financial aid for caregiver

thank you for your suggestions. I have done everything that you have suggested, and keep ruunning into brick walls. Unfortunately, I have found that our wonderful State (CA) has removed so many programs that did assist with these kinds of medical issues, and that trying to get help is all most impossible. We are currently in the process of trying to place my dad in a nursing home; without the State trying to take all of my dad's assets (which by the way are very little, as they are on a fixed income). It has been a nightmare the past 2 weeks, as my dad just does not know what he is doing anymore. My main concern NOW is my mom. I am so afraid she is going to lose it.They are both in their late 70's, and with everything my mom has to deal with, I am so afraid she will have a heart attack or stroke. I live with them, as they both need my help in so many ways. I would not wish theses dieases on anyone....they can break a family up in a heart beat. Again, thank you for your response and your well wishes for my family. God bless you.....

Thank you for your compassion! Since I posted this, I finally found a home for my dad. It is quite expensive, but they take such good care of him, that it is worth it.I know what you mean, regarding residents in care facilaties, not having any visitors, it is so sad. I go visit my dad at least 3-4 times a week. Thank God, he still know who we are; he doesn't talk much, but I know that he can hear me when I talk to him about family news. BLESS YOU for being a caregiver....I've learned that it takes a very special person to provide that kind of care. I've also learned that Canada takes care of their elderly....too bad the U.S. doesn't do the same. My dad is holding a lot of anger inside of him; I feel that he is pointing all of this anger towards my mom. It is tearing her apart (which is understandable) any suggestions?

Honestly, he is probably having all of this anger because of the frustration that he is feeling. If he is at the stage still where he knows who you are, then he is probably aware of what is happening to him, and this can be both scary and frustrating. He probably feels that he is losing his independence since he was put in a care home, and most likely losing his privacy. Both of these things can be contributing factors to his anger. He may be directing it towards your mother because he feels that she is the one that put him in this place, and maybe he is wondering why cant he be at home? Most of my residents that are confused, but still with it a little bit, often ask, "why am I here? Why cant I go home?" Hopefully after some time, your dad will adjust. This is the hardest transition one can take in their lives, but as long as you and your mother continue to visit and support him, it will make it 100 times easier on him!! Good Luck and take care!!

thank you for your support. At times like this, it is a blessing to hear kind words, especially from a stranger. Have a blessed day.....:)