help
By jamie11982
@jamie11982 (1658)
United States
December 28, 2006 8:25pm CST
I was wondering if anyone could help me out with this one problem that i have with my 6 year old son. He has this thing that he can't go upstiars to the bathroon or to bed alone. With out anyone else upstiars. He is driving me nuts because i have to either send his brother upstairs with him or i have to go up and stay in the hall way until he is finished and then i can go back down stairs. Now i didn't have any of these problems until my step sister told them that there was this very bad evil gost that was lurking in my upstairs rooms and that they needed to be scared of it. Now that she is gone i have tried to fix this with him and he's to scared to change it. He even does this at his grandmother's house and he gets a lot of attention there so i know that he's not doing it for attention. Does any one have any sugestions on how to try to curb this. He's starting to push his views onto his 5 year old brother and i'm scared that it's going to travel to my daughter after that. I know that there is this fase that kids go throw but i thought that he would have already gotten over it by now. He's olmost 7.
2 responses
@emjehe89 (286)
• Australia
29 Dec 06
i think its obvious what he is scared of, so you either have to convince him that there is nothing there, or if you cant do that perhaps even try and convince him that what ever he is scared of it is unable to harm him..try taking it in small steps, getting him to go to the top of the stairs by himself, and give him lots of praise for being brave and he will eventually get the courage to move about up there by himself..when i was younger something happened one night in my room and i thought i saw a ghost and since then i wouldnt sleep in my room, mum and dad had to put a matress by their bed and i either started sleeping in my room and woke up scared and went and slept in their room or slept in there in the first place, eventually he will start to forget, and realise that there is no reason to be so scared, just give him time
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@jamie11982 (1658)
• United States
29 Dec 06
I've given him about 6 months now and like is said i'm at a lost. I think he's just trying to get his brother to go upstairs with him so that they can mess around. I'm not sure because most times he'll have his brother go up and then after they run right back down stairs. I have to keep the hall light on so that he will go to sleep at night. any more sugestions? I'll talk to hubby about the sleeping on a matrise in our room.
@whoosh88 (242)
• United States
29 Dec 06
have you tried showing him there's nothing there? like going up there by yourself with him maybe at the bottom of the stairs watching? or have a serious talk with him and promise that nothing will harm him.
you could also be serious about it and just say there's no ghosts and he has to get over it. just some suggestions, hope they help.
@jamie11982 (1658)
• United States
29 Dec 06
I have tried every thing that i could think of. I have sat down and told him that there is no gost and my husband has done the same thing. We have tried every thing that we could think of. I just don't know anymore. I've gone upstairs a million times and he's fine with me being up there alone and he just can't go up on his own. It's a little ok durring the day but at night forget it. That's when it becomes a nightmare to me. Thats when he decides that he's going to give me a hard time about going up there. Thanks for the sugestion and i'll try it again.
