Child marriage- Is that what my parents want? Please help!
By naughtysexy
@naughtysexy (110)
India
January 2, 2007 11:56am CST
I am only 17 years old, but i am soon going to be 18, and my parents speak of marriage every single day! I had an exam today, and my paper didn't go well, so my father told me that if i don't do well then he will forcefully get me married this year! Last year they were also going to make me meet some boy, and my father told me that he is going to be my future life partner! It is highly irritating and first when my parents started talking about it, I thought that they were joking, but now I have realised that they are not! I have a boyfriend and we know each other since four years and are in a very serious relationship, my parents are not aware of this, and i think that if they come to know then they will surely get me married to someone else very soon! I told this to my friends and they just laughed it off! But I can't just bare it! I can't understand, how can my parents think of marriage? It is way to early and I will never marry the person they choose, as I love someone else! Everyday all topics come and end in marriage, and it has become their favourite topic now days! They hardly speak anything else except this! I don't want to ruin my life and I am really going mad! Please help, this is a very serious problem!
6 responses
@Skyeblue83 (60)
• Australia
4 Jan 07
You have 3 choices.
1.- learn to stick up for yourself to your parents.
(talk to them about this, and tell them how you feel,
if they dont want to listen to you, tell them that it is driving a wedge between you and your parents...and if they are happy to loose you, then tell them to keep going.
2.- your with this fella you love?
have you'se ever talked about moving out together.?
or do you have any friends that have moved out on their own...?
3.- get a job, move out and get your own place, choose your own life!
I dont believe that moving out is the answer...
I would, but thats me...i left home at 15..anyway...
I really think you should tell your parents how you feel..
If you want to decide your own future, you better let them know now!! otherwise before you know it, you'll be walking up that isle to man you dont even know!!
Good luck...God Bless my girl!
@malaekat2an (526)
• Indonesia
21 Jan 07
you have to try extremely hard to convince your parents about your happiness. Do everything you can to enroll them about your point of view, your feelings, your situations, and conditions. Do that everyday, resist it every single day.
Parents are still parents no matter how hard they're on their child, basicly they loves their child. So use that 'love' things to your parents, use all of your creativity so your parents could understand and let you choose your loved one.
@Scarcher (14)
• Indonesia
12 Nov 07
Serious response:
I'm not a wise man. Hell, I'm not even experienced in these kinda things even though I'm a lot older than you. But I am agree with above opinions which basically stating something like "If you truly love him fight for it no matter what." Be ready for challenges. Be ready to fall. Fight with your best. GBU.
Not so serious response:
Please marry me.
@cr1st1nel (3564)
• Romania
4 Jan 07
I am sorry for you sincerely, you are passing a hard tie of your life. I don't know how can i help you because it is just not fair what your parents are trying to do to you. They want to marry with somebody against your will i can't understand this... you should talk to the authorities.. Good luck!
@xiongqh (791)
• Hong Kong
4 Jan 07
Don't too hurry to do this.
Marrage is serious things need to think over and over, you are younger enough, and have a good life in future, don;t hurry to do that.
maybe your parent want seek someone to care you, you should have a communicate with your parent, told them what is your meaning. Don;t mind that will make your parent angry, learn to say "No".
@debbie4824 (118)
• United States
11 Jan 07
Is this type of thing 'normal' in your country? I'm not familiar with your culture I'm afraid :(
However, no matter what is considered normal or typical, if you are truly in love with someone else, is it someone you feel your parents would not approve of? If you feel that they would approve of him, maybe you could find a way for them to meet him, not as your boyfriend, you never know, maybe they'll end up trying to fix you up with him?
@thakurpiyush1 (55)
•
12 Nov 07
i think the only one who can help you in this regard id you yourself only. Its you,who have to talk to your parents and yes they will ignore this or will get annoyed initially .its difficult and ya speaking or giving advice is quite easy but this is the only way around. You have to discover ways yourself how to talk to your parents and tell them everything.Tell them slowly and stepwise,not everything in one instance.now ill stop giving you this lecture,i might sound like a 50 yr old uncle.. Hope this will work for you..byeeee
