Why do you think so many people don't take responsibility for their own children

A lot of parents that i know always want the hard parts of parenting done for them, because they never ever want to look like "the bad guy".It's hard to explain to them that they bought the whole package.Friends have done it to me,asked me to be the discipline factor,even parents in retail stores I have worked in expect you reprimand their kids for them.It's ridiculous.

What ever happened to parnets not making their kids mind in public......It's not they don't take responsiblity, it's they don't correct them to where they think their children can do know wrong........My Mom always told me a child needed a pat on the back........And sometimes they need it a little farther down........I raised three pretty good kids by myself and they are raising theirs the same way they were raised and I've got nine good grandchildren.........

I primarily say that they themselves don't feel that they have got some more responsibilities which had to be fulfilled compulsorily, this is because they were brought up improperly. They think of their own desires like making money, parties,....

it's a very sad fact that many parents are like this. i lived in this place for 2 years wherein my next door neighbors are people who shout at each other everyday and every other word they say is a swear word. There had two children, one was 3 and one was four, and they can barely talk but they can curse other people very well. They're always running around with no underwear or something and they always seem to want to destroy everything they see. They would sometimes gang over our poor cat and when my then-boyfriend scolded them, the mother went on raving about mistreating her children. I feel pity for these kids who simply got into a very bad environment.

I've seen it so many times. Parents who throw their kids out onto the streets from morning till night because they don't want their houses messed up. And then if someone goes to complain about the child's behaviour they'll be all on the defensive and tell them there's no way that their little angel could have done anything wrong. I'd love if parents were fined for their children's actions.....up to a certain age.

I think one of the main reasons there are a lot of failure parents now is because we live in a world of convenience... and people have become lazy. It's much easier to let your kids run around a restaurant--all the while bothering people--than it is to teach them that there is a time and a place for running around.... and at a restaurant is NOT it. What gets me is that parents give their kids whatever they want as long as they whine for it... not only does it teach them to gripe and moan when they want something, it also teaches them that IF and WHEN they gripe and moan they WILL get what they want. Thus, a whiney society is created. PARENTS: DON'T BE LAZY, BE A RESPONSIBLE PERSON FOR YOUR CHILDREN.

There are way too many parents today who don't want to take care of the children they chose to have. Being a good parent is the most difficult job in the world. And once you take on the job, you're always a parent, and the welfare of your children is always in your mind. Some people on here complain about their parents not letting them do what they want. I think those people should get down on their knees and give thanks that they have parents who care. I'm a teacher, and I've seen far too many hungry, neglected, and abused children.

I have to admit that being a parent when I see or hear 1 of my kids doing somethingthey are not saposed to it makes me think that I need to change my parenting or that is something I have not covered as a parent and need to. I agree with you that it is anoying that some parents do blame others for there kids wrong doing. They dont realise that they are to blame and if they do realise it they dont want to accept it.

This is a very interesting and important question you have brought up. Yes, there are some cases where parents shed all their shortcomings on their kids, trying to sound too resonant and well-wishers of their kids not disclosing their own inefficiency and lack of attention or training because kids can't contradict them for a while unless they are clever enough to know their parents' faults. But I know many cases where parents are mostly right and this has got to do with the modern psyche of upcoming generations. The world is advancing towards its end and at the end very few persistently good things would prevail.

It is so much easier to blame others or other situations instead of owning up to your own down falls. People do not want to take responciblity for anything anymore. They want to think everything is just fine. I have a parent of 2 kids that I take care of that refuses to believe tht his kids needs disapline and routine. They don't listen at all to any directions and are always exhasted. Their dad just laughs.

I dunno. I think that some parents have kids without thinking. Raising kids is very hard and something you can't get into lightly. Some parents are naturally irresponsible and careless anyway and shouldn't have children. I once had a lady who worked at my gym who had a boy and a girl. The boy would escort the younger girl to the bathroom. But, he would also crawl under the changing areas to look at the women changing. Once, I had a towel me as I was using the mirror and he opened the door wide open. I complained to the mom and she got all defensive saying "well, you don't expect her (the little girl) to use the bathroom by herself!" I also complained to other gym staff, but nothing was done. Needless to say I don't go to that gym any more. My advice to this mom is that if you can't escort the child to the bathroom yourself, the DON'T BRING HER!

This type of behaviour just makes me mad. I couldn't count the number of times that I have come across unruly parents, not to mention the children. My husband recently chastised a child for kicking ball outside our front garden. The ball was constantly coming into the garden and twice it hit the windows. I don't know how many times it bounced into our cars. The child just jumped the garden, trampling on flowers and plants in order to retrieve his ball, and when I told him to stay out of my garden, he told me it was not illegal to come into my garden. I have left out the four letter words which he used. My husband approached the child's father and his reply was, "He is only fourteen and feels intimidated by adults", to which my husband replied, "He is a very bad mannered child who is taught no respect for other people or their property". The father went off with his tail between his legs. Later that night, my front door was kicked, and when we went to investigate, we saw the same child running off with a couple of his friends. That was it. My husband went after them, while I phoned the gardai. I got a very quick response from the gardai, and within minutes they were at my door. The garda tore strips off the young offenders, and also paid a visit to their parents. He then called back to our house and assured me that I would have no more bother from these young thugs. He also told me that if anymore of them bothered me, I was to give him a call. That was a couple of months back, and so far so good. If the parents are not prepared to take responsibiltiy for the actions of their little darling, then somebody else will have to do it for them.

i m partially agree with u my frn... but some children also responsible for their act...and they cheat their parents..

Hy,maybe because nowadays parents don't spare time for raising their own children,the kids are being spoilled and they don't behave well.

If these people do not want to take care of their children and raise them properly, they should not have had kids to begin with. It is the parents responsibility to raise their kids right and teach them the rights and wrongs in life. We need to let our kids know that we love them and we want them to do the right things and not the wrong things. The child's own parents should raise them and not anyone else.

I think usually, euorpeon do n't like to take responsibilities of their children and send them to baby care centres and on other places. I think that its a wrong tend to give ur babies to servants or to anyone else bcuz number 1: If urs baby'll live with anyone else than u then in youth, he/she'll feel attraction towards that person instead of Parents. number 2: There is a lot of difference in a master and a servant so if urs babies is brought up by a servant then his/her mentle level'll be very low and he/she'll n't do too much progress in life and also would behave properly with all persons of his/her sorroundings.

yes i saw this many times.

Yes, there are certainly people who come to mind when I read this. Some people are just ignorant when it comes to child-rearing and need a helping hand, others are not only ignorant, but arrogant as well, and don't believe they need help. I hope I never fall into the last category, Ignorance can be helped, but arrogance doesn't ask for help.

I think so many people dont take responsibility for their children is because they dont want all of the expenses that is going to be involve with the care of the child. Some feel that way because they didnt intend to have a child at that time.Either way my opinion is that that's it's wrong.

they feel kids r not that imortant than thier work and they cant ear through kids this is the main and major cause of such issues