A love affair

I believe that if you love her than marry her. Your parent's will change their minds once they have seen how happy she makes you, and you give them grandchildren. This is what every parent wants for their child. Happiness

okay, i am just a teen but i think you should think basic to solve this problem. Make both sets of parents sit in the same room and tackle both of them at the same time. Pro(s)- Yours can't hit, yell, or go obscenely mad infront of the other. This way they are "forced" to keeping their cool and thinking. It could work you know?

the only good thing about marriage is when you marry the person you really love and the person you know you will be happy to be with the rest of your life. someone you're willing to grow old with. someone who can make your days brighter. your parents might not understand you right now. but you should fight for your love. i think it's worth it! it's gonna be hard for you both since both your parents are against the relationship. but one day, they will understand and will accept reality that true love can't be torn apart. prove to them that you are willing to fight for your girlfriend and that tell them that you value your parents much and you love them. loving your girlfriend does not mean you love your parents less. make them feel they are still important in your life! go for it!

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really i was shocked by seeing your discussion because i faced the same last year.when u love,u should marry and its all ur responsibility to make both of ur parents agree to it.if u leave her i can surely say that ur love is not true.because true love never fails.what ever may happen u should and must face them to get together.u know i too faced many like my mom hit me kicked me any many even though i faced all those i struck to only one word that i should marry the one whom i love.now we both r going to marry this year with both of r parents blessings.we too have many chances of going out but we didnt because we r very confident that we make r parents agree.and any parents want utheir child to b happy so u make it very clear that u will b happy only when u marry that girl.b bold and stick only one word that ull should get together.all the best if any more doubts u can ask me i will give u ideas.all the best friend

I do belive that love will conquer all, and that if you do go through with it your parents will come around if they love you. I do not know about this whole arranged marriage stuff since itis not done in my country but at the same time even if it was i do not think i would agree. When I marry someone it will be out of love, nothing else!

don't marry a gal sm one u love, marry a gal who loves you. in ur case both of you love each other. so if u guts to marry her with out the permission of ur parents, then wht r u waiting for.... do it now..... if u can't do anything with out their permission, then set up a conference with both parties and discuss abt this.... i know true love never fails. u will get her... cheers

Hi Dear...... Well u seems to be eastern, so I wana ask u that what is financial/social status of you and ur girlfriend? Are you both economically independent? If Yes! than you can go ahead and marry, still u will face a problem but not much! If Not, try to get econmical independence and alo rise your social status so you can marry in future. These condition will less ur future problems!

i will help you in solving that problem machi

For me, the ONLY REASON to get married is LOVE. Marriage is for two people willing to love and be with each other for the rest of their lives. It would really be hard to live with someone you do not love. How would you teach your children to love if you, yourself do not even love their mother. Love is the foundation of life.

In such situations it is important to have patience.First of all you have to look into the objections raised by the girl's dad.If they are logical and rational then you should try to overcome such objections but if they are illogical then there is no point wasting time in convincing him.I think you two are old enough to get married on your own and take care of yourselves.This might come as a shock to your parents but i think ultimately it is both of you who would suffer if you two don't get married.It's time to be a man !

love the blind word ,no one knows when he or she is in love . so is the case with u.i tell u one incident happen to me.i was gone for interview and interviewer ask me so many questions and one was really funny that ,do u have girlfriend to whom u love? mine answer was yes.then ask me ok . now the real question he ask that blow my mind.. suppose u had gone for late night movie along with ur sister and ur girlfriend(to whom u love) and movie finishes bit late at 2 o'clock in the night ,and there was no auto and any convinence to come home then u all think to go by foot to ur home which is nearly 2 km,when u all cover 1km, suddenly 4 gundas having pistols come infront of u,and said leave one of them ,now u cant do any thing ,if u will fight they will kill u and took both of them ,so better to save one of them.now to whom will u leave? i think for sometime and then said i will leave my girlfriend ,then he(interviewer) ask me why not ur sister. then i tell him if something wrong going to happen with my sister ,no one is there to marry her .but if something wrong going to happen with my girlfriend ,iam there to marry her.again he ask me if ur girlfriend oppose then what will u do? i say i know she loves me.and if love is ture u can sacrifice what ever u have for ur partner.after all u have to live with her through out ur life. i tell u this thing so that u get strength and go ahead to get ur love as a lifepartner.

