I just learned that my BF has another girl..should I break up with him..

I think you should definatley end the relationship if he is cheating. It's not good for you. You should be happy. Also if he is cheating you are taking the chance on getting an STD. Once a cheater alwasy a cheater.

Yes, I understand you may love him an all, if you let him stay no matter if he tells you that he will break if off with her, 9x out of 10, he won't stop seeing either one of you. Your just giving him the ok. ONce a cheat always a cheat. IF you allow he to walk all over you he will. Trust me i've been here in your shoes, its heard, but its worth leaving and begining a life with someone that deserves you.

A cheater is always a cheater. I would leave a man like that and make him realize that I don't need him.

i think you have to slap your bf twice so that he should be wake up....hehehhhehe...

Tough situation you are having right now. I just don't understand why your man done that to you. He has no conscience so to speak. He is going to have a baby soon, why would he do that. He might never change at all. I think you need to give him up. Maybe he is not the right one for you, dear. You deserve someone better than him.

I think you should break-up with him because you already gave him a chance once. The more chances you give, the more he will think that it's ok to cheat because you will always will let him come back you. I know you fear that your baby wont grow up with a father, but think of it this way; if your boyfriend stays in your life, you are going to fight a lot more in the future cause chances are he will cheat on you again. Do you want your child to grow up seeing his/her parents fighting all the time? You think you can hide the arguments from your child, but they always will know when something is wrong. Don't live in a life which you are already uncomfortable with. I think its whats best for your baby's future.

hi there...i feel sorry to hear that...it's difficult to say because I'm not on your shoes. But reading your post i feel that it's so unfair to u. Please, leave some respect for yourself. If he really wants this girl then be it. I would prefer not to have him if he's a cheater. If you are thinking of your child what do you think she will get after knowing that her father is a cheater? do you think she will be happy? Do you think it will not affect her? THink of all those things then decide if you want this man in your life.

Seriously Y E S !,,nobody deserves that kind of nasty,sour and DISHONEST action from their partners. And remember this very clear,,YOU WIN,HE LOST!

Dump him on his butt. Would you rather have your kid come from a "broken familt" or one that has no love because he is cheating on you? Sometimes it is better not to be together then to be together just for a child.

i had similar situation in the past few years with my husband but i'm glad we were able to make our relationship work. he had several gf's before we were married and i was pregnant then with our first child. everytime i have this bad feeling, i start to investigate his whereabouts i even tried to peak on his celphone from time to time.it was hard because he always keeps his cel with him even inside the bathroom but somehow i managed to steal it away for awhile. we had several fights which at most time, i would end up by saying that we need a break. often times he would not say anything, he just laugh or smile at me without leaving explanation. no matter how i push him away or hide from him, i never gave up on me. since then, i said to myself, i will just ignore him. let him do whatever he wants, make him feel he is not important in my life, i don't call him anymore, i just wait till he makes his move on me. but even after all the things ido, he keeps coming back to my house anyway and even strived harder to graduate and find a job. he was so willing to support our baby. another problem came to me when i got pregnant with our 2nd child, we're still unmarried that time. he asked me if i wanted us to get married. at that time, i told him i am not sure if i love him enough to marry him or its just because of the baby which is why he would want to marry me. then i told him further, if he wants to mary me, he has to be sure of himself that he's willing to give up everything including his other gf's for me and our children, no more monkey business, and that he has to be very sure his willing to spend a lifetime with me no matter what. now we're 2 yrs happily married. i am not saying you should do the same as i did. there's no real formula for creating better relationships but one thing i could advice is that if you think he is willing to work out your relationship, if you think you can accept some of him for what he is(accept his flaws), if you think you can live a life with him expecting that there is no perfect relationship and that problems can always come in different degrees but still willing to make things work, i say you should stick to the relationship. if loving him hurts you so much, and especially if he hurts you physically, thats not a good sign. leave him for good if he totally doesn;t love and respect you and keeps doing the same mistakes over and over again. don't hold back just because you have a baby. there are so many people who are products of a broken homes and yet they're successful in their careers and even manage to make a happy home in their married life.

i suggest you talk to him. get him straight in teeling him you read the text messages. see what he's reaction would be. honestly girl, if you think your baby will be much affected as you are from a broken family, think how your child would be affected if your relationship is on the edge and being with him as not a happy one. so better talk to him straight to the point. ask him his plans, what he really thinks, and what you both will decide. it's not only for your baby but also for you. good luck.

Maybe you should give him another chance. For your baby's sake, your child needs a father. However, if he continues to do this, I suggest you should end your relationship with him.

i think you should break up with him.. think about yourself and don't lower your pride for him.. he's not worth it...

You should break up wit him. I was in the same situation almost 3 years ago and what I did was repeatedly forgiven him. Did he change no. I found out too late. He's still womanizing even though we are not together anymore. There are so many other men out there.

what are you doing in that kinda relationship???? why put yourself through the torture? walk out of the relationship immediately and dont look back...as you said this is not the first time that he cheated. you deserve someone much better! end the relationship, move in with your mother, find a new job if necessary and start afresh in 2007. Good Luck!

Why do you keep allowing him to hurt you again and again? I think you should really treat yourself better and live a new life without him. I am sure there are many men out there much more worthy of you than this guy. Take care.

For me you have to let him go, cheating is a big issue. Dont make excuses that for your baby you cant let him go. Sometimes we have to sacrifice for better future. Dont play martyr here, if hes cheating you, he dont deserve your love anymore. Just take good care of your baby and time comes, your life will be better without him.

ummm, let me think, d'uh, do u even have to ask, kick dat slime ball's bottom all the way to his gf house, dump really cold water on his head, get naked( so that he knows what he is gonna miss), and never see him again, simple as dat

There are definitely lots of factors to consider before coming up with a decision. If you have forgiven him the first time he cheated on you, he might have thought that you forgive so easily that's why he'd done it once more. This time you have minor proofs, but you chose to somehow ignore those things thinking that pictures or messages in his cellphone aren't PROOFS at all because your mind dare not to think of them as such.If I were on ur shoes, I will talk to him about it and let him explain his side. You will always know if he's saying the truth or not and If you feel like following the woman's intuition, think again, sometimes it's just simple paranoia placed on a big frame and hanged on the wall allowing you to view it on a daily basis. Don't keep track of his wrongs. Think, think and think. Don't decide when anger had enveloped your whole being. Decide when the negative emotions you have there had vanished completely. Only you could decide for yourself & no one else.