Having people issues, need advice.

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Here is the situation... ~Say there is a "situation" and you are a major part of it (only because others are trying to start stuff, and they want you in the hot-seat). Now someone whom you rarely speak to, but who knows the other parties all of a sudden asks you a direct question about something related to the situation, but not at all expressing "knowing" of the situation (phishing). (Say they send you an email or off-line message, nothing extremely personal.) And you of course know that they know, or they wouldn't have asked what they did when they did and/or when they did when they did... do you A)play dumb, act like you have never received the message. B) Call them on it. C) ignore the whole situation (at least where they are concerned, until the other situation is resolved) or D) Other, you explain. ~I am at a point in my life where I am not allowing people to get to me, take advantage of me, or make me feel bad about my decisions (they're mine/my life). I have tried to politely resolve the situation without blaming or pointing fingers or playing their he-said/she-said games. Of course this isn't working and won't with people who have no care but that of their own, and follow through until the deed is done/or they get bored. I have tried to write a letter (an actual letter not email) expressing all the issues in a nice way, and received a call stating that I had missed an issue, when in-fact, I had covered it, since it is a more than one time problem I addressed it as the "issue" itself (which is listening to what others said someone said, and then starting a disagreement over it, accusing the person, without ever asking the person if that is what they said). The he-said/she-said that never gets clarified and is only used to harbor anger and annoyance. ~So I have a second letter (again, an actual letter) re-addressing that this was covered previously, and touches on a bit of compromise. Now I don't know whether to send it, or just keep it for my own peace of mind (even though the added compromise important, but not sure if I even care about that anymore) ~Please help on either/both of these issues. I need a little more enlightenment. Thank you.