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She is competing for your attention and she is jealous...but the good news is...that is perfectly normal behavior. Up until now she has been the one and only..she has not had to share you at all. Two year olds have not yet reached the age of reason and sharing is not a skill..it's more you have it and I don't kind of thing. The best you can do is to 1)Spend some special time with her..say this is mommy and your time together. 2) Include her in helping out with the baby..let her know she is older and can do things the baby cannot...and she is bigger so she can help...but in a way that is fun for her and not a slave... These don't work with all children..but they do adjust eventually...the begin to see the perks of being the older child.... If nothing else ...when my sister brought her son home from the hospital..my four year old neice showed her displeasure by giving him a black eye... No matter how your daughter is feeling...it could be worse...at least I hope that didn't happen...lol

Jealousy typically refers to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that occur when a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival. The word jealousy stems from the French jalousie, formed from jaloux (jealous), and further from Low Latin zelosus (full of zeal), and from the Greek word for "ardour, zeal" (with a root connoting "to boil, ferment"; or "yeast"). Jealousy is a familiar experience in human relationships. It has been reported in every culture and in many forms where researchers have looked. [1] [2] [3] It has been observed in infants as young as 5-6 months old and in adults over 65 years old. [4] [5] [6] [7] It has been an enduring topic of interest for scientists, artists, and theologians. Psychologists have proposed several models of the processes underlying jealousy and have identified individual differences that influence the expression of jealousy. Sociologists have demonstrated that cultural beliefs and values play an important role in determining what triggers jealousy and what constitutes socially acceptable expressions of jealousy. Biologists have identified factors that may unconsciously influence the expression of jealousy. Artists have explored the theme of jealousy in photographs, paintings, movies, songs, plays, poems, and books. Theologians have offered religious views of jealousy based on the scriptures of their respective faiths. Despite its familiarity, however, people define jealousy in different ways. Some even mislabel it as being protective of something or someone, when the fact is, it's really simply possessive jealousy itself; and many feel they don't possess effective strategies for coping with this form of jealousy. [8]

My son is 3 and when I brought my baby home he made a TON of messes. I had to put locks on all the pantry doors and put everything up. I think he wanted attention becuase there was someone new getting it all.

This is not advice. It's my experience, strength and hope. I've been there. I had five in six years. Your daughter is competing for your attention and rightfully so. She was the only one you doted on and that's all she knew. Now your main focus is probably on the two month old. Give the eldest some special attention that doesn't include the baby. Have her help you with caring for the baby. She could hold the bottle with your supervision. Get a sitter for the baby and take her shopping for a toy for her and one for the little one. Maybe an outfit too. Her picking for both. Give her the special time she so rightfully needs and deserves. This will have a ripple effect on how she treats her sibling.