How close are you with your family

My sisters and I were not that close when we were growing up. One of my sisters is 3 years younger than me and all we did was fight. Then my youngest sister is 7 years younger than I. We didn't have much in common because of the age difference. But now that we are all adults, we are best friends.

My family used to be extremely close. I have a lot of bitterness though towards my mother and even though it consumes so much time and energy to feel that way I can't help it. Everytime I am around her or on the phone with her I feel so tense. It's such a long story, but anyway, my father was never really there but I am now 30 and hang out with my Dad alot. I do not have kids but I am sure you will do just fine. My dad came from a very cold family. His dad was not there and his mom treated him like crap and never encouraged him or told him that she loved him. Once he and my mother married he found a love he never had within my mom and her family. He has more love in his heart than anyone I know. You recognize that you want your family to be much closer and by doing that you will make that difference! good for you and good luck with the family!

I'm not very close to my family,there's hardly any contact & nobody seems to care anymore so i just carry on in the normal way,so it does'nt really bother me!anyway i've got my dog & meet other people,it does not mean end of the world!you have to get on with it!!!

We are pretty close including the cousins and other relatives. We know whats going on in each other's life. We always keep in touch and we have family gathering every year for the new generations to get to know each other's aunt's and uncles and other cousins too. We try to keep it that way. It's fun!

I have learned there is a time and season for everything, and those times and seasons are different for each of us and the relationships we have throughout our lives. My family was never close throughout my childhood and teens years, going long periods of time with no contact. I didn't start my relationship with my Mom until my later 30's. You are going to be a great mom with your 2 boys because you are aware of your desire to see your family grow together. As for you brothers who are younger then you, just keep a door open for them invite them over find a broad common ground like hiking, or video games, if you just start including them the relationships will follow, let them know you and your family are part of theirs too. Keep your expectations reasonable and start slow with Dad and stepmom, you may be surprised to find they might be wondering the same thing -- how can we be closer! And I venture to say that your Dad is more then likely aware of the "errors" he made with you. Growing older and wiser always gives us new perspectives-on old ones. Best wishes.

Always try to be good in your family by offering gifts to your step mother,her siblings and your father. Keep them in high esteem. be friendly with your family. It may still take some time to get close but as days pass you will be closer and closer to everyone. And be more a friend to your children , understand their feelings and problems. Always dedicate more time with your children and see to it that they are happy with you and always like to be with you.

Well let's see - my father passed away when I was 7 and my mother has never remarried - she gave up on men after dealing with my dad!!!! And I have an older brother & a younger brother. I was never close to anyone - as I am totally different from anyone in our family!! My older brother was the one who got all the attention most of the time until my younger brother was born and he then became my mother's whole world - as he's 5 years younger than I am. I always felt so out of place in my family!!! My mother & I are on much better terms these days since time has gone by and I am now an adult. But she's also a counselor so there are many times where the conversation takes a dramatic turnaround like she's trying to do her job on me which I don't take lightly. And I am with you on the fact that my hubby is really the only person that I can talk to about anything in life!!! So sad to think you have become an adult and yet have no real friends. Trust has always been such an issue with me!!

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I am very close with my mom and my brother. I get along with my dad but I'm really not that close to him and the reason for that is because he was a truck driver (and still is) and he was gone all the time and we didn't get to see him much and when he was home he was usually sleeping.

i am very close to my mother but i am not very with others members of my family.there is huge gap us.

i have never been close to my family.actually, i am close to my husband only. it is strange but i have so much bad experience and anger that in past i chose to stay aloof from everyone. now i do want to make friends and get close to my family, but don't know where to start.througout my life i have had only one real friend and now even she has left me. in ur case, u should try to have that bond with ur sons and encourage them to be close to each other. i have realized that it is important.

I live far from my family, but I have it it my mind and my heart. I don't understand well every members, but I always try to look for a reason to sympathize and forgive all. I love all and never care if they love me. That's the way I'm close to my family, even it's close to me or not.

my family and I are very close, I often ask myself what I will do without my mom and dad, and I hope that my children feel as close to me as I feel to my parents

Invite them to your house for dinner, go shopping with them, call them at least once a week to catch up. You have to try to make a closer bond with your family because if you don't you will never really know them!! Good luck!!

I am very close with my family. There are things I won't talk to my mom about but those are more private. I have a lot of fun being around my family and we talk about a lot of different things. Though sometimes I feel uncomfortable because I have different interests then pretty much everyone in my family so when I talk about Shakespeare I know they are uncomfortable.

I am really very close to the family and I am very much worried about them

I am not close to my family, I am working oversea from last 7 years, one time I am able to go back.I have 2 brothers and seven sisters, mostly I talked with them by yahoo messanger.

My mom is the only one in my family I talk to, no one else is really woth the time.

Growing up I was rather close to my little sister, who I pretty much raised. I fought alot with my two little brothers, hated my mother most the time. I was and still am very close to my father, he is the greatest and I always felt very comfortable talking to him and knew he was there for me. Now that I am an "adult", I am very close to my two brothers, sister and my father. I really hope my mother would just die and rot in hell, but what can you do?

Both of my parents are deceased now. I would give anything to be able to talk with them about my current life. So many kids take the parents for grated. You are an adult now and you said you have kids now of your own. You want to be able to communicate with them and they with you. This is all good but you need to have that communication with your own parents to be able to grow within your self. Start that conversation off real small and build as you go. Don't try to get everything out on the table in one visit, because that will only cause more issues. Go to the your siblings with smiles and hugs. Let me know how it turns out.