How do you discipline your children
By rice5899
@rice5899 (193)
United States
December 31, 2006 10:22pm CST
I have two boys and we have tried the time outs, for our oldest it does not work on him at all, so we have now resorted to taking something away that he really enjoys if he is acting up. That seems to be working a little bit.
My youngest, gets the time outs, but he doenst quite get it fully just yet
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@vdini96 (14)
• United States
24 Jan 07
We are having a problem in know what to do with this as well. We only have one, and he is only 1 1/2.... too young I think to understand time outs, and alot of the gentle disciplinary methods I have read about.
He is very very stubborn, and very smart. He was like this even as an infant...you could not distract him from something with a new toy or anything once he had wanted something.
We have tried just telling him no, and removing him from situation. We tried smacking his hand when he refused to not listen and telling him no still. We have been lightly spanking him on his bottom sometimes and, we feel we are running out of options here sometimes.
I would love input on how you dealt with your toddlers... I actually started a thread about this a while back but nobody replied - not even one. :(
He has a lot of freedom, and we are very lenient I believe. However he has to learn limits, and he has to understand not to reach up and grab the skillet on the stove!! (Just one example of the importance of getting NO into his head!)
@Kaldonya (277)
• United States
25 Jan 07
It depends upon which child of mine I am disciplining and what the offense is. I use time-outs, spanking, taking things away, removal from the situation, grounding, denial of activites (or computer time), but also rewards. I've found out that with my oldest (who has low self-esteem) that if we continue to take things away, it becomes a downward spiral, and soon he acts as if, why even bother. So rewards work better for him.
@lifeis2good (1183)
• United States
2 Jan 07
I have 2 boys also - regarding our oldest - we take away things like his computer time, video game time as well as any of the other extras that he can do - so he usually ends up reading a book on his bed - which definitely works for us!!!! As for our youngest - well I agree that time-outs aren't working anymore so we usually have sit-down time and explain to him what he did wrong and how he can change it. But then we also will cut his tv & video game time too!!! And that seems to take care of the problem. Hope that you are able to find a solution that works for you - sometimes it just takes time & effort & patience!!!
@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
24 Jan 07
My daughter is 10-- Usually she is pretty good but sometimes her attitude gets the best of her and ME!
So we start off by me saying -- You need to listen to yourself and think about how you are talking to me... Sometimes she stops-- most of the time.. You're not fair.. so then its up to her room. I say it once with that look.. And she goes- That usually works too.
If she is just being bad and it continues I resort to no cell phone, no tv, and bed early! I think it has been once ever! Usually I tell her to make the right choice and life would be so much easier- Its heck being a kid!
@monica1216 (509)
• United States
24 Jan 07
I use rewards and timeouts mostly. What I know would be MORE effective though would be to schedule our day such that they don't get into trouble and by that I mean feed them on time, take them outside to exercise enough, get them to bed routinely at the same time every night, etc. Then once that's all going smoothly what works BEST is if you simply REWARD the good behavior and try as best as you can to ignore the bad behavior unless it's dangerous behavior. I really strongly believe that training kids and dogs is the same and theat's how you are supposed to train dogs! ha ha.
