The wedding is off

Personally, I think that is a very bad idea. You are just inviting trouble in. I understand that you both may need space, and you should each get that. Don't see other people though. If you get cold feet, than it is okay to back off, but you should talk through it together because it will help your relationship get stronger.

I think if you are seeing people "for a while" then you might as well consider this permanent. If you can't work through this lull in spark now, then you have little to build a lifelong relationship on. What will happen when you have a little problem with money? What willhappen if someone flirts with one of you even if it is uninvited? What will happen if one of you develpes a long term illness? Seeing other people is not how you solve issues if you are planning on a traditional marriage. Its good that you both decided to sotp now, before one of those issues popped up and you discovered that "through sickness and in health" was just a fantasy.

I dont really think this will produce the desired effect it will actually make it easier to go apart

Are you the same person who said you had a one night stand and wondering if you should tell your fiance? I believe you are!? Anyway, I think this time apart can give you both a great perspective of what is out there.. and maybe even make you two miss each other even more. That has happened to me. My husband and I broke up and we both missed each other dearly. But we ended up getting married soon after we "reconciled" LOL

how long were you together? Dunno if I could do that. If we had already planned to get married. Dunno if would want him out dating other people

I'm sorry things weren't working out for you. I have to agree with the people above though who said that seeing other people might make things worse. It could make the situation really confusing. You have to do what you think is best though, so it's your decision! Good luck!

I don't know if that is really the way. Maybe push back the wedding and take some time to really evaluate your relationship, but seeing other people can cause a lot of pain down the road. What if you find out that the other person has slept with someone else while you didn't? Even if you still love each other all that much, would you be able to get past it or would it just eat at you all the time?

I would say by all means go out with friends but don't get romantically or sexually involved. You maybe just need to be with other people to find out why you love each other. Also don't stop seeing your fiance.

It might be a good idea since you did cheat on him. Only you know what is in your heart.

Personally I think it wouldn't be a good idea to see others if you are just needing some space. Unless one of you two have already been looking. Sometimes a little time away from each other, like a mini-vacation in a different place than you live will give you time to think things over. If something physical with someone esle happens for either of you, it could just muddy the issue. Maybe you are ready to try to be friends. If so a clean break is best. What works for one couple doesn't work for someone else. Just do a lot of soul searching before you see someone else.

I wonder why women need to have a man in their lives to feel fulfilled. I would take the time to go places with my friends and have fun on my own - to like reconnect with myself as a singular being. Dating is fine as long as you aren't randomly sleeping around with other guys.

I'm sorry it hasn't worked out for you. But maybe seeing other people with help you. It could make you and him realize what you are giving up and end up together anyway. But its better to find out now then down the road and end up in divorce.

If you feel that you need time before making a commitment to marriage, then I definitely agree that this is a good move. Better to take that time, than to step into a marriage, just to have it fail. However, I wouldn't see anyone else. You likely have friends...I would hang out with friends, work on projects, give yourself time to relax, yet dig into your relationship, think about it, analyze it, and figure out whether or not you can live without this person. Dating around while trying to do this will just further complicate things, and potentially cause hurt.

as per me this is a very stupid thought of deciding for your life by lookin at others. love is a thing which is to be felt from inside. you dont have to compare youself with others to check whether you both compliment and love each other. talk to your partner about your feelings n ask her ba her feelings...

Ouch ! that sucks.When ya start seeing othere people that just complicates things.then you most likely can never work it out cuz ya been with someone else.that cloud will aways hang over the relationship.

well, when you do that kind of thing on cold feet, note that both of you would not be going back to each other. And this is something you can't repair.

Well, considering your post when you cheated on your bf, I think it is a good idea that you are getting some space for now. I think that you need to rethink life a bit. You are an intelligent woman and deserve to be with someone that makes you feel good about yourself all the time. Seeing other people will either make you realize that this man is who you want to be with, or it may prove that you prefer to be with the company of another man. Good luck to you sweetie. Huggers to you and your lil girl.

I think being with someoen for a while before getting married is a great thing. That way if you decide its not goingto work out your not getting a divorce. I don't understand why engaged couples want to rush right to getting married. I don't think waiting is just to figuire out your feelings, but to learn about the person you are with.

So sorry to hear that the wedding is off. I guess though, if you have doubts about marriage, this is for the best. It is better for you to find out now rather than later that this isn't what you want. I hope that seeing other people will help you to figure out what is right for you, whether it is marriage to this guy or not. Good luck to youl

I think that, seeing other people for a while is not a good way......mabbe it sometimes works, but not always. If u truly love each other.....go for it....don't wait for anythin' else...... HOPE U HAVE A GR8 RELATIONSHIP IN THE COMIN' FUTURE GOD BLESS U HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!