....well he took a bit of a pay cut which was unfortunate but I took on a job and we got pregnant, literally 2 montsh after having our baby he got laid off, and worse he was laid off by family members (Long story but want to keep it breif) so now he has lost all faith, his dad said to move home so we moved back from Chicago to Seattle, WA he was so depressed and we were fighting a lot because he could nt get over the fact that his uncles had laid him off (they did not have a good reason other than the fact that it was the family business and they saw him as a threat so they laid him off so that their son-in-laws could take over the business)... Anyway, he went into a major depression and was not looking for work at all, I was beside myself I did not know what to do, we determined that i would not work to stay at home with the kids but I thought I needed to get a job I just did not know what to do with our baby at the time. Well, time went on, he was convinced that he and his dad would open up a place together but that never worked out, we were running out of money and I was really getting frantic, this time I am pregnant again and have not even a 2 year old. well finally I made a change After my second daughter was born and I was tired of seeing my husband IN BED every day doing nothing but feeling sorry for himself, I took it upon myself to start a home based business, I knew it would not be easy but it was the only way I could make a difference and still be at home with our kids. So far I am half way to my Director status, and things are going swimmingly, I am not making the money that my goal is set at yet, but I know that I will get there soon and I am excited by that. My husband did finally get a job and we are moving back to Chicago, so things could not go any better, I think him seeing me start to put things together got him to also realize that he needed to move on too. Things work out in the end, and it will be okay! Just take a deep breath and know that in the end it will work out!

well i guess you have got plenty of advice already..all that i would say is that it is tough time lady, but this is the time to show your vigor and courage..i know it can be quite tiring struggling day in and day out with the hope, the ray of light but trust me it will pay off..it surely will.. keep in mind that every night is followed by a sunrise, a new day and a new start...its just a matter of time honey and you will see everything getting back to place slowly..have patience..

Im sorry to hear this so close to christmas and all but you have to think of your self and your young family needs you .It will be hard for a time but you will get through this . You may have to see your dr and not all medication has side effects you need to go back to your dr and find a medication that does not . Try and start a support group for the mothers of those that are effected if you know a few just start with a few . Just talking to someone else going through the same situation does really help.Im sorry i can`t help you with herbal treatments as i do not know of any but i wish you luck for the future and hope that things work out for the better.

I am sorry that happened. But Be happy, just because you do not have the job, it doesnt mean you have lost everything. Think positive, be positive. Life goes on, you will better opportunities. You will get find your husband having a new job very soon. Focus on your goal, you will get that in your hand. Work from home, start your own business with a little bit of investment. You will grow slowly.

look at the positive side of things, you still have your family, be strong for your kids... and your husband they will get streght from you so try to make ends meet for a while, spend your severance pay wisely and have faith that everything will be ok...

Is not good becouse you are deprees.When you are depress you wan't to cry everytime and you'r always on stress and nervous.You say that you have 3 children's.I imagine that is a verry difficult situation but this children mustn't see that you suffer so for they'r good you must learn to smile, to be happy that all of you are ok- healthy, and that the problem will pass.In the end it will be ok you'll see everything is passing.