What would you do if someone gave you a gift that you believed was stolen?

United States
December 30, 2006 11:07am CST
I think that my family received a few gifts that were stolen by the person who gave them to us. I really don't know what to do. Do we give the gifts back? Do we confront the gift-giver? Do we donate them to charity?
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@medooley (1873)
• United States
30 Dec 06
First off, I am sure that ever gift that I gave your family was paid for, so I know it is not me that you are referring to. Second, why do you believe that they were stolen? Did you see on the news that the items in question were taken from the local Wal-Mart? Third, I think that it is important to know for sure if the items were stolen or not. Just because that you believe that they were stolen is irrelevent. If you get rid of them because you think they were stolen, but the really were not you could offend who ever gave them to you, that is assuming that you do not care if you offend them. If you find out for sure that the items in question are stolen I think that you have to get rid of them. You do not want to teach your children that it is okay to recieve stolen items. My advice... find out if they were stolen or not. If you can not find this out... do what your gut tells you. And I repeat, we paid for all the gifts we gave you... if you need to see the receipts I believe we still have them.
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• United States
30 Dec 06
It was not you who I believe the stolen items to be from!
@brokentia (10389)
• United States
30 Dec 06
I am going to have to agree with medooley. Be sure that the presents are stolen before you do anything with the gifts. You do not want to be asked about the gift at a later date and then learn the person really did pay for that item and was merely trying to make up for past Christmas presents.
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@armywifey (882)
• United States
30 Dec 06
I am not sure what I would do in this situation. I think I would ask the person who gave them about it and see what they say. I don't think I would keep them because you could get in trouble if anyone found out and cahrity wouldn;t be a good idea wither because you wouldn;t want innocent people in pocession of stolen goods. What makes you think they were stolen BTW?
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• United States
30 Dec 06
I cannot be all that specific, but the situation is that they recieved gifts that were meant for someone other then my family. They made a decision to give those gifts to us then who they were really intended for ... the original person will never know that we have them instead of the people they intended them for.
@Force_Fed (745)
• United States
31 Dec 06
Really depends on a lot of things. If it just feels morally wrong for you to keep them, or if you just NEED to know, maybe ask them if they stole the presents. Alot of my reaction would depend on the person's relationship to me. An aquantance gets much less lee-way with me than a close family member. I couldn't tell you what you should, I couldn't tell you what I would do. Tough one, good luck Force
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@brokentia (10389)
• United States
30 Dec 06
I guess that would depend on the gift-giver. Is the gift-giver a minor? If so, I would talk to the parents about it. Then, if possible, I would return the gifts to the store or person they were stolen from. But it is something the minor needs to face and know that there are conseqences. If it is an adult, I don't think that you can confront him or her. It would spark a rift that the person would hold against the family regardless that they are wrong. Why do you think the items are stolen?
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• United States
1 Jan 07
Items received were intended by original buyer for someone else ... they then gave them to an aquaintance of mine who gave them to my family instead of who they were intended for ... Perhaps the word stolen is not appropriate, but I don't know what else it would be??
• Australia
1 Jan 07
A difficult situation. Firstly, do you have sufficient evidence for believing they were stolen? If you are definite about this, I believe you are morally obligated to confront the giver. If you keep stolen goods, you are, by law, guilty of receiving and liable to prosecution. If you only have suspicions, is there some way you can verify or disprove them? Could you ask leading questions of the giver without making accusations? It would be dreadful to accuse or even question someone if they were innocent. (I think it must be medooley. Me thinketh he protesteth too much - JOKE - I know it isn't)
@kmdooley (12)
• United States
1 Jan 07
yeah...I need to know more about this!!! What the hell!!! Hi sticker!!
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• United States
1 Jan 07
Read response to Brokentia!
@mamashane (1140)
• United States
30 Dec 06
Hard to say. It depends on what was given. Are they expensive gifts? If I thought they were stolen then I wouldn't except any gifts from that person in the future. I don't know if talking to that person would do any good either, do you really think they would admit to it? Depends on how close to you this family member is. If it's something that someone can not get in trouble for I would probably donate it.
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