Home made gifts, good or bad idea?
By Eborsisk
@Eborsisk (195)
United States
December 30, 2006 9:25pm CST
In my almost 3 year relationship with my boyfriend, he has made me 2 gifts. One was for our one year anniversary and one was this Christmas. The first gift was a battle scene made of painted styrofoam and action figures from my favorite movies. I like it but I thought it was kind of weird for an anniversary gift. And it's big and bulky and has no use other than to look cool. The second home made gift was a jewelry holder. It's super neat and very useful cause I have a jewelry making hobbie so I have lots of jewelry.
But, I still think it's kind of strange to get home made gifts. Only because, what if I HATED it? I just feel more obligation to like stuff like that.
What do you think?
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83 responses
@Ambur25 (1006)
• United States
31 Dec 06
I think homemade gifts are awesome! It takes more imagination and courage to make someone a gift rather than go out and buy one. Do you know that while he was working on that he thought of you the whole time? That in itself would make it worth $100000000 to me. =)
@ajstyless (43)
• India
31 Dec 06
Dear you should value the gift your boyfreind has given and dont try to think about its market value. Other thing if you arer really having a problem so just give him 1 or 2 gifts of your choice then he will automatically get an idea what type of gift you want without telling him.
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@Eborsisk (195)
• United States
31 Dec 06
Where are you people getting this stuff from?
I never said anything about price. I don't care about price. And I love the gifts I receieved as I have stated 1000 times in this discussion. I just wanted to know how other people would react to homemade gifts.
Are you people even reading what I am writing?
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
31 Dec 06
Well, a lot of people would be impressed if a guy they were going out with took the time to make them Gifts that they ended up liking. Sounds like this guy pays enough attention to your likes, and knows how to make things you would enjoy. But if it bothers you, maybe you should discuss it with him how you would like a Store bought gift from now on. Just make sure you approach it to where you do not end up hurting his feelings though.
@Eborsisk (195)
• United States
31 Dec 06
I never said it bothered me. I completely loved both things. And I definitely appreciate the fact that he knows alot about me. I just wanted to know how other people would react to homemade gifts. Cause alot of people gave me weird looks when I told them that he has made me gifts.
I think it is fine.
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@abhishekkala2002 (62)
• India
31 Dec 06
i think home made gift is a very good idea rater than buying expensive gifts because gifts r not about money or cost .
@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
31 Dec 06
I think that homemade gifts *can* be a good idea... as long as they are made with the receiver in mind. If you make something because YOU like it or because you know how to make it, I don't think that is an appropriate gift item. But, if you know how to make something that anyone can use (like your jewellry holder, Eborsisk) then I think those homemade gifts are great. It's nice to know that someone took the time to make something special, just for you.
But the battle scene one? That doesn't seem well thought out LOL Sorry... don't mean any offense. I just know that I wouldn't have appreciated such a gift either. Especially for an anniversary which is about love and romance.
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@Eborsisk (195)
• United States
31 Dec 06
Don't get me wrong, I think both gifts were super neat. But, I definitely think the battle scene one is weird. I love it and he did a great job on it. In fact, I didn't realize he was so artistic until then. But, it was not at all what I was expecting. I felt like he made it more for himself. Just as an accomplishment or something.
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@moneymind (10510)
• Philippines
31 Dec 06
well i think home made gifts are the best since they are unique but must also conform to the occassion. when serve in such manner i say they give more value to it since it was done or made by their own hands and devoted their time to it. greetings. : )
@PainfulPleasure (684)
• United States
31 Dec 06
home made gifts or clothes is always a bad idea. best to give money as a gift.
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@Meljep (1666)
• United States
31 Dec 06
For someone to make a home made gift is the ultimate honor. It says that they think enough about you to use their time and talent to make your gift. Anyone can go to the local department store and grab something off the shelf and put it in a bag. Not everyone can make a gift.
@dexter5 (297)
• India
31 Dec 06
home made gifts are definitely better than the manufacterd ones coz they show how much you really love someone and all the trouble to put together to make the gift. if i got one, i wouldn't care whether it is neat or useful or not, i just appreciatee the trouble they took to make it.
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@berlynn1975 (737)
• United States
31 Dec 06
Hi. I think it's nice that he makes things. I also think it's nice to give homemade gifts if they're practical in some way. Like the jewerly holder, that sounds great. Because you make jewelry. The styrofoam thing is interesting, especially since he used figures from your favorite movies. But, you're right, it's cool mainly to look at.
I make homemade hair bows and I do give them as gifts. But, that's to accompany a shirt or outfit I bought as the main gift.
So, my main opinion is: homemade is great if it's something the receipient will be able to use.
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@MzLefty (311)
• United States
31 Dec 06
I think that he is giving you gifts from the heart,gifts that are personal,I think that is sweet,he is trying to make things that he thinks will please you,if you were to say something about it,his feeling would probably be hurt.but you could be in a conversation while others are around and state how special it is when someone buys someone a gift,maybe he will take the hint.
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@onlyme123 (124)
• United States
31 Dec 06
I always like homemade gifts. It's knowing how much time and thought were spent in making it that really overshadow what the gift actually looks like. You can tell if someone really spent time in making something for you, or if someone just slapped something together at the last minute. I think you probably feel the same. The gift itself can be really ugly, but when it's made with love, you can see the love in the gift, and it becomes beautiful.
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@Stiletto (4579)
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31 Dec 06
I think it's nice that he put the time and effort into making you gifts. A lot of guys wouldn't do that. If you have the ability I think homemade gifts are fine but I personally am useless at making stuff so don't do it. Tried to make my own cards once and they looked like a five year old had made them!
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@aryana24ti (309)
• Philippines
31 Dec 06
For me home made gifts are good idea. I would really appreciate it when my boyfriend do that for me. Nowadays very few guys can do that effort. Its not the cost its the effort he put in giving gifts. You have to be thankful and appreciate what he gave you, and dont expect more from him such expensive gifts or whatever, its the effort that counts.
@5berries (120)
• United States
31 Dec 06
I think the fact that he is putting so much thought into what to do for you is a great indication that he really pays attention to you and what you like. Even if it does feel a bit odd, look at the underlying message. You don't find a whole lot of guys that pay close attention to what you like and they get a generic gift like roses(not that roses are a bad thing).
If it's the thought that counts, he should be getting major points.
@shijjukhan (207)
• India
31 Dec 06
Hi...i think you should admire his creativity because he has struggled for you and your gifts.......its hows his interest in you...he has given his lot of time to you ,to make gifts for you...son you should admire him and dont think him bad,you just see the way he had did for you....so dont feel bad.....
ya it s a bit weird to think about home made gifts...but he wants top do it for you by him only thats the reason he prepared for you home made gifts so dont worry and be happy.....
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@cutieissa (413)
• Philippines
31 Dec 06
if i have the time, i always give homemade gifts to my family and friends. that way the gifts are personalised and is truly a gift of love. i know its weird to receive an anniversary gift such as yours but think of it that your boyfriend is sooo into you and knows your favorites, and gave much time in making the gift (while thinking of you all thru-out! wow!)
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@the_player (66)
• India
31 Dec 06
well if its home made or not ...it does'nt matter ...!!
the important point which ur missing is that ur boy friend has taken out some time n put in some efforts to make something for u ....!!
it just shows that he cares about u ....or y else would he put in so much efforts ....!!
i mean just going to a shop and buying some gift is not that of a big deal ....it hardly takes some time ....!!
rather than the home made thing u should try to appreciate the sentiments behind it ....!!
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