What is the one thing you wish your boyfriend/girlfriend or spouse would change?
@sarahbeth1977 (384)
United States
December 29, 2006 4:10pm CST
As I sit here and write this, I can think of dozens of times that I wished the person I loved would do something differently, but I couldn't come up with the words to tell them and when I tried, they didn't seem to understand. I know you pick your battles a lot of times when there things you like or you don't like...but that's another question for another time.
Is there something you wish your significant other would do differently? Wouldn't do? Have you told them and how did the respond? If not, why have you not told them?
3 responses
@keela_mark (128)
• United States
29 Dec 06
I hate to say this...but I wish my boyfriend did not have any prior children. It's a hard thing to deal with!
...Just being honest
@sarahbeth1977 (384)
• United States
29 Dec 06
There was a guy that was an AWESOME person to me - and I really valued his friendship. He wanted to take it further, but he had a child from a previous relationship where his wife left him to continue her partying lifestyle. I felt horrible, but when it came down to it, I knew that I didn't want someone with other children that weren't our own. I couldn't explain it, and I felt horrible for admitting it, but I knew that I would be unhappy and even resentful if I had to raise the child that wasn't my own.
But I have a completely different view on adoption and foster care. I still can't explain it to this day - but I completely understand. What was the main reason for you? I always wondered if the child would really see me as a mother and mind me if I tried to discipline him...and he was so cute, too! But I just couldn't handle it...
wow, that was a bunch of thoughts all thrown into one, there *grin*.
@eldorvandfarion (73)
• United States
29 Dec 06
If yopuare trying to change your boyfriend girlfiend. It will not work. You can not change people the must change themselves.
@sarahbeth1977 (384)
• United States
29 Dec 06
I completely agree with that statement...but I just want to know what kind of things you would like to change about that person but can't tell them or if you did, how you told them.
@medooley (1873)
• United States
30 Dec 06
The only think that I wish my wife would change is I wish that she would be a little more self confident. She is a very strong woman and can do many wonderful things, but she is unsure of herself. I know she can do it... I just wish that she knew what I know.
I have told her of course, and she wishes the same thing. But I think it is really hard to change who you are.
