Your parents abused you as a child should you care for them in old age?

@WebMann (4731)
Canada
January 1, 2007 3:36pm CST
How far does forgive and forget go?
2 responses
@babray06 (1787)
• India
2 Jan 07
Fortunately for me, I had a decent childhood. Other than bad memories in parts and pieces, overall I had a childhood to remember and cherish. As I have never faced any parental abuse during my childhood I may not be in a position to understand the sentiments of those who have faced that. But if we think deeply and want to know about our duties, I still feel we should not return what we have been handed over. We should look after our parents. If they have done a wrong thing by not doing what was their prime duty, we should not return the same when we become adult. I feel if not directly may be indirectly, we should give them support. I believe after all everyone is answerable to the Lord.
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@WebMann (4731)
• Canada
2 Jan 07
I am really happy for people that had a memoriable childhood. I think it makes them much better at raising their own children. I do however get a bit upset when I hear people complain about growing up but they received only love. I wanna kick right in the behind. Instead of talking negative about their past they should express how much love they received growing. So when I put it like that I guess my son wins. I grew up in a bad childhood but because of that I made sure I treated my son the right way so he has a chance at a normal life without a lot of baggage. Plus I don't think he would want to grow up waiting to care for me as an old man just for revenge. :) Hopefully he grows up and tells his kids what he had and not what he didn't get.
• United States
1 Jan 07
If my dad was growing old i wouldn't take care of him id leave my sister to that because she actually likes him..........
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@WebMann (4731)
• Canada
1 Jan 07
Growing up I often thought I would like to take care of him. If you know what I mean. Ha. I didn't have the greatest childhood and I know I am not alone at that one. I have tried to put myself in his shoes to see if I could understand why someone can smack kids but never could but I guess that's not such a bad thing. I have a 21 year old son now, the old man and 'the old lady' have been gone for a long time but I have never raised a hand to my son, ever and he's turning out to be a pretty good man. A cycle of abuse has ended and a new cycle has begun. Always look to the future. And hope for big things.