Mother In Laws!

Perhaps there are great cultural differences between east and west, in Asian countries may not have such a thing happen. my understanding of the Western culture is still very capable of. In Asian countries, we should love their own mothers, irrespective of whether she is right or wrong.

Oh shirbump LOL I can relate! My current mother in law doesn't live near me but she's a great lady. She is NOT judgemental at all and never interferes in her adult children's lives unless they ask for her opinions or advice. So, that's cool. Now! My EX mother in law... holey moley. Before we even got married, she decided to take her son along as her "date" for a wedding. She and her husband never really got along so they didn't do social things together. She told my then-boyfriend that it would be great if he went to the wedding because there was going to be a girl there who was a successful model and maybe he'd get a chance to meet her! SHE SAID THIS RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME! I was mortified. She also used to flirt with all of her sons' friends and we just found that to be really embarrassing. After we got married, she sort of calmed down and wasn't difficult (but then, she also wasn't around much). However, since we've been divorced, she's become quite unfair at times. She has sent a few letters directly to my younger child, telling her how she never writes to her and never calls her, asking her when her school photos will be coming out and to make sure she gets one, etc. (but she doesn't do this with the older child). One morning, she and her boyfriend (who don't live in our town) drove by my kids' bus stop, yelling at them from the car window. The kids didn't know who they were at first and were actually somewhat frightened. The thing is -- I DO take care of things. She gets the kids' school pics every single year, even though my ex tells me that I'm not obligated to send them to her. She gets thank you notes from the children. What she doesn't know is that her son almost never calls his own kids, except for their birthdays and Christmas. When they spoke to him this Christmas, there had been no phone call for two months prior to that (last time there was a birthday). I guess I feel like I'm always going to be the "bad guy" with her... no matter what I do!