How long does your marriage last?

I have been married for over 40 years. When I got married I new it would be forever and the person I married feels the same way. We have had our problems, but we always worked our way through it. It never is 50 50. Sometimes it is 90 10 or 10 90. I think today people don't believe the vows because they can always get a divorce. If you don't believe it will work, it won't. But most of all you must trust. If you have trust, you have love.

I personally believe the kind of love you need in amarriage is the kind of love that says I'll stand by you always - Love is a decision not a feeling...you decide to love the person anyway....its a sober thing to get into marriage because the way God ordained it its for keeps. Even if people plit up I want to believe that if they are BOTH dtermined to make it work they will.

The Bear and I have been married for a long time. He's my best friend, my shoulder to cry on, my business partner, my life partner, my caregiver when I need it......and more. I'm all that to him too. Call it true love, soulmates, whatever. We just know that neither of us wants it any other way. You DO WHAT NEEDS DOING. And it's the most natural thing to consider each other's needs and feelings in everything and stay tuned in.

Mutual respect and love for once, to accept your partner for what he is without trying to change him/her is another big help. Accept that there are two indivviduals with their own ideas try to merge and that there wiull be not always happy days . Don't expect it to be a happily ever after without you and your spouse having to put some ffort into it ... Stop watering a plant and she will die, stop giving you car gas and oil and it will break down etc..A marriage needs nuturing A marriage is work and the work should be shared 50/50 ideally but there will be times where one is carrying 70% and the other person just 30 ..

We have been married almost 12 years. We have a good marriage, but it isn't always easy. I think people expect to get married and just live happily ever after. Marriage is WORK! Some things that work for us. -Women make your husband feel appreciated. -Men make your wife feel cherished. -You can only change your attitude. You will never change your spouse. -Choose to focus on the good -When there is a problem try to discuss it calmly. Don't forget to listen! -When calm goes out the window - Quickly apologize for any hastily spoken words. -Have fun together!

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In India marriages do not break like other countries. Family bondage is so good, people hang on to each other and they just cannot live with separation. So my marriage needless to say is everlasting.

I personally think marraige will last forever if the couple is willing to put 50/50 in everything. Plus you have to be truthful and not comparing. A lot of effort should go into a good marriage and each one should not take the other one for granted. These are my personal views guys.

Both people just have to want to be in that marriage enough for it to have to work, it cannot be based on feelings of only one person.

Truthfully I think there are too many people follow their "FEELINGS", instead of their minds.. So, I don't think most people know what vows are, in most relationships, there is one that tries to "HOLD ON TO WHAT LITTLE THEY HAVE", while the other is wanting to throw it all away!! Every SAD, Why has so much Hate over come us all?? Selfshiness?? Lust?? Betrayal?? Where did our self worth go??

I definitely could use some advice on this topic! My husband and I separated 2 1/2 months ago and are trying to work things out and get back together again..but how can we make it last this time?