you and me against the world.............

They say parents wants their children to have good future and all they think is all for good. Yes it is right indeed but as a parents also they havent reconsider that they also experience it during their childhood. I think parents are just to guide and advice their kids not to manuever or take over their decision in life. Sometimes their are parents who is like that. If they guide their children or advising, the child understand and learn how to manage themselves. Its really depend on the person itself, if the person let the relationship ruin their study then thats really bad. But i think the person itself know his responsibility and their rights. Maybe your mother just dont like the guy. Its very tough but if your responsible enough to manage the situation in a right manner then its ok, time will come your mother will accept it. Prove to her you wont ruin your study and both of you have a good future inspite of their disapproval. Your responsible for your own action. Just dont break the trust. Its not only you having that kind experience. There's many of you out there.

Ever watched the movie The Notebook. The girl falls in love with a boy that her parents didn't approve of. They did everything in there heart to keep them apart. If you seen the movie, you know who she married in the end. Well in your situation there isn't another guy, but close to it. Just follow your heart. I knew a lot of bartenders that made a lot of money. They lived in better apartments than the one I lived in. Be honest with your mom. Talk to her. Explain to her that no matter what she says or do. That it won't stop how you feel towards this guy. 4 years isn't bad. My parents are 4 years apart. They will be married 37 years come next July. My husband and I are 6 years apart. That isn't a issue. Now also put yourself in your mom's shoes. She want's you to go as far as you possibly can in life. Every parent wants there child to do a lot better than we did at that age. She see's a guy working as a bartender, having no future. You should take her to the restaurant one night that he's working, so she can see him working. Bartenders makes a lot of money on tips a lone. At least they do here. You have to show her that this guy is worth keeping. Have him go to your house with a dozen of your mom's favorite flowers, candy, etc. LOL, this just dawned on me, Could your mom be jealous of him taking you away from her. Are you a only child. If so, just explain to her that you will always be her baby girl. That no man will ever take you away from her. Good Luck with this. Give bf a hug and a kiss, 6 years is a long time together.

Well it sounds like you have done well ...You are doing well in school and you both are working and trying to have a life together. I think that there must be something there to keep you together...and you are obviously old enough to make up your own life....If your mother can't understand that by now..then that is her problem. If your boyfriend treats you right and is good to you...then I don't see her problem? I think you should just love each other and keep up with your studies...and if your mom can't accept the two of you..then that is her problem...

yes ur mom really have more concern to u .

Your mun is been a concerned parent.She knows more about what goes on in the World.She wants to protect you and bring you up the best possible way.I see you as a very lucky girl to have such a caring mum.

Yes, your mom is being reasonable. In fact, some might even say that she's being responsible! She's been around a while, and if nothing else, look at it this way: Your mom loves you and wants the best for you, even if her version of what is best is different than yours. But here's the deal: It's your life, and you have to make your own decisions. Or even your own mistakes. If you love him this much, then I say you should stick it out. You are old enough to know what is best for you, and if this is the guy for you, then good for you! Mike

I think you should get your priorities in life right. I think you should concenterate in your studies and it is good that you are doing it. Finish your nursing and get a good job and become self dependent, self reliant and things will automatically fall into place. And ask your boyfriend to learn new skills s o that he better job, better salary and ensure that both of you especially your boyfriend have a good friend circle, healthy lifestyle so that you both can lead a good life. then your mother when she sees in future that you have a nice job, nice life, and your hubby is all doing well in personal and professional life she will come around as mothers love their children and want the best for them. so don't worry be happy.

Happy aniversary. I am also going to get married to my lover she is also a sweet girl more than you. I love her much.she is the world for me.

My huisband and I have been together since I was 17. My parents didn't approve of him either and we have had out trial also. We have now been married for 20 years now and I am a nurse and he is a builder. So we have done pretty good for ourselves. If you think it is right, go with your heart and if you make a mistake, you and your mum can deal with it then. Good luck to you. (and good luck in the nursing studies)

i agree with u.

always do what you think and be yourself. The rest is not enough only you and your love

hey honey your moms sure concerned about you,she has seen the world more than you have ok..she has seen all kinds of peo;e and knows how to deal with each of them..not saying that she s always correct but all she wants is that you stand on your feet... once you are on your own you can make your own decisions.ok sweetie,take care.

My first relationship was close to this “you and me against the world”. We were too young and still in high school. My parents would really want me to focus on my studies first and people are noticing that we do and go wherever together most of the time. They’re afraid that I get pregnant and ruined my future. We stayed together for a year and a half. And within that period of time, my father never spoke with my boyfriend though he nods every time my ex-boyfriend greets him. My mother was okay but always telling me to slow it down. It was hard but we ended it and became friends after and I guess people would never remember us both except for those close friends we both had. Well he’s married now and I’m still single. Hehehe..

I just don't understand why your mother acted that way towards your boyfriend. After all those years that you had proven to her that your studies is still your priority. She wont relent on. Maybe she is hiding something about the hatred she felt for your boyfriend. It's for you to find out.

I think you should get your priorities in life right. I think you should concenterate in your studies and it is good that you are doing it. Finish your nursing and get a good job and become self dependent, self reliant and things will automatically fall into place. And ask your boyfriend to learn new skills s o that he better job, better salary and ensure that both of you especially your boyfriend have a good friend circle, healthy lifestyle so that you both can lead a good life. then your mother when she sees in future that you have a nice job, nice life, and your hubby is all doing well in personal and professional life she will come around as mothers love their children and want the best for them. so don't worry be happy.

You have to prove to her that your relationship is not affecting your studies.Tell her that you love her and your doing best to finish college,pass the board exams and someday go abroad.Is that what your mom likes you to do? Then you have to please her.You have still to honor her firsthand because your mom. Let your boyfriend visit your mom to assure that he has sincerity in your relationship.

prove to your mom that the guy is worthy of you. maybe she is just protecting you for any heartaches later on. don't be disappointed with your mom's reaction, its natural for every mother. good luck to you. i hope your mom will also love your guy later on..

What ur mom has done to u is due to the love she ve towards u.She dont want to u to give u to the hands of a person who is uneducated.She wants u to get married to a rich person.So we cannot say that she is wrong.But if u think u r right in ur decision try to talk to ur mom & try to pacify her.If u r confident that u can live independently that u can rebel against ur mother & marry ur love, ALL THE BEST FOR UR FUTURE

talk to ur mom and clear things with her ...

thatz really sad! i think u must be strong wid ur relationship if u completely trust ur guy....whatever happens...whoever opposses...