Before Christmas I was going to become a grandmother and now I'm not.

rakinitin, I'm truly sorry for your family's loss. Based on what you wrote, I assume this was her first pregnancy and, I don't want to seem callous or unfeeling, but it is highly common to experience miscarriage with a first conception. I only say this because I'm repeating what was told to my sister by her doctor. She miscarried her first, many years ago, also right near Christmas. She later went on to have a very healthy baby girl. I know you want to "make it all better" for your daughter... we would ALL feel that way too, in the same position. But I don't really believe that you can. You can be there for her and listen when she wants to talk about it... and also be there to just sit beside her in silence when she doesn't. I remember, with my sister, she had to take the time to accept the situation and grieve for what might have been. It took her awhile and she definitely went through what they call the stages of grief. Believe me, she was really angry for a period of time, among other things. I hope you will remember that, even while supporting your daughter, you need to grieve too. You were thrilled beyond belief at her news and the prospect of new life and now you have to take the time to accept that it will happen later than expected. If you feel that more support is needed for either you or your daughter, please don't hesitate to get the help. It will be for the best. Take care of yourselves.

Im so sorry for your loss. Having several M/c myself its a tuff process for anyone to go through. Let you daughter know your there for her and lean on each other. Sending healing vibrations to both you.

So sorry to hear of your daughter's loss, and yours as well. We lost a baby to SIDS and while going through that grieveing process we met a lot of people who were dealing with miscarriages. I know that your pain is real and the loss is real. That was a real life growing inside your daughter, not a fetus. There are no answers that make the pain go away. Just love and encourage each other. You will get through this pain, and then their will be another chance to try again. It is a time to evaluate your faith. On a practical note - do not hesitate to name the little one. God Bless you - as the new year comes in, remember that God brings new hope and new life.

I'm so sorry for your loss. It is a very sad time. It may not be easy to put it over in the right words but the baby may have had a serious problem and this is nature's way of avoiding big problems later on. So maybe a blessing in disguise? Better luck next time.

I haven't gone through anything like this and do not know what I would say to anyone in this situation, but I just wanted to stop by to say that it will take some time. I know that God will help the both of you through this. Blessings and prayers...

doesn't matter ,now you need to console your daughter wright now ,u said that your are an emotional person ,your daughter have lost her kid which is the best boon gifted by god for a mother .now it is only mother how can set her to be normal .that is you.so be cool and be as guiding person to your daughter

I am terribly sorry for your loss..especially at this time of year. I understand your feelings...I would be crushed too. I am looking forward to becoming a grandmother one day. I would just try to think about what your daughter must be going through..and try and be strong for her. She needs you now..more than ever...and I am sure you could comfort her through this time. I am sure she is young and healthy..and can try to have another child...so just try to look forward to that...

I have not gone through this but I am so sorry for your family. Hope she is doing well. Make sure she remembers to take care of herself.

I am so sorry to hear that about your family's misfortune. I know that it is a hard thing to loose a baby. There is not anything that can really be said to help it. All you guys can do is support eachother with the grief that you are going through. I hope that she is able to try again and it work out for her.

Hi there. I am so sorry this happened to you and your daughter. I have never experienced this so I wish I could help you. Be sure to reassure your daughter that this was NOT her fault. She may feel that way. See if there are any support groups out there? :)

my sister had lost a baby almost 3 months into it. my mother understood and told her it was natures way of telling her she wasn't ready and it wasn't the right time. and it was true. the baby loss started issues with her fiance and they seperated for a while, not calling off the wedding until he revealed that he was seeing another woman and she was having his child. so, things did work out. she eventually found another man and now has a wonderful 18mo old boy. things work out for a reason, maybe it wasn't time for her to have a child yet. she will someday. also, its tradition for us to not tell anyone about the pregnancy (other then the father) before the 1st trimester is up. i didn't tell my family until then. its said when you do, it will curse the baby and you might lose it.

A very tragic thing to happen and right after Christmas.Sorry for your lost .I hope next year she can become pregnant again and you will finaly have the grand child you long for .

Sorry about your loss... maybe you can tell your daughter that everything will be alright, and at least she didn't get injured herself.

The only advice that i can give you is to be supportive of eachother and that only time can heal the pain! Keeping in mind that the lord tends to do things for a reason!

oh im sorry how sad and horrible is that,its very sad, tell that you can still be grandma with her children if will be strong to face life again and that maybe her child is an angel that just drop by on your life on the day of christmas and soon a real child will come to your life.

i am so sorry to hear that. i can understand to some extent what she must be going through as when i was 7 weeks pregnant, i also faced the risk of losing my baby..and believe me those two days were the worst days of my life. I felt as if life was being taken out of me slowly. But we passed through that and today i have a hale and hearty daughter. I would like to say that if it possible for you, then try to go and visit her. I am sure just that fact that you are near her and she can hug you will give her lot of help..

Hi....its really very sad of you and your daughter....and i m very sorry for you both...but dont get tensed....its ha[[ens sometimes but you should get tensed and support your daughter also...but its not like that your daughter may not become mother...she can become so control yourself and think positive....... for me it ha not happened as such as i m not married even but be optimistic....and help your daughter to come out of that shock .....good luck....

first of all I am feeling sorry .yes,I've gone through this phase but not like a grand mother like a mother.First I went into depression.I felt very low.Afterwards, I think alot about ,Did I do any fault? Then why I miscarriaged ? My husband and my mother gave me a lot of support to come out it.I read positive thinking ,spiritual ,pregnancy books to gain the knowledge and for the peace and mental strengh.This is a very sensitive occasion . First give her support and courage.And tell her that forget about it( I know it is difficult,but you have to) and next time will take extra care.And also ask her,How it happend? and accordingly give her advise.

Well I have gone through but in a different way. We are married for 7 years now and after not conceiving me and my wife decided to go through ICSI ( teat tube Baby)and in Nov. 2006 my wife conceived twins but a week back she had lots of bleeding and when sonography was done we were told that the heartbeat of one child has stopped but the second is safe. My wife since then took that news with so much tension that I had a very hard time in making her feel that its all gods wish and everything in this world happens as per his wish. What has to happen will happen no matter what may come so please dont tell your daughter that if he has taken the child away it must be for some good reason and if he can take it away he will surely give back again just have faith in him ( By him I refer GOD)

I'm sorry to hear about your loss Rakinitin. my wishes are with your family ....and I do hope the new year brings in new hope to you and your daughter. Good luck.