If you love someone you truely must go with your instincts...You got up enough guts to tell this person that you want to spend the rest of your life with her, now you need to work up enough guts to make your parents understand as well. When doing this you can still be very respectful to your parents...I know how important they can be...You don't want to lose your parents, but you also don't want to lose the love of your life. Maybe you can try to explain to your parents that you and your fiances relationship is like an arranged marriage... Since you grew up with her, you had to learn to tolerate and respect her as a person...same as you would if you were in an arraged marriage...Try to get your parents to see it from that point of view. Hopefully this helps you alittle bit. Tara

Look at it this way. If you love someone you should be with them. You should marry her because you do not want to be with someone for the rest of your life that you do not love. You have finally found someone in your life who you love and who loves you. If you marry someone else who you do not love you will be misrable for the rest of your life. Remember sometimes it is best to think about yourself and how you feel than others, even if it is your parents. Your parents are not the ones who have to live with the one you do not love who they want you to be with. It is you who has to deal with it everyday knowing inside your heart that you are with the wrong person.

I know in india this problem has existed and more so recently as we believe in the family system. And family out of love and concern beleive that it is their right to choose suitable partners for their children. I know it is tough situation as you love both your parents and also love your girlfriend. I think you need to get your priorities in life right. You need to balanced personal and professional life. One needs to be independent, strong ( mentally and emotionally) to take bold decisions in life. I think you and your girlfriend should continue to love each other, if you both truely love each other. because true love is hhard to find. I think you need to prove by actions and deeds to your girlfriends father that how much you love her. And that you both are meant to be together. besides you can try to take help of elders in both families then to convince her dad of your worth. But if everything fails, then you should seriously consider marrying even without her dad's disapproval. i think one's there are kids in your life he will feel differently.

I know in india this problem has existed and more so recently as we believe in the family system. And family out of love and concern beleive that it is their right to choose suitable partners for their children. I know it is tough situation as you love both your parents and also love your girlfriend. I think you need to get your priorities in life right. You need to balanced personal and professional life. One needs to be independent, strong ( mentally and emotionally) to take bold decisions in life. I think you and your girlfriend should continue to love each other, if you both truely love each other. because true love is hhard to find. I think you need to prove by actions and deeds to your girlfriends father that how much you love her. And that you both are meant to be together. besides you can try to take help of elders in both families then to convince her dad of your worth. But if everything fails, then you should seriously consider marrying even without her dad's disapproval. i think one's there are kids in your life he will feel differently.

I see that it's important for your parents acceptance. But my advice is to go ahead and get married if you really love her. I believe that they will have to accept it eventually.

If you love the girl then go ahead and get married. It is not your family or her family will live together forever it is you and the girl. But if you are a man of patience then court the girls father. Only you can decide when it is enough or not.

Try explaining this to ur father , by making him feel if at this juncture ur mother is no more with u ppl how is he going to get over it . Tell him as he has found a reliable and loving partner in her, u also have found the same into ur love and wud ur father like to keep u at loss by not letting u marry ur love this wud be very much same as ur mother is not allowed to be with ur father. Tell him that father its ur decision that will prevail no matter how much u love the girl , but do tell him that its ur son which is at loss at the end of it not somebody's else son ....it's his son loss.And let him take decision , he wud in all probability side with u , and if he doesnt then have the ball to get the girl out of ur mind for the sake of the man who has fathered u and without him u wudnt have any chance of marrying the girl...rather any girl. Be brave and authentic. Good Luck

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