My sister has a PERFECT life..

Im so sorry your sister acts that way to you. I have a sister who is very jealous of me, for many reasons. One My mom and dad didnt get a divorce (we have the same dad, different moms). Her marriage is in divorce proceedings right now, and is hateful to me about my new relationship with my boyfriend of almost a year, & Many more, the list can go on.....I also have a friend that since her son was born, her life is PERFECT, and everyone elses is CRAP! and if your life isn't like hers, then you are nothing, you are roadkill.

I'm sorry to hear that your relationship with your sister isn't so great at the moment. It sounds to me like she is jealous and feeling tied down. Perhaps she's jealous of you and your husband because you don't have a child yet and you are free to come and go as you please. She has a new baby, which is a LOT of work no matter how good the baby is, and she works from the home so she isn't out and socializing with other adults. As others have said, she might be suffering from post-partum depression (I had it and, as much as some folks think it doesn't exist, it really does). The worst thing I experienced when I was in the middle of the depression was to have people say to me, "What on earth do YOU have to be depressed about? You have a beautiful baby, a gorgeous husband and a lovely home. " PPD is hormonal... it has nothing to do with outside circumstances. I think if she is critical, upset or putting you down, it's not because she doesn't love you, doesn't like your husband or anything of the sort... it really sounds to me like her emotions are out of control and she probably needs a break. Maybe if she and her husband could get a sitter and get some "adult time" alone or, as a larger decision, if she decided to get a part-time job outside the home a couple of days a week or got into an activity that would get her out a little bit, she might start to get back on an even keel. Sometimes, as much as you love your baby, you begin to resent that you don't have as much of a life of your own as you once did. Your sister sees other people going about their lives, doing things that maybe she'd like to do, and I'm thinking she feels a little trapped in her surroundings. I know she's probably hard to be around if she's so angry and unhappy all the time but I hope you can bear with her long enough to help her get what she needs to set things right. If getting some help or time away doesn't improve anything, encourage her to speak to her doctor and see about getting either someone to talk to or some meds for PPD (or both). Keep on loving her, no matter how rotten she may seem right now... she may really need you.

You should ask her. Maybe she doens't realize she is doing that. I bet she just wants what is best for you even though what she thinks is best may not be what you want. If you are happy tell her so. She SHOULD satisfied with that.

If she is so unhappy maybe there is a reason, maybe the perception you have is wrong, could her husband be controlling or maybe worse and she just doesn't want anyone to know?

Mmm, if I had to guess she is secretly in love with your husband. I mean what else could it be... right?I think that the most important thing to do, instead of coming here and having us guess why your sister does the things that she does is to talk to you sister. Let her know how it makes you feel when she does the things that upset you. You will get much better answers from her than you will from us. :) Good luck, I hope that you and your sister work it out.

Have you ever asked her why she is like that to you? Try to get some answers from her. I hope you can find out somehow. Good Luck.

She must see things in your life she envies. Everyone may think her husband is a good guy, but is he when he's home with his family? How old is the baby? Maybe she still has some post-partum depression. Or maybe she just has depression in general? Maybe she sees a relationship between you and your husband that she isn't seeing in her own marriage. Why don't you ask her?

she is jealous. I dont know why but people who are reject that way are mostly very jealous. Maybe she isnt happy in the way she is living or having problems with her marriage.

well im sorry if my reply has u upset but wat it seems 2 me is jealousy...clean jealousy in mentality...ive seen it wid people n unfortunately it cannot be helped....

Most people who have everything in life are not truely satified. If possible I would tell your sister everything that happens in your life. Keep her quessing. Its not good to be around negative people. best of luck to you

nice to know...all the best.

i think she feels insecure

That is so sad, maybe you should ask her about it and see if there is a problem that you may not know about (thinks are not always as they seem)?? Or she could just be tired of being a new mom - babies are alot of work!! Or maybe she just doesn't like your husband?? You should talk to her and ask her what is going on with her being so mean and rude to you and your husband??

I believe that you don't need to inconvenience whith her sister's critics. She has an envy of her family and she has envy of her husband and your married happy life.

The best part is ignore her dont attend common functions and dont invite them to your place. Just forget she exists.

If she is unhappy putting you down might be a way for her to show it. She might need help. even if u do belive that she has the perfect life, she might still not think so and there might be more to it than whats on the outside - trust me - I know! try talking to her...

I think she has some ego and somewhat saddistic. Don't interfere with her. Otherwise she may have bad immotions and reactions. Such persons are not broad in their toughts and don't care for others' feelings. Thanks.

From the outside, it may appears she has a perfect life, but deep down she is not happy. You might want to sit down and discuss her behavior to see what is buggin her.

some people tends to be negative in thinking and critical of everybody else sometime its natural and sometime its because of some trauma that they have to go through, they just do not understand the power of positive thoughts and the happiness of keeping our near and dear happy. I am very sorry to hear that about your sister

to be perfectly honest she shouldnt be unhappy if she has enough money to raise the child and family and is getting more from her husband then i have no ideo y she is unhappy. the whole perpose of like if to make a family she has done that and is suporting them in every way i think the only reason y she is unhappy is because she may have rushed into the whole relationship nd family