friend or Foe

Someone who steals from you and never says that they are sorry. They feel justified. This has happened to me. The 10 year friendship I had with this ended abruptly.

what makes me give up a friend? when they hurt me over and over and over and over after i've forgiven them seven times seventy times :)

I am a little picky I guess. I try to be a very dependable, helpful, loyal person and I guess I expect the same from others. I don't immeadiatly write people off, but I don't have time for a bunch of crazy drama in my life either.

For me it generally takes a lot. Over the years and as behaviors mount up my fondness for someone can fluctuate based on the way they treat me and the things to do and say behind the scenes I am exposed to. I guess I could list some things but I am sure you can come up with many of them on your own. Just the same... betrayal, ignoring, disrespect, selfishness or how about just being downright mean. Those activities will make it more difficult to like my acquaintances. On the other side of the coin you have... Warm, friendly, kind, generous, loving, helpful, supportive and how about sensitive. I could go on and on for both sides of what makes someone a good friend or a foe. Of course Jesus say to love our enemies. Might go against nature but we are asked to strive for that to better ourselves.

i dont really have any enemy around as i find that it's hard to hate someone, it can turned me into someone so bitter of life. i will only stop being friend with those that always lie and take advantage of me...which is very few...only one so far :D

I as yourself it takes alot and I have had some whom I have forgiven only to have them do the same thing over and over again. I have a high tolerance for people most of the time this isn't the case I get along with most folks.

I generally try not to get mad because it is really useless I think if you are good enough friends later on you will see the funny part of it and forget all about it.Staying mad or even getting mad hurts you more then it does your friend because you will be missing out on the fun things you did together.So I suggest that you just take a time out think about it and then make your decision.

It takes alot for me too.Thats my problem I put up with way too much crap from my friend. Then something inside me snaps and dont wont them around me any longer I can forgive but I dont forget. If a friend lies to me its all over for them and me.

Well I would say severe betrayal, using mean, or just being mean or hateful. I had this happen with a friend who would constantly put me down. Finally I just said "forget it". Being around her wasn't worth the way I felt for days after that.

It is the trust. If that is gone then everything is over for me.

It depends on what they did. Sometimes I'll stay mad at someone over the stupidest things, other times it takes a lot. I think it also depends on the friendship. If we weren't very close in the first place, their is an even less chance I will forgive them.

If the person used to be a good friend of mine and i get to know that he/she does back talking about me, tries to make fun with me or never respect my feelings then I hate that person like anything.

Yeah, to me it also takes a lot because I don't really enjoy being pissed I like for too long. Normally I might not talk to the person for a few days but then I end up giving in and accepting their apologies.

I have had some friendship end in the past, usually by their choice, not mine. I actually don't think I have ever been the one to end a friendship. Usually we just drift apart. At the end of highschool, however, best friend of all four years, just kind of cast me to the side. I was SO hurt, bitter for a little while, but hurt for a long time. I could not believe the way she treated me after we had been through so much. Well, we started talking again a couple of years ago, we aren't best friends or anything, but I have made it very clear that should she ever need anything I would still be there for her.

I can not truthfully answer that, as I have never gotten angry enough to end a friendship. It must take alot I guess?

It takes alot for me to drop a friend, and i've only had to do it once. For me it took over 8 years of being used, talked about, uggg. I finally seen what was really going on and that this person was not a real friend and cut off all ties

It really takes a lot for me to get so mad at someone that I don't want to be friends with them anymore. I can't really name specifics because I don't really know. I just know that it takes a lot for me to get mad at someone.

I am more of a laid back person and it takes a lot for me to end a beautiful friendship...when people are talking bad about you behind your back and you forgive them time and time again then I would say that if you were any kind of friend at all you would come and tell me to my face what was bothering you Now I am babysitting for my sons girlfriend who is goin to have to find her another babysitter if she dose not stop the crap she is telling about me

It would depend on what the offense was. If someone makes a move on my husband they had better NEVER darken my doorstop again! If they attack a family member, same applies. I would rather people go after me than my family. If you are talking about a simple misunderstanding, that I will tryo to resolve.

It really takes alot to get me angry. And to lose a friend would have to be something very serious, in fact the only person I got that angry with was over soomething and adult did to a child (my son or other children). Both of these people acted very selfishly and hurt children in the process. Hurting a child is never acceptable. One time a wrestler in the I think it was WWF screamed at my son and another boy for no reason. I went and gave her a piece of my mind. The father of the other boy said that the wrestler scared him and he was shocked at my going up to her. SHe had a spider web tattooed on her face. A while later she came up to me to apologize for what she had done. I told her she was apologizing to the wrong person. There were 2 little boys (age 6 or 7) who she owed the apology too. They would not go near her. My son hated wrestling after the incident. Moral of story - don't mess with a kid who has a mom.